Chelsea Smith Instagram – #MarriageMonday | Special Guests
“Daniel and I (Anita) are celebrating fifteen years of marriage this June! Every year, around our anniversary, we laugh out loud thinking to ourselves, “If only people knew how hard we both had to work to get to this healthy place!”
Daniel and I are both first-born children of immigrant families– we both left Iran around age seven and grew up in Sweden (Daniel) and The States (Anita), where we had to learn a new language, acclimate to a new society, and build from scratch. While that established strong character, resilience, and emotional stamina for life, it also felt like a heavy burden growing up.
In marriage, we realized our life experiences had made us both strong-willed, confident, driven individuals– great qualities if you want achievements and success, NOT so great in a partnership where it takes humility, respect, honor, selflessness, patience, and gentleness to build a solid family! On top of that, we are polar opposites in how we function and see the world!
The one thing that finally humbled us was parenting. The stakes were high and we knew we couldn’t succeed without each other’s strengths! We had to learn to work seamlessly as teammates, meaning, “I’ll cover your blindspots every time I see it and you’ll cover my blindspots every time you see it.” Now, when the other person blatantly forgets what’s super obvious to the other, we can laugh about it and take over where the other has missed. (Still working on this)!
Have you ever had a conversation with your partner about what each other’s blindspots are? How could you humbly help each other instead of calling each other out?” | Posted on 11/Jun/2024 02:17:31
