Lena Dunham Instagram – Here’s a little checklist I made for myself when I was at a real low with love, sex and friendship. I didn’t trust myself and my inner voice sounded more like some drunk girl I wanted to ignore at a party… I wrote these questions down and asked them to myself often and… gradually, but sort of miraculously, things changed. I hope this comes in handy for anyone who may need it- now, or down the road ❤️ Are you… …Reaching out because you genuinely want to share something funny or beautiful? Or because you want to get some kind of assurance, validation or response that eases the uncertainty of being vulnerable? …Agreeing because you *truly* agree or because you want to create a portrait of someone easy to know, a mirror without smudges, a creature impossible not to love because, well, they aren’t really there? …Having sex out of true desire or to quiet the voice that says your body isn’t desirable, the feeling you haven’t been properly seen and heard that day, or the reality that the world is too noisy and you want the drug of infatuation/lust/passionate connection in your system? …Moving at the speed of reality or at the speed of fantasy? …Seeing the person who is actually in front of you or the person you conjure when you’re going to sleep at night and need a pleasant diversion? …Hearing what they’re saying when they tell you what they’re about and what they’re capable of? Or nodding absently as your ears ring with your own version of the story? …Being honest about your own boundaries, limits, deepest desires, needs that must be met, dreams that must be fulfilled (even on a micro level!) in order to keep moving forward? Or are you saying “what, me have needs? Never!” …Prizing your own journey and recognizing that any result is the correct one as long as it’s the result of you sharing your truth with love and care? IF YOU CAN ANSWER ALL OF THESE QUESTIONS WITH CONFIDENCE THEN GO OFF YOUR MAJESTY! 👑