Dominique Defoe Instagram – and I stand by the fact that explicit attacks relating to identity are about cruelty and bullying which cannot be excused on the basis of education and background. this is a part of a much longer video which was originally 6 minutes on TT. but the way in which these issues are approached on social media by people who have been ‘canceled’ is ridiculous to me. there are some people who get way more vitriol on much less substantial issues and others who cry in front of the camera blaming their family and hometown for instances that are substantially worse. I don’t really care about cancellations bc honestly I don’t want to watch or affiliate with people who have those kinds of histories and only saw reason for change when called out on a public platform. you’re an adult, everyday you have an opportunity to be better. I think the only real accountability when it comes to cruelty in the form of oppressive language is to hold oneself accountable for the behavior and what it’s intent was (which even on the basis of trying to fit in/everyone does it) is STILL groupthink oppressive behavior which is the root in the first place. and to make a genuine effort to not only educate oneself but to BE a better person – showing up for communities, diversifying the people around you, not being a bystander.
the result of language like this is not just a stupid, uneducated mistake you make as a kid. It is in fact, not normal, to have a history of this. and the amount of kids who struggle with self expression, confidence, and self worth bc of this is appalling. I think it’s the responsibility of us as individuals to more than anything, speak up when something is wrong and to correct this behavior/teach actual kindness as young as possible. because one ‘mistake’ from children leads to other children having to unlearn the cruelty from their childhoods and recover their self identity as adults. one of the best things you can do as someone with a voice and morals is to educate and empower other generations in raising theirs. | Posted on 28/Nov/2025 23:50:46
