Evanna Lynch Instagram – Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers and mother figures!! ♥️ (U.K. & Ireland Mother’s Day, don’t panic…)
In light of ALL the beautiful messages I’ve been receiving (wow!) from people who recognised themselves in the struggle of people pleasing and who cheered me on saying ‘yay, boundaries’, I wanted to share a story from last week about my mum.
She came to visit me for a few days in London, which, as 1 of her 4 children, is a treat to have her to myself, and an opportunity to notice things about her that I don’t get to see when she’s constantly buzzing around mothering everyone in sight. Anyways, I got home one evening from a class to find her tucked up in bed with our cat, Pablo, sat beside her. My mum is not a cat person. She’s a Dubliner, a townie, so had a very different relationship to animals than my siblings and I (us culchies 🌳👩🌾 ). But I assured her Pablo would be a pleasure to sleep next to, a comfort, a joy! She looked disturbed but I insisted. To my mind, a purring cat is a divine experience. I feel SO special – SO chosen – when a cat shares my bed. 😇
The next morning she confesses she “didn’t get to sleep til 5am because I was quite afraid of Pablo, even though he was very good”.
I literally stopped what I was doing and turned to ask her: “why did you not just…put him out of your room????” 🤨
“Oh no”, she replied. “I couldn’t. I didn’t want to… hurt his feelings.”
😳😳😳
My point being there are people in this world SO empathetic and so reluctant to enforce their boundaries that they will let cats they don’t even like have the peaceful night’s sleep they deny themselves!! I mean, for god’s sake! We must protect these people, particularly when they’re our mothers! These people who routinely put their feelings aside for the wellbeing of others, and don’t know how to be selfish and insist on their own needs being met first. I feel this so strongly at the moment, that I just want to protect this hyper sensitivity & empathy in people 🤍 💪🏻
Happy Mother’s Day Mama, and I promise never to force you to sleep with my cats again 🐱 ❌ 🛌 | Posted on 10/Mar/2024 15:27:02
