Shungudzo

Shungudzo Instagram – I have always believed that something missing from many feminists’ agendas is the desire to love and nurture boys so that they grow into men who don’t hurt women. And to love and nurture men from the inside out. To help those who are struggling realize there is more to them — more to life — than seeking power. To seek power is to constantly feel powerless, because no person can control everyone and everything around them. Some of us are really out here playing our governments’ video games — harming, exhausting and alienating ourselves and others on the system’s behalf, thinking it’s what “strong” people do. I hurt for anyone hurting, and it hurts me to see so many men living in pain, and then projecting that pain onto others. I have no space in my life for sexism, mysoginy and violence, but I do have space in my heart for any person who is trying not to be a product of a sexist, mysoginistic and violent ecosystem. I have just as much space for those who have always been good as I do for those who have learned, or are learning, to be good. In truth, we are all born, and all relearning, to be good. We are all born soft, and are still soft beneath the hard shells we form in response to our surroundings. Softness, to me, is the greatest form of maturity, strength and fearlessness that a person can possess. Softness is where love, fulfillment, creativity and connection thrive. Softness is where pain is acknowledged and wounds are healed. Softness is where growth happens and life truly changes for the better, in all ways. Bell Hooks’ “The Will To Change” is a phenomenal book for any person to read, but I deeply, urgently, lovingly want to recommend it to men — particularly if you feel pressured to play tough, chained to the concepts of power and perception, or confused by, scared or avoidant of your emotions. I also want to recommend this book to non-men who harbor fear or frustration towards men. Our fear and frustration are justified, but they are not the total solution. This book is really helping me turn thought into practice. I hope it helps you too, if you’re open to being helped. (P.S. The audiobook is only 6 hours if time is something you feel short on.) | Posted on 19/Jul/2022 00:28:18