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Judah and I got into a fight this week…a big one…easily top 5 worst fights in almost 25 years of marriage. What could have contributed to this big blowup? We are more in love with each other than ever before, nobody did anything overtly hurtful to the other, and there’s no acute crisis. Looking back, I blame it on one thing: bottling a bunch of little things up until they exploded (and yes, that was me).
I’ve still been regaining my energy from the rhabdomyolysis at the start of summer, we have been working through adjusting to being parents of adults and teenagers, we are dealing with professional pressure, and to be honest there has just been a lot on our schedule. These are all my excuses for not talking through the little things I have needed to connect with Judah about all summer. I didn’t feel like I had the energy to fight, and I thought I could just handle them on my own. Well, that wasn’t the case. Things would have been so much better if we would have just fought it out sooner.
I think sometimes we avoid fighting when we know we should because somehow that just seems easier. But there are times when fighting is GOOD! Yes, there is even a scripture about “fighting the good fight”…but it’s not specifically about marriage. Fighting, when done “right” (see previous posts), can actually show our spouse how much we care. It can bring us together in a way like nothing else can. Are there things you have been holding onto that actually need to be let out? Trust me, it’s worth it! | Posted on 27/Aug/2024 03:50:38
