Matt McGorry Instagram – “The Ethical Sl🫦t” by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton Where my polyamorous/non-monogamous ethical sl🔥ts at?? 🤗🥹🤗🥹 I’ve been polyamorous for a few years now and have read quite a few books about it. But this was the first book that I read that really started me on the path. The funny thing is, I had it on my bookshelf for years as I identified as monogamous but for some reason I never read it. Perhaps I subconsciously knew that it would start to open some doors for me that would change my life, and that there would be no going back from. And that somehow, I just didn’t feel ready. There is nothing wrong with monogamy itself. The same way there is nothing wrong with heterosexuality. But the problem is where the compulsory aspects of it lie. For example, I do believe that a lot more people would explore and step outside of monogamy (and heterosexuality for that matter) if it were not so heavily stigmatized to do so. While the social norms are shifting, there is still much work to be done transforming the systems and cultural beliefs that shame, pressure and coerce people into thinking that monogamy is the only real viable choice. It’s only been a couple of years since I realized that polyamory was for me and it took me most of that time to feel comfortable fully embracing it in a way where I would be okay with people knowing that about me, as a public figure. For me, reading is an essential piece of how I learn about new things that I’m passionate about. And because we don’t often see examples of how to have conversations about these issues, it can feel really challenging to know where to start. I believe that is the magic of books. For those who don’t feel comfortable just jumping into shit 🙋🏻‍♂️, it gives us the opportunity to get some clarity about our desires and to build the capacity, skills, and tools that allow us to express those needs. May we all work towards the courage of giving space for and identifying our deepest desires and being able to put them into words. My Booklist: bit.ly/mcgreads (link in bio) #McGReads