Esther Perel Instagram – When people come to me to talk about s*xlessness, it’s typically because they really *want* to be having s*x. They don’t understand how they fell out of practice or how the chasm between their partner’s desire and theirs grew so large, so seemingly uncrossable.
When you want it but aren’t having it—or when you want to want it and just don’t—shame will convince you: It’s an individual problem. It’s your fault.
I’m here to tell you: It’s not.
There is an exercise I do during my live theater show that demonstrates how not alone you are. Through a series of questions, we find ourselves in a sea of lights, each one representing what we all usually carry alone in our internal darkness.
S*xuality is always more central than we acknowledge, and the messages we received growing up can influence our relationships and experiences later on. No wonder s*x—and a lack of it—can be so hard to talk about.
That’s why this month, I am launching my new Desire Bundle. I won’t pretend to have all the answers, but together, we’ll explore what’s possible. For more insights, reflections, and resources, be sure to check out this month’s newsletter, available now through the link in my bio. | Posted on 05/Sep/2024 20:21:01
