Matthew Hussey Instagram – Understanding how to better deal with pain is one of the greatest leverage points for being happy. Sometimes it’s not about making the pain go away; it’s about changing our relationship with pain altogether. There’s a scene from the film Lawrence of Arabia in which T.E. Lawrence lights a match and lets it burn down to his fingertips without letting out so much as a peep. The officer with him tries it and yelps at the burn.   “It damn well hurts!” says the officer. “Certainly it hurts,” says Lawrence. “Well, what’s the trick then?” asks the officer. Lawrence replies, “The trick . . . is not minding that it hurts.”   Forget trying to avoid pain. Instead, start “not minding.” Do you have a question about your love life that you’d like to send me in private? Comment ASKMH below and I will DM you the link to send me your question, and you’ll also get a free 14-day trial to my Love Life community so you can join us on our next webinar.