Kate Silverton Instagram – If we want a healthy relationship with our partners, it takes investment and thought. We let them know we care for them and that we want to spend time with them, doing things we both enjoy.
It’s no different for our children.
All children need to thrive is to feel safe, loved and understood. What better way than to demonstrate that we are interested in the things that interest them, that we are there for them no matter what, and that we WANT to spend time in their company and that their well-being and happiness is our priority.
If you’ve felt your child becoming distant, here are some ideas that may help to strengthen your bond:
👉appreciation notes – write down some of the things you love about your child. The way they laugh, how kind they were to their baby brother yesterday, how much you love playing silly games before bedtime… whatever comes to mind .. and either whisper them as they gently fall asleep, or leave them notes to find the next day
👉 take an interest in your child’s interests – ‘what is it about those particular trainers / music / game / friend that you enjoy /like?’ ( this is not meant to be a challenge but a curious question to show you are keen to learn more about your child and what they enjoy !)
👉 put your child in charge at the weekends – ask them what THEY would like to do today .. Wilbur wanted a water fight on Saturday and I initially resisted as I didn’t fancy getting cold and wet – but I made myself accept and we had the BEST time with so much laughter it was a fabulous oxytocin boost for us both ♥️
👉 ten minute top ups – Life is busy and it is not without stress – but setting aside just ten minutes each day, to put down the phone and look our children in the eye, or sit side by side if it feels more comfortable and ask them ‘how are you doing?’ Or ‘do you fancy a quick game of something together ?’ Can mean the world to a child who may otherwise think we prefer spending our time on our phone or at work, rather than with them
👉 remember this time we have with our children passes quickly – invest in the relationship today – reap the benefits years later 🥰♥️
#relationships #love #parenting | Posted on 10/Jun/2024 13:50:53
