Kate Silverton Instagram – For all those mamas and papas ( and grandparents and carers too!) worrying about next week’s nursery or reception start … I hear you and I see you & I see your children too.
I wrote my first book ‘there’s no such thing as naughty’ when my children were still very young and I share my own experience of the juggle .. especially the mix of emotions when our children start their educational journey.
With everything I have learned I say this – trust YOUR instincts and intuition and don’t be afraid to follow them too – I know it can seem like an ‘inconvenience’ if it’s our child in distress and ‘holding up the queue’ … but our children are not an inconvenience: if they are in distress they need our help.
A child’s distress at being separated from their parent / carer is real. Why wouldn’t they feel some anxiety going into a room full of strangers when they have only ever known you as their safe space ?
It takes time to build trust and ensure our children feel settled and safe
It’s to everyone’s benefit that we are able to work WITH our children in these moments and take time to soothe, and if necessary to stay until they are happy to be left. This may take some time, but better this than prising a crying child from their parent before they are ready. There are many wonderful nursery and teaching staff whose warmth & compassion will help you. They know that children whose distress is not appropriately soothed, may be left with too high levels of cortisol and adrenaline that’s not healthy for body or brain – and even though some children appear ‘fine’ they may in reality be sitting with too high levels of stress that can endure for months
Ensuring a healthy experience of separation now – can prevent anxiety around separations in the future
As a mother who has been there – and as a qualified child therapist – I can show you how ..
I’ll be taking calls tomorrow @thismorning leave any questions you have below and I’ll do a live tomorrow night on here too
In the meantime, enjoy this precious time with your child – have a wonderful week with this delicious ☀️☀️and know that together we will get through !!
#nursery #reception #backtoschool #parenting | Posted on 28/Aug/2024 20:37:02
