Shalita Grant

Shalita Grant Instagram – These agreements saved my life.✨
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In 2016 my therapist suggested I read The Four Agreements. At the time, I was in a job that was destructive physically and emotionally. I believed that my pain was all due to my current situation but I discovered that I was making my life harder based on my beliefs or agreements.
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I believed that being “good” and being “a team player” would result in respect and appreciation. I believed keeping my head down and not asking for things made me low maintenance and more desirable to be around. I took everything personally and I was constantly seeking validation through people pleasing and constantly working. However, my behavior didn’t give me the results I thought it would.
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Enter the pain.
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Not only did my actions not result in more respect and appreciation, it led to my physical and emotional deterioration. I spent countless nights going over the disrespect trying to figure out how I got there. Why my friendships felt so empty. Why being alone gave me some solace and tons of self-flagellation from opening hurt locker after hurt locker; trying to figure out what went wrong. Judging every mistake I’ve ever made.
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I’ve been practicing these agreements for years and little by slowly, I felt more and more relief. Saying ‘no’ to things that I didn’t want but would previously had said yes to out of fear. Fear of not being accepted, fear of others response, fear of not being pleasing to every person 100% of the time.
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I excavated my past and the beliefs I picked up from surviving my childhood. The things I did to get love. I went over my personal agreements, and let them go. One by painful one.
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Every year, I always work toward experiencing more freedom and love. It’s a practice, daily, moment to moment. I don’t know what you resolved to do in 2021, but I hope you find more space and peace this year. And if you don’t know how to do that, these agreements are a fabulous start.
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What are some of your resolutions this year? How was your New Year? What’s on your mind?
. | Posted on 05/Jan/2021 03:26:16