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Lynn Toler Instagram – | Posted on 15/Mar/2024 17:08:22

Lynn Toler Instagram – I feel her pain. I am the queen of the startle response. I holler all the time!

BigE and I could be home together all day and if he walked into a room while I was concentrating, I’d startle. He used to  say, “but you know I was home” or, on a day in which it annoyed him a little more he’d say, “I live here.”

That lady hollering tickled the conductor though. That’s how it should be. He could have been annoyed. Conducting an orchestra is serious business. But why? 

Eventually, here at the crib, BigE just learned to laugh at the state of affairs. I mean what else are you gonna do? We are all annoying in one way or another. 

In fact I started keeping a running list of the annoying things I do, so when he annoyed me I could pull up one of mine, skip the feeling, and call it even. 

And yes, I know, people love to show they’re Woke by getting offended by everything. The TikTok Cry Walk of the Always Annoyed is good for views. But if we’re rewarded for entertaining upset we’ll start seeing it everywhere.

Don’t get me wrong, TikTok is great for people isolated by difficulties Like Dan and his dad with dementia. It’s a sharing of community that helps all involved. I learned a lot about riding out irritating behavior from him.  You can’t abandon people you love just because their struggle is a struggle for you. There will be a day that you need to offload some struggle onto someone who cares enough about you to ride it with you. And I believe you have to pay into any system you’re going to need to draw from later.

But here’s my thing, I want to be unfazed by SMALL irritations so I’m more emotionally prepared to ride out difficult circumstances with aplomb.

I don’t want to feed the wrong dog. 

I’m not going to nourish a lap dog of defeat who wants me to sit on the couch and coddle it. I’m looking for Balto, Togo and a full team  of huskies to pull me through the Iditarod of my sadness and get me home to Nome.

How I got from a woman hollering in a concert to the Iditarod I’m quite sure I don’t know, but this is, ladies and gentlemen, where I’ll leave you.

Have a good day.

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