My relationship with my wife Debbie has been one of the greatest and most surprising joys of my life and from the day we’ve met, I’ve learned (and am still learning) how to be a good partner and how to allow her to be a good partner to me. And like many queer couples, we haven’t had a lot of authentic relationship models. That’s why we were so excited to participate in Hinge’s NFAQ series, offering counsel to other queer folk navigating the dating scene. You can find our answers to the burning dating questions so many of us have, at hinge.nfaq.co, an ever-growing resource addressing the questions and concerns shared by LGBQTIA daters. #hingeNFAQ #ad
My relationship with my wife Debbie has been one of the greatest and most surprising joys of my life and from the day we’ve met, I’ve learned (and am still learning) how to be a good partner and how to allow her to be a good partner to me. And like many queer couples, we haven’t had a lot of authentic relationship models. That’s why we were so excited to participate in Hinge’s NFAQ series, offering counsel to other queer folk navigating the dating scene. You can find our answers to the burning dating questions so many of us have, at hinge.nfaq.co, an ever-growing resource addressing the questions and concerns shared by LGBQTIA daters. #hingeNFAQ #ad
My relationship with my wife Debbie has been one of the greatest and most surprising joys of my life and from the day we’ve met, I’ve learned (and am still learning) how to be a good partner and how to allow her to be a good partner to me. And like many queer couples, we haven’t had a lot of authentic relationship models. That’s why we were so excited to participate in Hinge’s NFAQ series, offering counsel to other queer folk navigating the dating scene. You can find our answers to the burning dating questions so many of us have, at hinge.nfaq.co, an ever-growing resource addressing the questions and concerns shared by LGBQTIA daters. #hingeNFAQ #ad
My relationship with my wife Debbie has been one of the greatest and most surprising joys of my life and from the day we’ve met, I’ve learned (and am still learning) how to be a good partner and how to allow her to be a good partner to me. And like many queer couples, we haven’t had a lot of authentic relationship models. That’s why we were so excited to participate in Hinge’s NFAQ series, offering counsel to other queer folk navigating the dating scene. You can find our answers to the burning dating questions so many of us have, at hinge.nfaq.co, an ever-growing resource addressing the questions and concerns shared by LGBQTIA daters. #hingeNFAQ #ad
For my newsletter, I wrote on vigilantes, who venerates them, and why. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/gCcA50UAAPJ
Sometimes, in the early throes of a relationship, you and the object of your affection are moving at different speeds. Watch to see my perspective on how to negotiate this complicated but often fruitful terrain. https://hin.ge/Roxanegay74
For @newyorkermag I wrote about the latest in a long history of American antagonism toward Haiti. Link in bio. https://www.newyorker.com/news/the-lede/the-haitian-question
I’m excited to share the winner, runners up, and finalists for the Audacious Short Story Contest. The prompt was horror and horrify us, you did! Read more here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/i7s350UuvMt
I had the pleasure of interviewing a young couple who matched on Hinge, and then I wrote a story about their romance for the No Ordinary Love anthology. It’s romantic and it’s real, and you can read it at the link in my bio or in my stories.
Next week in the Audacious Book Club, we’ll meet for a live book club discussion of Ta-Nehisi Coates’s The Message and a holiday gathering. The author will not be joining us, but we will hang out and talk about the book as if we were having a book club gathering in person. I hope to see many of you there! Register for the December 17 event in the link here or in my stories: https://ow.ly/LtgX50UqVjV
For my newsletter, I’ve written up some Audacious Book Club FAQs, and I’ve got a preview of some of our 2025 selections. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/nnFl50UtBHM
This month in The Audacious Book Club, we’re talking about Private Rites by Julia Armfield (@juliakarmfield). I hope you’ll join our discussion about this excellent novel at The Audacity and at our Zoom discussion on January 26. Read more and register for our discussion here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/rOqO50UBXMA
This month in The Audacious Book Club, we’re talking about The Rich People Have Gone Away by Regina Porter (@reginamporter). I hope you’ll join our discussion about this fantastic novel at The Audacity and at our Zoom discussion on September 25. Read more here or at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/introducing-the-rich-people-have
This week in The Audacity’s Emerging Writer Series is a fantastic essay by Hannah Mitchell about mourning a breakup and learning to find joy again. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/three
This week in The Audacity’s Emerging Writer Series is a beautiful essay by Rebecca Payne about the fear and wonder of parenting in an endangered world and how we do our best to keep safe. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/i-want-a-brick-tower-i-want-it-to
This week in The Audacity’s Emerging Writer Series is a fantastic essay by Innocent Ilo about losing a parent, losing the ability to write, and the unexpected things we discover as we work through our losses. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/Xppj50UyYyj
Today at The Audacity is an excellent short story by Destiny Birdsong (@bird_songoftheyear) about queer writer who turns to lesbian sex work. I hope you’ll read this piece and the introduction that prefaces it, which explains a little about the journey the story has been on to get here. You’ll find it here and at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/the-jump
In July 2024, our book club read Gretchen Felker-Martin’s Cuckoo. We were so inspired by the novel that we held our own horror short story contest, and today we’re publishing the winning story: “The Needleworkers” by Dyana Herron. Read Dyana’s fantastic piece here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/qxez50UH9hH
For my newsletter, I wrote a little gift guide that I hope will give you a few ideas for holiday giving. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/5spq50UmEwV
Today at The Audacity, I wrote about Frighten the Horses, the fourth title from @roxanegaybooks, out now. This excellent memoir is a trans man’s coming of age story and introduces its author, Oliver Radclyffe (@oliverradclyffe), as a witty, arresting, unforgettable voice. I’ll be in conversation with Oliver this Friday, September 20, at StoryFest in Westport, CT and at Skylight Books in LA on September 28. Read more about Oliver’s book, and find out where to pick up a copy, here or at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/introducing-frighten-the-horses-by
Next week in the Audacious Book Club, we’re talking about The Rich People Have Gone Away by Regina Porter. Register to join us September 25 at 8 p.m. ET at this link or at the link in my stories: https://ow.ly/yqXW50Trfyq
Join me tomorrow, September 7th, at the Harlem Book Fair! I will be in conversation with fellow Haitian writer Ibi Zoboi at noon at the Caribbean Cultural Center African Diaspora Institute. Registration is free but required: https://www.cccadi.org/events/literacy-as-revolution-voices-of-haitian-authors. From 2:15 to 3:15, I will be in conversation with Gabrielle Bellot and Julia Turshen about my Everand essay series and the work the three of us wrote for it. This event will take place at the Adam Clayton Powell Building Plaza Stage. I hope to see a few of you there!
Join me tomorrow, September 7th, at the Harlem Book Fair! I will be in conversation with fellow Haitian writer Ibi Zoboi at noon at the Caribbean Cultural Center African Diaspora Institute. Registration is free but required: https://www.cccadi.org/events/literacy-as-revolution-voices-of-haitian-authors. From 2:15 to 3:15, I will be in conversation with Gabrielle Bellot and Julia Turshen about my Everand essay series and the work the three of us wrote for it. This event will take place at the Adam Clayton Powell Building Plaza Stage. I hope to see a few of you there!
This week in The Audacity’s Emerging Writer Series is a gorgeous essay by Rachel Dlugatch about navigating between the kingdom of the sick and the kingdom of the well and learning to believe yourself, even when it feels like no one else does. Read it here or at the link in my stories: https://audacity.substack.com/p/on-believing
