Ok but seriously, there is nothing nicer than surprise having your exact needs met without a word as a treat, but I’m pretty sure the ability to say out loud “I need attention” has saved my relationship and friendships a lot of times, and most importantly given me the gift of being openly annoying instead of secretly very, VERY annoying. #femmefriday
Obviously there were so many things that happened in the episode that couldn’t make it to tv in order to focus on the Queens and the competition. I still have so much to say about the experience filming Drag Race as well as what happened after the show aired, so stay tuned for that (if you want, idfk!) but I wanted to say a special thanks to my fellow lesbian makeover contestants @angieevansbutch and @lisachangadveja 😍😭 One of the things you didn’t get to see is how much fun we had filming together and of course the bts times in the trailer getting to know each other and the “waaait what are we doing again??” moments. I was so scared to put myself out there like this for a lot of reasons, but the first day in the parking lot when I saw Angie, who I’ve known for over a decade just from being a dyke about town in the L.A.-area, I was so relieved. It reminded me that in addition to queer fam, who we were absolutely among in all ways during filming – from our Queens to producers to PAs, everyone was so incredible to us – lesbian community specifically is home, instant family. Sorry to be dramatic, but none of us had ever done anything like this before and when it was over I truly felt like a changed person on a cellular level (for like 3 weeks lol) and I’ll be bonded with these two amazing women over that for the rest of my life! In addition to being a barista (however you want to say it) and co-owner of @wideeyesopenpalms, Angie is a beloved pillar of the Long Beach community, musician, and (duh) performer. Lisa is seriously one of the kindest people I’ve ever met and was incredible at pep talks, so her non-profit background was no surprise, but I loved learning that she’s a dyke on a bike aka motorcycle enthusiast and also a writer of children’s books, her most recent being “Chang’s Favorite Fruit.” And now, I feel so insanely lucky to call these two my Drag Sisters 4-Ever! Special thanks to our producers Frankie @frankiehalleman and Julio @goforjsauce, who literally seemed to be doing 500 things but were always there when we needed them somehow?? Loved getting to know and hanging with both of you! 🩷 @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild
Obviously there were so many things that happened in the episode that couldn’t make it to tv in order to focus on the Queens and the competition. I still have so much to say about the experience filming Drag Race as well as what happened after the show aired, so stay tuned for that (if you want, idfk!) but I wanted to say a special thanks to my fellow lesbian makeover contestants @angieevansbutch and @lisachangadveja 😍😭 One of the things you didn’t get to see is how much fun we had filming together and of course the bts times in the trailer getting to know each other and the “waaait what are we doing again??” moments. I was so scared to put myself out there like this for a lot of reasons, but the first day in the parking lot when I saw Angie, who I’ve known for over a decade just from being a dyke about town in the L.A.-area, I was so relieved. It reminded me that in addition to queer fam, who we were absolutely among in all ways during filming – from our Queens to producers to PAs, everyone was so incredible to us – lesbian community specifically is home, instant family. Sorry to be dramatic, but none of us had ever done anything like this before and when it was over I truly felt like a changed person on a cellular level (for like 3 weeks lol) and I’ll be bonded with these two amazing women over that for the rest of my life! In addition to being a barista (however you want to say it) and co-owner of @wideeyesopenpalms, Angie is a beloved pillar of the Long Beach community, musician, and (duh) performer. Lisa is seriously one of the kindest people I’ve ever met and was incredible at pep talks, so her non-profit background was no surprise, but I loved learning that she’s a dyke on a bike aka motorcycle enthusiast and also a writer of children’s books, her most recent being “Chang’s Favorite Fruit.” And now, I feel so insanely lucky to call these two my Drag Sisters 4-Ever! Special thanks to our producers Frankie @frankiehalleman and Julio @goforjsauce, who literally seemed to be doing 500 things but were always there when we needed them somehow?? Loved getting to know and hanging with both of you! 🩷 @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild
Obviously there were so many things that happened in the episode that couldn’t make it to tv in order to focus on the Queens and the competition. I still have so much to say about the experience filming Drag Race as well as what happened after the show aired, so stay tuned for that (if you want, idfk!) but I wanted to say a special thanks to my fellow lesbian makeover contestants @angieevansbutch and @lisachangadveja 😍😭 One of the things you didn’t get to see is how much fun we had filming together and of course the bts times in the trailer getting to know each other and the “waaait what are we doing again??” moments. I was so scared to put myself out there like this for a lot of reasons, but the first day in the parking lot when I saw Angie, who I’ve known for over a decade just from being a dyke about town in the L.A.-area, I was so relieved. It reminded me that in addition to queer fam, who we were absolutely among in all ways during filming – from our Queens to producers to PAs, everyone was so incredible to us – lesbian community specifically is home, instant family. Sorry to be dramatic, but none of us had ever done anything like this before and when it was over I truly felt like a changed person on a cellular level (for like 3 weeks lol) and I’ll be bonded with these two amazing women over that for the rest of my life! In addition to being a barista (however you want to say it) and co-owner of @wideeyesopenpalms, Angie is a beloved pillar of the Long Beach community, musician, and (duh) performer. Lisa is seriously one of the kindest people I’ve ever met and was incredible at pep talks, so her non-profit background was no surprise, but I loved learning that she’s a dyke on a bike aka motorcycle enthusiast and also a writer of children’s books, her most recent being “Chang’s Favorite Fruit.” And now, I feel so insanely lucky to call these two my Drag Sisters 4-Ever! Special thanks to our producers Frankie @frankiehalleman and Julio @goforjsauce, who literally seemed to be doing 500 things but were always there when we needed them somehow?? Loved getting to know and hanging with both of you! 🩷 @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild
Not beating the stank face allegations any time soon, but the shirt @jimbothedragclown gifted me post-show is my new most prized possession after the wig and dress she let me keep (!!), and everyone at @mosswood_meltdown_i_love_you last weekend was EXTREMELY #teamjimbo 📸: @randi.rose
The thing I did is out tomorrow! @rupaulsdragrace All Stars 8 Episode 10 “The Letter L” to be exact, if you wanna watch 🫣 I’m nervous to see my mug n bod on the tv, but it was such a wildly fun and I’ll say it (sorry!) generative experience thanks to my new drag sisters lesbian, not so lesbian, and of course Mama Ru. I adore you forever @angieevansbutch @lisachangadveja @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild @rupaulofficial!!
The thing I did is out tomorrow! @rupaulsdragrace All Stars 8 Episode 10 “The Letter L” to be exact, if you wanna watch 🫣 I’m nervous to see my mug n bod on the tv, but it was such a wildly fun and I’ll say it (sorry!) generative experience thanks to my new drag sisters lesbian, not so lesbian, and of course Mama Ru. I adore you forever @angieevansbutch @lisachangadveja @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild @rupaulofficial!!
The thing I did is out tomorrow! @rupaulsdragrace All Stars 8 Episode 10 “The Letter L” to be exact, if you wanna watch 🫣 I’m nervous to see my mug n bod on the tv, but it was such a wildly fun and I’ll say it (sorry!) generative experience thanks to my new drag sisters lesbian, not so lesbian, and of course Mama Ru. I adore you forever @angieevansbutch @lisachangadveja @jimbothedragclown @thekandymuse @jessicawild @rupaulofficial!!
There was actually no punchline to this (or rather, it was just really sad and hard), but I had a chance to say “lil fuckin’ shirt” and “person of bikini wax experience” so it was a success imo!!
Ok YES queer couples/relationships deserve the same legal rights and protections as hetero ones, and it’s fucked up that we still have to fight for that and live in fear of it being taken away constantly, but I will say, the time before legal gay marriage was a wild ride and a heck of a hoot sometimes! Maybe the answer is that state-sanctioned marriage shouldn’t be one of the only things that provides financial, medical, and social stability for some of us 🤔🤔🤔 OH WELL, BACK TO JOKES!
Ok YES queer couples/relationships deserve the same legal rights and protections as hetero ones, and it’s fucked up that we still have to fight for that and live in fear of it being taken away constantly, but I will say, the time before legal gay marriage was a wild ride and a heck of a hoot sometimes! Maybe the answer is that state-sanctioned marriage shouldn’t be one of the only things that provides financial, medical, and social stability for some of us 🤔🤔🤔 OH WELL, BACK TO JOKES!
If you know me, you know how much it means to me that Kylie Minogue has snatched crown early for gay song of the summer with Padam Padam, and I’m going to need lesbians to take heed i m m e d i a t e l y!! #femmefriday #padampadam cc: @dykedayla
Something 🌝fun🌝 and 🤡quirky🤡 about me is that in high school I would sometimes (often) (daily) write Tori Amos lyrics on the chalkboard (yes, I said CHALK) before class, really just to share the art with the other students, you know, spread the gospel to the girls. It was totally not obnoxious and I’m sure everyone was into it… Anyway, full circle moment, this is coming up THIS SUNDAY!! Snag a ticket in my bio and come watch Tori videos and laugh and cry with me and other certified Tori freaks @hurrrjurrr and @queerpunkdisco at @whammyanalogmedia!! 💕 (PS, one of my AOL screen names was absolutely BlissOfAn0thrknd, fml)
Lesbian Visibility Day always sneaks up on me, which is fine because so did lesbianism and that worked out great! It’s fun to tell stories about how I should have known and talk about roots, but I genuinely had no idea I was different in that specific way because I was always sorta different (in the NOT cool way) and then the 90s came and it was kinda cool to be different, so I will admit I think I just thought I was cool?? But if you look at this photo from a BBQ at my cousin’s house in like 1999, I believe around the time I was starting to come out to my friends, you will notice I am wearing what I thought was a pretty hip thermal top, which was the style of the time and a staple of lesbian fashion to this day, but it is actually one of those silky shiny lady thermals my mom got me from JC Penney to go on my school trip to the Clinton inauguration sophomore year. I didn’t really know the difference because I didn’t know anything about cold weather attire (terminal L.A. brain) or being a lesbian yet!! All these years later, I am still bad at keeping up with current fashions, but I know a lot about being a d*ke, and as most of you know it’s my top 3 fav thing ever. I am so so grateful that this gay life chose me and I keep choosing it. I love being a lesbian and having lots of lesbian friends, and I love all lesbians, that’s it!! Happy #lesbianvisibilityday!
I’ve had more Tori dance floor sing alongs in last few years than I could have ever dreamed of, but I’m greedy and want MORE with all my favorite, happiest, saddest, weirdest songs, so manifesting that 🔮💫 SWIPE TO THE END for a dream that is actually coming true April 30th with @hurrrjurrr, @mysocalledqueerlife and I talking Tori and showing some fav clips @whammyanalogmedia in L.A.!! Tix are only $5 so snag one through the link in my bio 👂w🦶 (IYKYK) #femmefriday #toriamos #earswithfeet
I’ve had more Tori dance floor sing alongs in last few years than I could have ever dreamed of, but I’m greedy and want MORE with all my favorite, happiest, saddest, weirdest songs, so manifesting that 🔮💫 SWIPE TO THE END for a dream that is actually coming true April 30th with @hurrrjurrr, @mysocalledqueerlife and I talking Tori and showing some fav clips @whammyanalogmedia in L.A.!! Tix are only $5 so snag one through the link in my bio 👂w🦶 (IYKYK) #femmefriday #toriamos #earswithfeet
I’ve had more Tori dance floor sing alongs in last few years than I could have ever dreamed of, but I’m greedy and want MORE with all my favorite, happiest, saddest, weirdest songs, so manifesting that 🔮💫 SWIPE TO THE END for a dream that is actually coming true April 30th with @hurrrjurrr, @mysocalledqueerlife and I talking Tori and showing some fav clips @whammyanalogmedia in L.A.!! Tix are only $5 so snag one through the link in my bio 👂w🦶 (IYKYK) #femmefriday #toriamos #earswithfeet
A little Lottie #femmefriday in honor of the second week of the return of @yellowjackets. We better get to meet grown up Van this week, or I will RIOT.
A little Lottie #femmefriday in honor of the second week of the return of @yellowjackets. We better get to meet grown up Van this week, or I will RIOT.
A little Lottie #femmefriday in honor of the second week of the return of @yellowjackets. We better get to meet grown up Van this week, or I will RIOT.
At a party recently, someone asked Jo if they come to all of my performances. They said yes, and described themselves as my “Dance Mom” which is very funny, but also I would not have guessed that they knew about the show Dance Moms if you had asked me. Jo, two things among many I love about you are that you often surprise me even when the answer is unsurprising, and you let me be the funny one in public most of the time, except when it comes time to roast me, when you really just cut loose. Not to be obnoxious, but also recently, we were at a diner and the young gay server said we were so cute because we were holding hands across the table. I wondered if he thought we were a new couple. It suddenly felt important to me that he know we aren’t, and that such things are possible over a decade down the line, because I didn’t know that before, and I wish I had. I am so grateful I do now. Jo, two more things I love about you are that you hold my hand a lot, and whenever I’m walking very closely behind you, my boob crashing into your back un-erotically as you are trying to navigate us to our destination, you say “why are you walking so close to me?” even though, or I guess I kinda hope because, you know I will say “I like to be very close to you! I wish I could just walk inside your skin!” And then you call me a creep, and we laugh. My love, thank you for holding me up somehow more than ever this past year, when I was so scared to step on stage I wanted to run, when I was literally falling over with grief. Sorry to say, but you kind of HAVE been letting me walk inside you, or maybe the other way around, but in any event, I couldn’t have stood at all without your strength, of course, but most of all the playfulness of our love. You add meaning to every moment of the day for me. Happy Valentine’s Day, I love you so! 💕💫
At a party recently, someone asked Jo if they come to all of my performances. They said yes, and described themselves as my “Dance Mom” which is very funny, but also I would not have guessed that they knew about the show Dance Moms if you had asked me. Jo, two things among many I love about you are that you often surprise me even when the answer is unsurprising, and you let me be the funny one in public most of the time, except when it comes time to roast me, when you really just cut loose. Not to be obnoxious, but also recently, we were at a diner and the young gay server said we were so cute because we were holding hands across the table. I wondered if he thought we were a new couple. It suddenly felt important to me that he know we aren’t, and that such things are possible over a decade down the line, because I didn’t know that before, and I wish I had. I am so grateful I do now. Jo, two more things I love about you are that you hold my hand a lot, and whenever I’m walking very closely behind you, my boob crashing into your back un-erotically as you are trying to navigate us to our destination, you say “why are you walking so close to me?” even though, or I guess I kinda hope because, you know I will say “I like to be very close to you! I wish I could just walk inside your skin!” And then you call me a creep, and we laugh. My love, thank you for holding me up somehow more than ever this past year, when I was so scared to step on stage I wanted to run, when I was literally falling over with grief. Sorry to say, but you kind of HAVE been letting me walk inside you, or maybe the other way around, but in any event, I couldn’t have stood at all without your strength, of course, but most of all the playfulness of our love. You add meaning to every moment of the day for me. Happy Valentine’s Day, I love you so! 💕💫
At a party recently, someone asked Jo if they come to all of my performances. They said yes, and described themselves as my “Dance Mom” which is very funny, but also I would not have guessed that they knew about the show Dance Moms if you had asked me. Jo, two things among many I love about you are that you often surprise me even when the answer is unsurprising, and you let me be the funny one in public most of the time, except when it comes time to roast me, when you really just cut loose. Not to be obnoxious, but also recently, we were at a diner and the young gay server said we were so cute because we were holding hands across the table. I wondered if he thought we were a new couple. It suddenly felt important to me that he know we aren’t, and that such things are possible over a decade down the line, because I didn’t know that before, and I wish I had. I am so grateful I do now. Jo, two more things I love about you are that you hold my hand a lot, and whenever I’m walking very closely behind you, my boob crashing into your back un-erotically as you are trying to navigate us to our destination, you say “why are you walking so close to me?” even though, or I guess I kinda hope because, you know I will say “I like to be very close to you! I wish I could just walk inside your skin!” And then you call me a creep, and we laugh. My love, thank you for holding me up somehow more than ever this past year, when I was so scared to step on stage I wanted to run, when I was literally falling over with grief. Sorry to say, but you kind of HAVE been letting me walk inside you, or maybe the other way around, but in any event, I couldn’t have stood at all without your strength, of course, but most of all the playfulness of our love. You add meaning to every moment of the day for me. Happy Valentine’s Day, I love you so! 💕💫
During this scene, Jo leaned over and said “you’re MY strawberry giggle” and now I will remember it for the rest of my life. One of the things we used to talk about a lot when we first met was songs that made us cry as kids, either because they seemed scary or because they just made us really sad even though we didn’t have the words or experiences to truly understand why yet. Long Long Time by Linda Ronstadt was always one of mine. So, naturally, this episode took me all the way DOWN in so many ways lol. Do you have one? Side note: if you’re not watching The Last Of Us cuz it’s not your thing, you could still watch episode 3 (Long, Long Time) because it stands alone imo. Side note 2: I feel I owe an update, and it’s that I’m grieving for so many people and things but trying to do life stuff, which makes me feel even more broken, but also there are things that keep me just afloat, and a lot of you are part of that and I thank you ♥️
