Ashley Judd Instagram – While walking with chronic pain, I need safe-feeling interactions with others – loved ones and strangers. This is essential because connection and belonging are all the more important during times of feeling so unwell. Pain is isolating. Connection is healing.
And yet our culture doesn’t teach us very well how to be with those who are hurting. We try to fix each other. Oh, God, please spare me the fixers.
Please, however well-intentioned (and however much your practitioner, device, retreat, herbal formula, colonic, whatever, helped you) refrain from advice-giving. Please trust I truly want to be well and I have all good things in place and a support team for appropriate guidance.
Instead, what truly supports and helps me? Wash my dishes. Make one of my appointments for me. Walk our dog. Let me put a pillow on your lap where I may rest my weary head.
There is a delicate and often really difficult balance between advocating my own best interests & letting go completely. From my Pastor:
“To walk with God is to dance between order & chaos, unified by grace. It we listen closely enough, our ear can catch the tune.”
How do you seek having your needs met while walking with pain? | Posted on 21/Jul/2024 03:00:05
