Last week a big chapter in my life closed — I signed my divorce papers. Two years ago, a little voice in my spirit got louder and louder and said — pursue your happiness, even if it hurts. I was scared but determined. My partner and I separated, and I moved across country. One year ago I filed for divorce. And almost exactly one year later, we signed the papers, back in the Town, where our life together began nearly 18 years prior. This last two years has been the hardest on record for me — but I have learned so much about myself. My biggest lesson? Don’t postpone joy. A friend told me today that everyone gets divorced in their 40s — almost like it’s a right of passage. My doctor today told me she has a similar story and she’s now friends with her ex husbands wife — who he started dating two months after they separated 🤷🏾♀️Another friend asked how one commemorates a milestone like this — do you go on vacation? Do you surrender to the streets? Do you turn up? Iono but I’m feeling like maybe it’s a combination of all those things. Don’t get me wrong — there’s still grief there. A grieving of who I knew myself to be and the ending of a relationship that meant a lot to me. We damn near grew up together. But there’s a freedom and a peace in choice, especially in choosing you. And I’m grateful to me for having the courage to do so, even though it was really hard and even though it hurt a lot. Since then I have grown, and parts of me have withered away. I have discovered myself in ways I wouldn’t have recognized then. I’ve learned that there is healing in sunsets and porches, tequila and talk therapy, workouts and walks, work and vacations, tears and (ahem) temporary encounters. I’m so grateful to my friends who really held me down — like the one who sent me these beautiful flowers today to remind me of how far I’ve come. It really wouldn’t have been possible without y’all. Thanks for holding me down, from near and from far.
There’s been so much nonsense in the news about what’s happening in the Bay — and don’t get me wrong, every place got problems. One day we gon talk about what happens to a city when you do massive giveaways to tech companies in the form of entire cities and ask for nothing in return for the people living there — but y’all ain’t ready for that conversation yet you just wanna talk about crime and violence and lawlessness. Who sucked all the resources from our sacred places for schools and housing and services? So instead of that convo I’ll just give you reason 4080 that Oakland is undefeated with this photo I took today by the lake. We really just don’t have any fuks to give #TownBiz #OaklandAgainstTheWorld
I often think about what kind of leader I want to be when I’m 81 years old. This was an iconic moment for me — leadership across generations. I’m in a lot of reflection about how to keep listening to and learning from the generation coming up after mine. Congratulations to @rpcoalition on a historic leadership transition.
I often think about what kind of leader I want to be when I’m 81 years old. This was an iconic moment for me — leadership across generations. I’m in a lot of reflection about how to keep listening to and learning from the generation coming up after mine. Congratulations to @rpcoalition on a historic leadership transition.
Honestly y’all after getting to spend all this glorious time choppin it up with @brotherjones_ I am one hundred percent certain that with leaders like him we gon be alright. Such a powerful leader, humble and brilliant. I was moved to tears, I was made to think, I was emboldened and inspired. Thank you @netrootsnation for inviting me to hold a conversation I’ll remember and hold dear for the rest of my life. Let’s go brother!
Honestly y’all after getting to spend all this glorious time choppin it up with @brotherjones_ I am one hundred percent certain that with leaders like him we gon be alright. Such a powerful leader, humble and brilliant. I was moved to tears, I was made to think, I was emboldened and inspired. Thank you @netrootsnation for inviting me to hold a conversation I’ll remember and hold dear for the rest of my life. Let’s go brother!
Honestly y’all after getting to spend all this glorious time choppin it up with @brotherjones_ I am one hundred percent certain that with leaders like him we gon be alright. Such a powerful leader, humble and brilliant. I was moved to tears, I was made to think, I was emboldened and inspired. Thank you @netrootsnation for inviting me to hold a conversation I’ll remember and hold dear for the rest of my life. Let’s go brother!
Chicaaaaggggoooo suppwiddit? Ima see y’all soon at @netrootsnation — we finna be in the building with the homie @brotherjones_ talkin bout alll the things tonight on the main stage. Got questions you want asked? Slide in the comments and drop em below!
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Summer dump… I be bad at posting sometimes cuz I’d rather be there than here, but summer is underway… these days i spend lots of time staring at skies remembering and imagining, planning and implementing, and I like it. More summer. More beaches. More full moons and new moons, sunsets and sunrises. Lots of sunscreen. No bullshit.
Got my goodies in the mail from @drbronner and I’m excited to try em out! Thaaaaank you!
Been a minute since I got down in the kitchen but LAWD after this week I needed to work it out. Al pastor fish tacos, with grilled pineapple salsa. Made that al pastor from scratch — grilled the pineapple, tomatoes, onion, and garlic. Threw dried ancho and guajillo chiles on there too for a minute, toasted some cumin, cloves, and cinnamon sticks. Throw the chiles in some boiling water until they get soft and then put it all in the blender with some of the water from the chiles. Put some red snapper on the grill seasoned only with a little salt. Pan fry some corn tortillas. Salsa has grilled pineapple, cilantro, jalapeño (I ain’t had serranos), olive oil and salt. Just what I needed for the almost end of a long week. Recipe adapted from @nytcooking 📸 @camilo_sol
It’s not every day that you get to sit down and chop it up with a boss like @badassboz — but it sure is a nice way to start out your week! Join us as we discuss what it means to live an urgent life, how we navigate loss and grief to still show up everyday and be your most badass self…we also have a new weekly roundup where we discuss the new over the counter birth control pill (whyyyy has this taken so long?!), and give you the news you can use about the strike that is spreading like wildfire throughout the entertainment industry… as per usual #DoWhatchaLike and tune in for #AllOfTheReal
ICYMI: our #WeeklyRoundup gives you the news you can use from the week…and this week we discuss the new over the counter birth control pill, the strike catching fire across the entertainment industry, and ten years since the beginning of #BlackLivesMatter … tune in for #AllOfTheReal #DoWhatchaLike
Iono who needs to hear this but maybe just maybe it’s you? I know I definitely did! @badassboz gives us #AllOfTheReal in this week’s episode of @ladydonttakenopod — #DoWhatchaLike and tune in!
You mighta thought we forgot but I just needed to lay on a beach for a few days! A brand new episode of @ladydonttakenopod is up and we’re joined by @trevoraaronson, host of the @alphabetboys.pod — join us as we discuss the infiltration of the racial justice movement in Denver by the FBI — and what that means for the rest of us. You know we also dive in to this week’s news in politics and pop culture — including what’s new in the case of @justiceforajowens and how KeKe Palmer’s roommate fucked around and found out … tune in for #AllOfTheReal 😘
