If you’re going through it right now, keep going. Just keep making the next right choice, one brave, messy, ordinary day at a time. And somewhere in the quiet persistence without even realizing it, you’ll be on the other side 🌸
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
If you had told me a few years ago that I’d have happy, well-adjusted kids, a peaceful co-parenting relationship, a job I genuinely love, and a new relationship that feels grounded and hopeful… I 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 believe you. Not because it was guaranteed, but because I kept showing up and wouldn’t settle for anything less. It hasn’t been perfect — I’ve stumbled, course-corrected, and given myself grace when things went off course… and they did… a lot 🙃. I stayed consistent with my work, releasing 52 episodes this year without missing a week — which still surprises me, honestly. And I kept putting myself out there, even when it felt uncomfortable, trusting that the right person would meet me where I was. I’m really grateful for where I am today and excited to keep going. #thisis36🎂
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐭 𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐤 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞. People assume we gave up too soon because my ex and I co-parent well—but that’s only possible because we didn’t wait until things got worse. Contempt was compounding faster than we could repair it, even with therapy. Parting when we did protected the possibility of a peaceful relationship—for me, for him, and for our kids. A𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩—𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬. The decision might feel sudden to you, but it’s usually been years in the making. When someone’s going through a divorce, especially as a parent, they don’t need advice or devil’s advocacy. They need reminders that they can trust their instincts. No one else knows the full story—only they do. 𝐄𝐧𝐝𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡. People often confuse staying with succeeding. But dragging a relationship through years of quiet resentment isn’t strength—it’s survival. Knowing when to walk away is also a form of love. 𝐀 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐢𝐭 𝐚 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐥𝐝. A two-parent home isn’t automatically better than two peaceful, separate ones. What kids need most is emotional safety—not forced ideals. Believing in family doesn’t mean sacrificing your sanity to preserve the appearance of one. 𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐮𝐫𝐞. Sometimes divorce IS the work—it’s choosing growth over comfort, honesty over illusion. You can grieve the life you thought you’d have and still be grateful for the one you’re building. Starting over doesn’t mean you failed—it might mean you finally listened to yourself. #divorce #coparenting #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport
Anna Kai aka @maybeboth is back, and we wasted no time jumping into all the things- including digging up old emails we actually sent to our exes (yes, we read them out loud 🥴). We get into everything from BDE, dating confidence and how our relationship values have changed over time. As always with Anna and I, this convo was funny, a little chaotic, and surprisingly therapeutic. Links in bio to watch on youtube or listen anywhere you stream your podcasts! @barelyfilteredpod 💗
