Matthew Hussey Instagram – There are so many reasons why we don’t always spot red flags in early dating:   🚩 Our desire to be in a relationship overrides any bad gut feeling we might be noticing 🚩 The person we’ve met ticks SO many boxes that we decide to ignore their bad behavior and fetishize the chemistry we have with them instead 🚩 Some people are simply very good at hiding their true colors until much further down the line But there’s another crucial reason red flags can be hard to spot:   When we have been conditioned to perceive red flags as “normal” behavior . . . when we confuse anxiety with passion, or love with suffering. Without having experienced healthy connection, red flags can actually feel familiar. They may remind us of something we’ve put up with in past relationships or family dynamics. And as unhealthy and damaging as these behaviors are, in a twisted way, they may feel like home.   If you don’t trust your own perspective on your situation, connecting with a mental health professional or a friend you really trust can give you an objective view of what’s happening.   You’ve got this x