Lynn Toler Instagram – So the question becomes : What is YOUR ‘what is’ that you can decide to enjoy? A ‘what is’ is something going on that is problematic but that you’ve found a way to make it ok. Like dude here. I’ve found a few. 1) This will be a low stress Christmas. I am going to repeat the Beef Wellington I made for Thanksgiving because it was, if I do say so myself, outstanding. (This is me taking a victory lap 🏃🏾‍♀️) After that there are no expectations and it’s a relief. Christmas often devolved into mommy wife showtime. The lights the presents the pressure. Not this year. 2) got everyone the same thing. I can’t say what it is but it was a year in the making. 3) I found a new #hair regiment that is making that particular persistent irritation less irritating. 4) While distracting myself from my feelings this year, I created all new habits of neat and clean. Calming! Metaphorically speaking this is me relaxing in the rain, enjoying my ´what is’ as best I can. Relevant #Tolerism: Enjoy ´what is’ because there are plenty of people living through what’s way worse. So if you find yourself sunk in #holidayblues, find a ‘what is’ and find something in it to enjoy. I’m not gonna lie, it’s ’s not always possible. For the first four or so months this year there was no ‘what is’ in sight. But I’ve lived through that part and am now embarking on a ´what is’ that’s going to be way better. Shoutout @sekitarbandungcom #emotionalintelligence #emotion #mood: unbowed.