Kate Silverton Instagram – Ask a teenager what they’d most like to hear from their parents … and many of them will tell you
‘ apologise when they get things wrong ‘
Apologising when we get things wrong is important for our younger children to hear too
When we are tired, stressed, and juggling too many plates, it can see us operating in what I call our baboon – from a more reactive, emotional place. When we engage our ‘wise owl’ brain – the pre frontal cortex, we can more readily and instinctively see beneath our children’s behaviour .. sibling squabbles is more often a sign that one child is feeling ‘less than’ … so we will want to support, not shout …
saying sorry if we get things wrong in the moment is not weak
Saying sorry does not mean endorsing your child’s behaviour if they are squabbling
Saying sorry means ‘I could have responded differently and I am sorry for not speaking more kindly / getting that wrong’
We cannot expect our children to learn how to behave appropriately – and give an authentic apology when they make mistakes – if we cannot model it ourselves
Just as there’s ’no such thing as naughty’ there’s also no such thing as a ‘perfect parent’ – apologise if an occasion calls for it and see the bond between you and your children STRENGTHEN … ♥️
#parentingtips #parenting #therapy #mentalhealth | Posted on 18/Feb/2024 23:49:34
