Elizabeth Smart Instagram – Want to know something fascinating? Talking to your kids about sex doesn’t influence the age at which they start having sex. But it does help them choose to practice safe sex when they do become sexually active (doi:10.1001/jamapediatrics.2019.2324). What!!?! This goes against what so many of us were taught or believe. But hear me out. Practicing INFORMED CONSENT when giving the sex talk is a great way to teach your kids about consent. Creating a culture where you regularly lay out the pros and cons of a particular situation unbiasedly teaches your teen to do the same. Now I know. When giving our kids the sex talk, sharing the potential negative outcomes can feel easier than discussing the positive ones. And the negative outcomes are a worthy discussion! Having sex in the wrong circumstances can bring heartbreak, disease, and life changes one might not be ready for. Things you want to guard your kids against experiencing. But remember, with informed consent, you gotta talk about the good stuff. Like It’s fun, feels good, is a great time-filler, and can be soul-connecting. Often the positives make us uncomfortable because we are nervous it might cause a premature decision. Scaring them into abstinence seems like the safer choice. But I’m here to tell you don’t be scared about telling your kids the FULL story. When they fully understand BOTH sides, you’re equipping them with two important things. Prioritizing clear communication even when it’s uncomfortable and respecting their body autonomy to make a personal decision. Experienced parents, what advice can you give others out there who are about to broach this sex topic with their kids? – – – – – ‼️‼️GIVEAWAY CLOSED‼️‼️ My Wholehearted Consent Course helps teens feel confident when saying No. I’m giving away 20 free enrollments to my Wholehearted Consent course. This course is perfect for the teenager in your life. 📷 @aaronburden . . #sexualconsent #consenteducation #consentmatters