Stop fighting for the attention of people who aren’t sure they want you.
There are a lot of things you can make compromises on in a relationship. Someone knowing they want you shouldn’t be one of them. This one is binary.
For today’s video, I’ve gathered some of my best advice over the years on spotting and acting on red flags . . . so you can move on faster and avoid the pain of heartbreak with someone who just isn’t ready.
Thank you so much to @womenofimpact for having me on for this valuable conversation 🙌
Have you overvalued chemistry and undervalued compatibility in the past? Tell me in the comments ❤️
What is your personal best today? What can you do right now to create the best possible day with the resources you have? Tell me in the comments below ❤️
Do you agree? Tell me in the comments, and be sure to include the word VALUE if you would like me to send you a free training on this subject.
#MatthewHussey #Relationships #Dating
Do you agree? Tell me in the comments, and be sure to include the word VALUE if you would like me to send you a free training on this subject.
#MatthewHussey #Relationships #Dating
My mum is one of my favorite people on earth. There is an ocean between us for the majority of the year, but that means we are committed to making the time count whenever we are together. We always say that we probably spend more quality time together than most people who live on the same street. Today we are back in the same place, together in Florida for the 2023 MH Retreat which starts in a few days. Early this morning I got a text from her saying “I’m going to go get a coffee and go for a beach walk xx”. I was just about to start work, but instead I immediately texted her back and said “Order me one, I’m coming xx”. Work will always be there. There will always be more to do.
We walked 2.2m along the beach as the sun rose, and I came back to my work feeling grateful, present and like nothing I’m stressing about mattered as much as it did an hour ago.
Know what’s important to you and prove it by giving it time and energy. We have one life. Make it count! Sending love to you all today xxx Fort Lauderdale, Florida
There’s something I want to share with you…
It’s about something I’ve been tirelessly working on in the background for the last 4 years . . .
I’ve had to keep it to myself for what feels like forever now, but I can finally share it with you and the story of how it happened, and I do exactly that in the full video.. tap the link in my IG Profile or head over to howtogettheguy.com/blog to watch the full video now.
I can’t wait to know what you think ❤️
The danger of getting attention from someone we like is that we can quickly start to invest in a story that our mind has created and ignore whether we see signs they are really investing in us.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse ATTENTION with genuine INTENTION. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are, of course, but there are things you can look out for along the way that may give you some clues . . .
If you want 67 specific and practical ways to create momentum in early dating, check out MomentumTexts.com or click the link in my IG profile.
The danger of getting attention from someone we like is that we can quickly start to invest in a story that our mind has created and ignore whether we see signs they are really investing in us.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse ATTENTION with genuine INTENTION. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are, of course, but there are things you can look out for along the way that may give you some clues . . .
If you want 67 specific and practical ways to create momentum in early dating, check out MomentumTexts.com or click the link in my IG profile.
The danger of getting attention from someone we like is that we can quickly start to invest in a story that our mind has created and ignore whether we see signs they are really investing in us.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse ATTENTION with genuine INTENTION. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are, of course, but there are things you can look out for along the way that may give you some clues . . .
If you want 67 specific and practical ways to create momentum in early dating, check out MomentumTexts.com or click the link in my IG profile.
The danger of getting attention from someone we like is that we can quickly start to invest in a story that our mind has created and ignore whether we see signs they are really investing in us.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse ATTENTION with genuine INTENTION. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are, of course, but there are things you can look out for along the way that may give you some clues . . .
If you want 67 specific and practical ways to create momentum in early dating, check out MomentumTexts.com or click the link in my IG profile.
The danger of getting attention from someone we like is that we can quickly start to invest in a story that our mind has created and ignore whether we see signs they are really investing in us.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse ATTENTION with genuine INTENTION. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are, of course, but there are things you can look out for along the way that may give you some clues . . .
If you want 67 specific and practical ways to create momentum in early dating, check out MomentumTexts.com or click the link in my IG profile.
What does a healthy relationship actually look like?
It takes two people, each with a strong sense of self-worth and intrinsic value, who desire to build something together. This special alchemy results in a 1 + 1 = 3 equation, where they bring out the best in each other—benefiting themselves individually as well as the relationship as a whole.
If you’re ready to find someone who values you, comment VALUE below and I’ll DM you the link to my popular “Dating With Results” training. It’s free and packed full of insights you can use right away.
What does a healthy relationship actually look like?
It takes two people, each with a strong sense of self-worth and intrinsic value, who desire to build something together. This special alchemy results in a 1 + 1 = 3 equation, where they bring out the best in each other—benefiting themselves individually as well as the relationship as a whole.
If you’re ready to find someone who values you, comment VALUE below and I’ll DM you the link to my popular “Dating With Results” training. It’s free and packed full of insights you can use right away.
Thank you, @sexwithemily, for joining us in my private Love Life Club for this insightful conversation on sexual confidence.
If you’d like to watch the full interview, you can do so by joining my membership. Simply head over to JoinLoveLife.com or tap the link in my IG Profile for more information.
My nan, Marie, used to say “If you wake up early you let the day come to you”. This piece of advice stayed with me always (it stuck with my mum, and then me, which is one of the reasons why I wake up so early every morning). Waking up early has been such a gift in my life, not that it’s always felt natural!
Yesterday, we went down to the beach and watched the sunrise at our retreat location here in Florida (1 day before kickoff!)… feeling very grateful to be here and do what we get to do.
P.S. Sorry for Audrey’s sneaky butt grab at the end in what was a very serene and present moment.
There are so many reasons why we don’t always spot red flags in early dating:
🚩 Our desire to be in a relationship overrides any bad gut feeling we might be noticing
🚩 The person we’ve met ticks SO many boxes that we decide to ignore their bad behavior and fetishize the chemistry we have with them instead
🚩 Some people are simply very good at hiding their true colors until much further down the line
But there’s another crucial reason red flags can be hard to spot:
When we have been conditioned to perceive red flags as “normal” behavior . . . when we confuse anxiety with passion, or love with suffering.
Without having experienced healthy connection, red flags can actually feel familiar. They may remind us of something we’ve put up with in past relationships or family dynamics. And as unhealthy and damaging as these behaviors are, in a twisted way, they may feel like home.
If you don’t trust your own perspective on your situation, connecting with a mental health professional or a friend you really trust can give you an objective view of what’s happening.
You’ve got this x
I received a question recently that I wanted to share with everybody.
I hope this helps you today. ❤️
If you would like to send me your question for a chance to have it answered on my next live Q&A, simply comment ASKMH below and I will send you a DM with all of the instructions to do so.
If you want to break this pattern, today’s new video of my conversation with author and entrepreneur @marieforleo is a must-watch, link to the the full podcast episode is in my bio. Don’t miss it!
After a date, we’ve all had that feeling in pit of our stomach where we felt we didn’t put our best foot forward . . .
Maybe we feel we overshared, drank too much, or said something cringey. Whatever it was, that feeling of wishing we’d done something different is common and intensely human.
The “mistake” itself isn’t important, but what IS important is how we choose to move forward from it.
Have you ever had that feeling? Leave me a comment below and share your experience 👇🏻
The sooner you put into practice something you JUST learned, the more likely it is to take hold. This applies whether you just added a new word to your vocabulary (use it in a sentence today), discovered an idea for a new morning routine (do it tomorrow morning), or found advice on something you could do to improve your conversation on a date (say it tonight!)
I always tell people when they get inside my membership: It’s not about implementing everything all at once, because that would lead to overwhelm. But don’t IGNORE everything either. Pick one thing you just learned from that podcast, program, or book, and apply it as soon as possible.
It’s easy to ignore red flags when we’re falling for someone. But our heart pays the price.
When you’re really attracted to someone, you can talk yourself out of acting on your concerns. You may pursue someone who doesn’t want a relationship in the hope of changing them, or prioritize someone else’s needs over your own because of your feelings of admiration.
Simply tap the link in my IG Profile or head over to matthewhussey.com/blog to start watching now and leave me a comment when you do.
Do you find yourself always chasing the same type of people in dating?
It can be incredibly frustrating when you get caught in familiar toxic patterns. You want to throw your hands up and say, “How did this happen again?”
If you want to break this pattern, today’s new video of my conversation with author and entrepreneur Marie Forleo is a must-watch. Don’t miss it!
