Lynn Toler Instagram – I’m not at all sure how he got there. Best guess #DoItFluid aka #alcohol. But, again, I don’t know. Whatever happened, the outcome was interesting. I will say this for him though, he adopted the right attitude. Flailing about does not help when you’re stuck somewhere you don’t want to be without a discernible exit. You have to assess where you are and what you can do about it. You can’t just act on how you feel especially when panic is the result. Yesterday I got that all wrong. I got upset by A and dragged my nervous system through the entire alphabet of potential catastrophes. I was out there just naming and claiming concerns. By the end of the day I was throwing emotional haymakers at everything. Just flailing away in the winds of worry. Wearing myself out as the world around me played emotional rope-a-dope. I did not know that was what I was doing until I heard myself saying ‘if’ a lot. I use everything at my disposal to help get through the day. I listen to the language I’m using. Often my choice of words will betray an #emotion I am sporting that is not what I need. Too many ‘if’s’ and I know the #worry train has left the station. Once I realized that my fear chemicals were released, I understood that they were sauntering about in the recesses of my mind looking for potential problems upon which to throw fuel. Next thing you know everything is an issue and I have lost an afternoon. I am working my way out of this particular conundrum as we speak. Relevant #Tolerism: While you should never let the little girl in you die you just can’t let her run things. Sometimes you just have to put your hands in your pockets and wait, even if you’re not currently comfortable where you are. For the record, dude filming this said he was coming round to help. So let’s not go off on that tangent. Have a great day! I’m going to, she says with great hope but a smidge less confidence. #emotionalintelligence