Matthew Hussey Instagram – When we get attention from someone it’s exciting. Our mind runs away with the possibilities: “What if THIS is the person?” “What if this led to something amazing?!”. We get invested in a story that our mind creates, not necessarily based on real investment, but on the attention we are getting.  There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention that someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse it with someone having a genuine INTENTION for things to lead somewhere real. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are. But there are some ways to gauge:  – ASK questions: About their nature, their goals, their plans in life and what they are looking for. This does NOT mean interrogating someone, it just means having a genuine and relaxed CURIOSITY about the person in front of you.  – Measure ACTIONS (not just words) – do their actions show they are actually prepared to invest in this dynamic with you? Their actions have to be promising, not just their language.   – THEY ASK questions. Are they genuinely trying to get to KNOW you, or just enjoying your company? Someone with real intention will ask you a lot of questions because they are evaluating you for a more important role in their life than simply the person they are sleeping with right now. They are not just interesting, they are interested.  – They’re PLANNING. Are they getting excited about things they want to do/see/experience with you beyond tomorrow night?  – They INVOLVE you – Are they thinking about you in their decision making process? Do you always hear about decisions once they have been made, or is it evident that the plans they are making are taking account of you and your ability to spend time together?