Aliyah O’Brien Instagram – How do you deal when life gets sticky??
Here to normalize and make space for allllll the feels ♥️
Rainy day musings from my big feeling heart 🥰
Warning: I maaaay have had a glass of wine or two 🤷🏻♀️
I’ve been hugging a lot of trees lately in an attempt to ground myself. Submerging myself in lakes and oceans to wash away the grief.
But the most important piece of this whole sticky life operation, I think for me, is letting it be SAFE to feel all the feelings.
I don’t think this is what culture teaches us to do, so it doesn’t feel right, or safe, or helpful to do so.
But our fear is just asking to be seen, held.
5 year old us is shouting “I’m still here. I’m still scared. Hold my hand.”
Not letting ourselves feel is like going to the movies and as soon as it starts, you realize you have to pee. But instead of just taking 4 minutes to go to the restroom, braving disrupting a few people, you spend the entire movie holding it, half enjoying, half experiencing the film, because so much of you is just trying not to piss yourself.
I don’t want to hold my pee anymore!
So I’m doing my best to not skip over this very important step ONE…FEEEEEEL 😭
And inevitably I eventually reach a place where I’m ready to move forward. Or just be present.
Or not. Truly. Moving forward isn’t the goal.
The goal is feeling safe to be all of me.
Step #2 is optional, and should only come from a place that feels supportive.
Step #1 is crucial if you want to build intimacy with self and a life where it’s safe to be all of you.
I posted a video to my stories a couple days ago by @evolvingoutloud where he talks about the 24 hour rule. Giving yourself 24 hours to feel and the magic that happens when you do. Some important wisdom in there. I’ll post it again ♥️
Enjoy your movie in peace my friends 😉
Loving you 🥰 | Posted on 10/Aug/2023 21:41:08
