Always remember, there is a difference between losing “the one” and losing the WRONG one.
If you’re feeling ready to hit “reset” on your love life and get back out there, I have a free LIVE training happening later this month that will help you do just that. Head over to LoveLifeTraining.com now for all the details on how you can save your seat on the virtual event.
Heartbreak can be really painful, and sometimes it can even feel unbearable . . . but better days are coming, I promise.
Please don’t judge your future based on how you feel right now. Sometimes we need to walk through the fire and trust that what will emerge on the other side is a stronger, more interesting version of ourselves ❤️🩹
Lose the shame over being heartbroken! Remember, it’s not just a person you’re grieving, it’s a whole future you thought you were going to have that you’re now feeling the absence of. Give yourself love in this moment, drop the judgment, and allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel.
We are in the middle of a really busy few months, but we got the opportunity to go away with our friends for the weekend skiing. Me and Audrey have never skied together before, so we took the opportunity. We hadn’t bought any ski stuff until the night before, so we just grabbed a bunch of things in a sale in a local store, all within about an hour.
Doing this trip will also no doubt make this next week a little more hectic work-wise. But I believe that when the right adventure comes along with people you enjoy spending time with, sometimes you just have to make it work, however imperfectly.
What small or imperfect adventures do you want to make happen in the next couple of months, regardless of the day to day responsibilities of your life? Leave a comment and let me know! Aspen, Colorado
Why does the end of a passionate short-term romance sometimes feel more devastating than a longer-term relationship?
It’s because short-term romances are like fireworks—explosive and exciting—only to fizzle out soon after. We get addicted to the feeling of intensity they give us, and feel empty when they disappear.
In this week’s new video, I’ll show you the best way to move on from a short-term romance and stop obsessing over “the person who got away.” Tap the link in my bio or head over to MatthewHussey.com/blog to start watching now (and tell me what you think in the comments when you do)
Remembering this can be incredibly empowering. It means that the magic wasn’t something that happened TO us because of that particular person, but rather something we helped create.
I hope you’re doing okay today. Leave me a comment and tell me how you’re feeling ❤️
Relationships can’t be built on hope. Hope that a person will be more loyal, more committed, or more capable of a healthy relationship some day in the future.
We always have to ask ourselves, “Would this person be able to fulfill my needs if they stayed exactly as they are today?”.
Our relationships define an enormous amount of our happiness, so it pays to know what we are choosing BEFORE we commit to giving someone a place of priority in our lives.
Remember, you were 50% of that relationship ❤️
For anyone heartbroken and hurting, I have created a “Happiness After Heartbreak” series where I interviewed 8 experts on breakups, recovery, and self-love.
Head over to HeartbreakSeries.com for all the details on how you can start watching now ❤️🩹
Have you ever tried to set a new standard in a relationship only to have it immediately challenged?
I’m not just talking about toxic or narcissistic people. Sometimes it’s those closest to us, the ones who genuinely care, who push back because it forces them to reassess their own beliefs and grow.
But how seriously our standards are taken isn’t about the challenge itself. It’s how we react to it that counts. Do we stand our ground because we know we deserve better? Or do we crumble as soon as there’s resistance?
I’ve seen too many people endure hardships in relationships without ever raising their standards or knowing when to walk away. Why? Because without a solid foundation of self-worth and self-love, our standards become empty promises, easily influenced by outside pressures.
If this negative pattern is showing up in your life and you’re ready to break it once and for all, I want to invite you to join me on my upcoming Retreat in Florida this September 9-15.
Just head over to MHRetreat.com to learn more about this immersive 6-day process where together, we’ll dive deep into defining your standards and learning how to communicate them with genuine confidence, so you can finally stop settling for less and wasting time on the wrong people.
Let me know in the comments below, I want to hear your story ❤️
One telltale sign that you’re in the wrong relationship is when it’s draining you of energy and taking you further away from your purpose.
The pain of heartbreak can make us forget all the ways that a past relationship caused us anxiety, second-guessing, the constant justification of our choices, or any other forms of difficulty that we are blind to when we feel the absence of that person.
If you want to see the full conversation with @lewishowes, as well as the honest conversations I had with 7 other experts in my “Happiness After Heartbreak” series, comment EXPERT below or head over to HeartbreakSeries.com for all the details on how you can start watching now.
Long-term attraction has several elements to it.
One of the most foundational is CHEMISTRY. That might come from flirting, the way you look, making each other laugh, or just the indescribable qualities that make you physically turned on by someone.
But that’s not enough.
We also need CONNECTION. This requires us to actually show ourselves to someone and in turn be able to see them as they truly are. It also means we might have to get comfortable with the uncomfortable and open up in ways we aren’t used to.
How do you get closure and peace after a painful break up?
There is a human bias to romanticize the past, which is why it’s so important to ACTIVELY REMIND ourselves of the good and bad of the relationship, instead of seeing it through rose-tinted glasses.
Remind yourself of where your needs weren’t met, or sources of difficulty and anxiety this person was causing you, or other ways that you struggled in the relationship so that you can see the whole truth of your pain and start your journey to healing.
To learn more about how to start your healing process after heartbreak, watch the full video on my YouTube channel (link in bio) and tell me what you think when you do.
When we lose a relationship unexpectedly, we often feel we have lost our only shot at love.
Of course, it’s normal to feel this. We’re grieving a potential future we could have had. But healing from heartbreak is possible.
If you want to watch the full conversation with @lisabilyeu and @tombilyeu, check out my “Happiness After Heartbreak” series, where I interviewed 8 experts on all things breakups, recovery, and self-love. Comment EXPERT below or head over to HeartbreakSeries.com for all the details on how you can start watching now.
When we are brokenhearted, we often think of just trying to heal to get ourselves back to normal. We often feel wounded and broken, like we’re further back from where we started.
But there’s a TREMENDOUS opportunity for growth and a renewed self-love when going through heartbreak. It can prove to be one of the most formative parts of our lives that shapes our character and future for the better. You learn how resilient you can be. You learn how to self-soothe. You can form deeper and richer relationships with others and yourself. You extend your capacity for empathy. You learn the beauties of a certain kind of solitude and better understand the love you want in your next relationship.
Someone deciding they no longer want to be with us can destroy us. Our value, beliefs, and everything we thought we knew about ourselves can all of a sudden seem worthless. But this brutal experience, though intensely painful, paves the way for a new beginning.
And one of the most beautiful things that can come out of heartbreak is we can learn to love ourselves better.
Thank you, @amyporterfield, for this candid conversation. For those of you who have been asking about it, my “Happiness After Heartbreak” series is only available for the next 48 hours. ❤️🩹 Go to HeartbreakSeries.com to get lifetime access before it goes away.
Hanging out LIVE answering your questions with my wife, @theaudreyhussey
If you have not yet gotten access to the Happiness After Heartbreak series FOR FREE by pre-ordering your copy of my new book, Love Life, don’t wait! This bonus expires tonight at MIDNIGHT PT. You can find all the details on how to unlock your access to all 7 powerful conversations I had with 8 experts by commenting EXPERT below or heading over to HeartbreakSeries.com now.
Ed Mylett (@edmylett) is one of my favorite humans in this world. Audrey and I absolutely love him. He’s become a friend over the years and someone who I get excited to talk to every time we get to sit down together.
This conversation might be my favourite conversation we’ve ever had. Go check out the podcast whenever you get a minute, it’s a really, really special one. Thank you Ed for having me, love you brother.
My episode on The Ed Mylett Show is out now. Click the link in my bio to
watch/listen NOW! #MaxOut
There’s a mistake nearly all of us make in early dating . . . and it’s something we don’t even realize we’re doing. When we get nervous, we naturally slip into one of two masks as a way to protect ourselves against rejection.
In today’s new video, I’ll show you how one simple change can not only hugely increase the connection you feel with someone, but also take the pressure out of early dating. Watch the full video on my youtube channel (link in bio) or by heading over to MatthewHussey.com/blog
Thank you, @amyporterfield, for your amazing insight. To anyone struggling with heartbreak who wants access to the full conversation between Amy and me, check out my “Happiness After Heartbreak” series, where I interviewed 8 experts on breakups, recovery, and self-love.
Comment EXPERT below or head over to HeartbreakSeries.com for all the details on how you can start watching now.
Have you ever experienced this? Leave me a comment if you are comfortable sharing your experience. ❤️
Thank you so much to @doctorramani for coming on the Love Life Podcast and sharing your wisdom. If you are navigating narcissistic abuse and would like more information, Dr. Ramani has written an incredible new book called “It’s Not You,” which I believe is life-saving. This subject has impacted me in ways I can’t express and I am so grateful this new book exists.
You can get access to it using the link in Dr. Ramani’s bio or by going to Amazon or your local book retailers.
Let’s heal together.
Is fear stopping you from fulfilling your potential?
We’re often paralyzed from taking action in case we experience a rejection . . .
But getting a year down the line and realizing we’ve still made zero progress on the things that are important to us should be far scarier than a minor setback in the here and now.
Know that you CAN change your relationship with your fears so you can stop holding yourself back once and for all, and I’m here to help you do it.
Visit MHRetreat.com to learn more about spending 6 days of immersive coaching with me from September 9-15 this year in Florida.
Together, we’ll design a new trajectory for your life that makes results inevitable.
Have you ever found yourself in a position where you felt afraid of imminent rejection? Tell me how you overcame it in the comments.
A huge thank you to @jamiekernlima for joining me on the Love Life podcast for this insightful conversation. You can tune in to the full podcast now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or anywhere else you like to listen to podcasts. Just search for “Love Life With Matthew Hussey.”
And be sure to grab a copy of Jamie’s new book, “Worthy – How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life”! We all struggle with self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness at times. Jamie has been through it all, succeeded at the highest level, and learned invaluable lessons along the way about what builds TRUE self-worth. She has put her best wisdom in this book and I’m so excited for the world to finally get to experience it!
I recently had the privilege of speaking with the incredible Nicole LePera (more commonly known as @the.holistic.psychologist) on the subject of heartbreak. Together we went deep on:
❤️🩹 Understanding the physiology behind a painful breakup so you can move through pain and regulate your nervous system when you feel triggered.
❤️🩹 How disconnection, rejection, and isolation influence the physical pain center in your brain and what to do about it.
❤️🩹 The abandonment wound and the role it plays in how you experience heartbreak.
I deeply respect Nicole’s work. It is so powerful, and this interview was no exception. It is one of 8 conversations inside my “Happiness After Heartbreak” series, which I am gifting completely free to anyone who pre-orders a copy of my new book, “Love Life.” 📖🧡 If you want access, you can go to HeartbreakSeries.com or comment “EXPERT” to have it sent straight to your DMs.
If you’re hurting from heartbreak right now, I’m so sorry. Please know you are not alone. And whether you pre-order my book and are able to access this series, or you wish to follow my free content, I promise to keep creating videos to help you through your pain.
Matthew x
