Lynn Toler Instagram – I think the most important thing my mother taught me is that you have the capacity to decide how you will #feel. It takes practice and it doesn’t always work, but even if you can’t pull yourself into the #mood you want, if you know what you’re doing, you can level out of a mood you don’t want to be in a little at a time. Of course you’re not going to hear my newly widowed behind tell you, you can simply decide to be happy no matter what. But I will say this, even when jacked up stuff happens you still have #emotional options. Being widowed is like having your own personal apocalypse. There is an all consuming destructive event and the world as you know it ceases to exist. But I am trying to look at it more like The Book of Eli, than The Walking Dead. (And if you are not familiar with those shows, my bad) I refuse to keep running from hoards of horrible feelings that simply won’t die. I am, instead, making my way THROUGH the desert and drought that is the aftermath of his departure to a new beginning out west with the best of what he left me in tow. I will not put it down or leave it anywhere. He comes with. Period. That’s the game plan anyway. Work your mood like the job it is and I’ll keep working it with you. What else are we gonna do? Sometimes a good laugh and a skip can ease the angst. And if not, you’ve lost nothing by giving it a try. #emotiinalintelligence Shoutout @pukele_ka DM for further credit or removal.