Esther Perel Instagram – In our society, we talk endlessly about intimacy in romantic partnership, but it’s not often that we look at our friendships through the same lens. Men especially balance a societally mandated burden to be independent and an (often hidden) desire to vulnerable and connected.
My esteemed colleague Terry Real has said, that “under patriarchy, you can be connected, or you can be powerful, but you can’t be both at the same time because power is power over, not power with, it’s dominance. So, if you move into power, you lose connection.” How does that land for you? Do you agree? And if so, how can we begin to disassemble this outdated narrative?
In this episode of Where Should We Begin? I bring together two sons of South Asian immigrants, both raised in the South, to see where their long-term friendship started to take a turn. Something happened in their friendship that expressed an internal conflict that became a relational conflict so that each of them became the representation of the part that the other one was struggling with and felt ambivalent about.
I help these two best friends voice, for the first time, the long shadow of class, religion, culture, profession, and gender eclipsing their relationship and shine a light on a ritual of reconnection. I invite you to listen to “Friendship – My Reliable Gift” through the link in my bio for their full story. | Posted on 17/May/2023 22:55:39



