Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram – I can’t deny biology right? I’m a boy or girl and that’s it. It’s ALL on the birth certificate. While I understand the desire to homogenize who I am by who has existed before me and the possible basic adjacent characteristics I may have to others from flesh to mind- to call me simply “She” or “He” feels akin to lazily saying one sees “a color of the rainbow”. In reality there are over 18 Decillion colors to perceive. (It’s true look it up). It’s not accurate enough for me to be called “she” or “he”. It’s not fair enough. It’s not true enough.
When one talks about me as a person and says “SHE did this”- what does “SHE” even do to the conversation? Why SHE? What accuracy is provided to me by the term “SHE”? When so many have been called “SHE” before? A vision begins to pain in the recipients head, a slew of expectation from all the other “SHE”s they’ve ever met. How I could be, what I could be wearing, why I could be doing what I’m doing, what I may do next. All based on what other “she’s” have done. Not based on what what I have done as I. Frankly, it’s seemingly a lot of extra work for everyone. And the recipient has to unwind what they know about “she” to add me to their expectations.
I flinch at the sexpectations and expectations, obstacles, laws and looks that are based around the sound of a “gender”/“sex”. I refuse to participate.
When it comes to others using “he” or “she” I will always respect the language and identity of an individual that they have for themselves. Many have fought, suffered, survived & sacrificed for the right to be respected in these sounds. I don’t see my way of existing/identifying as superior to anyone else’s. It’s just what works for me personally and it’s what feels right.
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If someone can’t use the language I use for myself, I’ve let go of trying to control that. I do not need verbal validation for my truth to exist. However, should one call me She or He and treat me to a lesser standard on the basis of sexpectation affiliated to those sounds- I WILL challenge them with all the power of my being.
Am I safe with You? (Will answer as many comments as possible!)
#genderqueer #lgbtq #memesdaily #iami 📸 @colesprouse | Posted on 19/Jan/2022 00:22:50
