Lynn Toler Instagram – You can’t play Uno with Monopoly rules. Y’all know how I feel about finger wagging. They dragged #katemiddleton about the silence and the photoshopped picture. Had all these “well researched” theories replete with video evidence & clips of comments weaved together w/ such an exaggerated sense of their ability to suss out body language, explain royal protocol and accurately assess the human nature of a human whose true nature they knew nothing of and posit THE TRUTH. All the theories were extensively supported & completely wrong. She didn’t have plastic surgery, there was no impending divorce, no new chick. I know I took a small inappropriately emotionally charged tangent. But the assumptions folk make. I’m not a royal watcher of fan but man, I can’t imagine. My thing is we all have such limited perspectives. Even though we have computers and apps that give us access to all manner of other cultures we still see them through our own cultural kaleidoscope. If I had kicked some guy in the face while dancing I would have apologized. If I got kicked at a party I would say something. But then again I wouldn’t be at that party. It’s not for me. Wouldn’t know about it wouldn’t get invited to it, wouldn’t show if I did. But apparently dude broke no rules. The guy on the receiving end responded in kind. And if you pay attention someone else who was also accustomed to the environment handed the guy who lost his drink another one. I do a lot of odd stuff. I talk to myself while walking around the backyard. I mean, full throated conversations. But when you’re in a profession that demands large quantities of extemporaneous speaking, that chit chat in the grass facilitates ease of access to the right word when called upon. Even though I think of that every time I get the urge to judge that about which I know little … I still end up invoking an inappropriate condemnation on occasion. 😞 The takeaway: You can’t check others w/out checking yourself first. Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to judge people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. Just because you know what someone’s done doesn’t mean they’ve only done what you know.