Lilly Singh Instagram – This is really hard for me to admit…
You may have noticed that over the past year, I haven’t posted like I used to. That was intentional. After a decade of my brain being wired for social media, I knew I had to change my relationship with it. And during this time, here is what I’ve learned…
The truth is that I am a woman who was raised to please people. The idea of not caring about someone’s opinion inherently feels like a dangerous thing to do. I was taught to always care about everything. And I have to give myself grace because, that is how I made it.
When a million strangers, all with competing expectations, are so loud, I don’t have the ego strength to recognize the situation is unfair… instead I just accept the weight and then blame myself when I can’t meet an impossible standard. This isn’t about having thick skin against haters, this is a deep belief that others expectations are more important than what I want.
I’m admitting this because I think there’s an entire generation of woman, especially millennial woman, and ESPECIALLY WOC, who struggle with this. Even in their full confidence, this is a scar.
There was a viral clip of @jennaortega that was so simple but made me cry. During press for Beetlejuice, Winona Ryder was wearing sunglasses and photographers kept yelling at her to take them off. It was clear she didn’t want to, but even still she started to remove them… until Jenna calmly said, “no, you don’t have to.” This seemed radical to me; to prioritize something that feels right for yourself above disappointing others, whom you owe nothing to. I would have immediately taken off my glasses because I feel like I owe everyone everything.
But I’ve never been one to shy awake from deep, traumatic work. This new year, I’m going to try opening myself up again. And so, in an act of self-love, let me say this with my full chest:
This is my page, with my thoughts and my voice. It is not a workshop where people get to mould me into a person who suits them. I may inspire you and I’ll definitely disappoint you, but regardless… I have to be true to me.
This is the internet.
No one will remember this caption in a week.
But I will 💜 | Posted on 24/Dec/2024 01:41:44
