Esther Perel Instagram – Tomorrow, I return to the stage for the West Coast leg of my tour. As I’ve shared before, one of the most dynamic parts of my shows is getting to interact with you and answer your questions live. While I can’t answer them all in one evening, I make sure to collect the ones we didn’t get to and address them later. Here’s one from a recent East Coast show: “What are your thoughts on the ‘right person, wrong time’ cliché?”
This phrase underscores the delicate dance between chance and choice in relationships. When you meet someone who seems right, context, timing, and circumstances are crucial elements often beyond our control. This doesn’t mean you made a mistake or fell for an illusion. It’s about recognizing that sometimes, even when you choose the right person, the circumstances simply don’t align, and the relationship cannot unfold.
Often, people respond by blaming the individual or questioning their own judgment, but this misses the deeper truth. The “right person, wrong time” notion isn’t about assigning blame but acknowledging the bittersweet reality that love, while genuine, may not come to fruition due to factors beyond our control.
This realization brings a sweet, bitter sadness. It’s a raw, unfiltered pain where there is no one to blame—just an acceptance of what cannot be. Sometimes, we come to see that the right person at the wrong time is, in fact, the wrong person. And so, you may have to say, “I love you, and I say goodbye to you.”
I look forward to exploring more of these questions with you on tour. | Posted on 09/Sep/2024 21:18:20
