Jo Frost Instagram – You do stop feeling obligated over time when you truly understand that obligation is conceived in the fear of disappointing others,normally this comes from childhood,not in the genuine way we think of love or of generosity. I ask the familiesĀ I coach to pause and ask themselves with raw emotional honesty what is really driving the yes.
Is it guilt,fear,expectation or external pressure. The reveal gives them clarity,it’s an uncomfortable ask they feel vulnerable but the space in which we talk is safe and non-judgmental.
Once you know you can choose differently. Decisions are never easy when you are up to your neck in emotions but you can do it,set a healthy boundary that protects your wellbeing,name what you can offer kindly without apology and allow yourself to sit with the slight discomfort you will definitely feel that comes with putting your families needs first. I can tell you over time that discomfort becomes inner true confidence and peace with obligation losing its power.
The true spirit of holidays is presence & service,not presents. Always has been,find yourself back there again this year because we have bills to pay,homes to heat,children to feed,rents to pay,elderly to take care of and much much more. Jo xx š | Posted on 19/Nov/2025 06:08:45
