Matt McGorry Instagram – #Repost @decolonizemyself ・・・ Repost @yourdiagnonsense “1. JUST BECAUSE YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID DOESNT MEAN YOUR BEHAVIOR IS. 2. Many people feel entitled to their behavior because it’s motivated by powerful emotions. However, these actions often end up playing a central role in the unsatisfying dynamics in their life. You’re 100% entitled to feel anything and everything. However, acting out those feelings at the expense of someone else will get in the way of what you seek. 3. We have to take responsibility for how our hurt feelings can create behaviors that end up hurting others. If we don’t hold ourselves accountable for our own behavior we simply cannot expect others to do the same. If we demand an apology from someone who we’ve also hurt, it’s likely that we will not receive any reparative communications until we soften as well. We must learn how to apologize without our apologies negating our emotional experience. 4. The goal isn’t to become an unemotional robotic human who never acts out impulsively or freely. We cannot and should not be encouraged to think this is possible. Nor is it helpful to spin out in a place of shame for behaving in an undesirable way. Instead, we have to develop an awareness of how our emotions can lead to unhelpful behaviors that end up pushing people away. 5. We have to be the first ones to validate ourselves. This will allow us to work towards expressing upsetting emotions immediately. When we let it build it’s likely that we will erupt. When this happens we make it harder for the people in our lives to show up, understand, and validate our experience.”