Anveshi Jain Instagram – Humans are masters of self-deception. We fool ourselves into believing things that are false and we refuse to believe things that are true. I was new in mumbai , few friends i found here were in phantasm of themselves. one of them use to lie about being occupied in work and meetings even when he is purely doing nothing, soon i realised he is lying to himself much more than to everyone else. that’s when I really started delving into the topic of self-deception. And it rocked my world. I saw it everywhere, in everyone. We lie to ourselves about the smallest details, such as how much we really ate today, and why we didn’t list our actual height and weight on our driver’s license. We lie to reflect our aspirational goals: “I’ll only have one glass of wine tonight,” – when I know I’m drinking at least three. We lie to uphold social ideals “I never have sexual thoughts with anyone except my spouse,” because that wouldn’t be acceptable. We lie about our most important life choices, such as why we married who we did, or chose our given career path. Unfortunately, for all the romantics out there, LOVE is rarely the full motivation for those choices. Nowhere was self-deception more obvious than in my romantic relationships. I was terrified of being left. My fear of abandonment led me to act in ways that are still hard for me to admit -anxiously awaiting a phone call,asking repeatedly if he loved me.At the time, I couldn’t have told you any of that,because I wouldn’t have been able to admit it to myself.At the core, we lie to ourselves because we don’t have enough psychological strength to admit the truth and deal with the consequences that will follow.That said, understanding our self-deception is the most effective way to live a fulfilling life.For when we admit who we really are,we have the opportunity to change. How do we start acknowledging the lies we tell ourselves? How do we start becoming more honest liars?The first step is self-awareness – we become observers of ourselves. When you have a strong emotional reaction to something, pause. When what you say doesn’t match how you act, pause. Read full article at anveshi25.blogspot.in #blogspot#newpost #selfdeception