Shalita Grant

Shalita Grant Instagram – Ever since I can remember, I believed any love or goodwill I would receive had to be earned. I constantly over worked in my relationships and friendships – to a toxic degree.
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This belief, that I needed to earn love, was why I attracted so many unavailable people. People who reflected back to me my baseline unworthiness, that I wasn’t loveable or hard to be around.
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I became aware of my part in my unhappy relationships and changed my mind. Instead of doing things for others in hopes that they will love me in return I started asking for what I want and need in my relationships and allowing people to decide if they can and want to meet those needs. Before I felt like a scared little girl who couldn’t make the most simple asks; now I feel like a loving and loveable woman who has needs and is worthy of them being met.
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I grew up with this message that it is selfish to put myself first or to ask to have my needs met. In my adulthood, I’ve chosen new messages. 😘
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