I want to discuss the pervasiveness of the thinness bullshit as it relates to pregnancy and having a child. So. Image 1 versus Image 2. When I entered treatment for an eating disorder a long time ago I said to a therapist (only half joking) “I feel like if I had a baby I’d be fine” and she joked back, quite rightly, “yes that’s why we prescribe for all our clients to have babies”. HOWEVER. I was onto a thing… I’ve heard lots of women talk about falling in love with their body when pregnant because they felt so in awe of what it could do. For me, it didn’t happen when I was pregnant. At the time this picture was taken I thought it was a lovely image but I thought I looked too big. Out of proportion. Not beautiful. I would have chosen to post the second image because in a FUCKED UP way I felt I looked more “skinny pregnant”. What the fuck even is that!?? what is “too big” when pregnant?? I never thought of myself as a particularly impressionable person. Do you? Ask yourself: do I believe I look “better” thinner? Why? Sorry but this is the hill I will die on. (Not least because there is an actual economic curve worldwide that correlates FEMALE thinness with higher income.) We are force fed, like geese bred for foie gras, images of thinness as beauty. Even and including pregnant thinness. I’m very embarrassed to admit but until two months ago, despite knowing intellectually that thinner does not equal better, I would still see pictures of myself at my smallest and, though I knew it didn’t make me happy, I would think “fuck I did look better though.” Not anymore. I have never felt more confident, healed, beautiful, whole, amazing and actually just NOT FUSSED about how my body looks. It happened after I gave birth, not before. And it might be partly because I had a daughter and I look at her chubby little thighs and I think YES HOW PERFECT CHUBBY THIGHS!!! Yes, shmush my upper arm against my body look at the flesh! Instead of always sticking it out at an angle to look thinner. Yes my head looks too small for my body how endearing. Yes I grew a 9lb baby but my bum, whilst large, is still somehow completely flat 😂 Hooray. Hooray for my healthy beautiful body.
I want to discuss the pervasiveness of the thinness bullshit as it relates to pregnancy and having a child. So. Image 1 versus Image 2. When I entered treatment for an eating disorder a long time ago I said to a therapist (only half joking) “I feel like if I had a baby I’d be fine” and she joked back, quite rightly, “yes that’s why we prescribe for all our clients to have babies”. HOWEVER. I was onto a thing… I’ve heard lots of women talk about falling in love with their body when pregnant because they felt so in awe of what it could do. For me, it didn’t happen when I was pregnant. At the time this picture was taken I thought it was a lovely image but I thought I looked too big. Out of proportion. Not beautiful. I would have chosen to post the second image because in a FUCKED UP way I felt I looked more “skinny pregnant”. What the fuck even is that!?? what is “too big” when pregnant?? I never thought of myself as a particularly impressionable person. Do you? Ask yourself: do I believe I look “better” thinner? Why? Sorry but this is the hill I will die on. (Not least because there is an actual economic curve worldwide that correlates FEMALE thinness with higher income.) We are force fed, like geese bred for foie gras, images of thinness as beauty. Even and including pregnant thinness. I’m very embarrassed to admit but until two months ago, despite knowing intellectually that thinner does not equal better, I would still see pictures of myself at my smallest and, though I knew it didn’t make me happy, I would think “fuck I did look better though.” Not anymore. I have never felt more confident, healed, beautiful, whole, amazing and actually just NOT FUSSED about how my body looks. It happened after I gave birth, not before. And it might be partly because I had a daughter and I look at her chubby little thighs and I think YES HOW PERFECT CHUBBY THIGHS!!! Yes, shmush my upper arm against my body look at the flesh! Instead of always sticking it out at an angle to look thinner. Yes my head looks too small for my body how endearing. Yes I grew a 9lb baby but my bum, whilst large, is still somehow completely flat 😂 Hooray. Hooray for my healthy beautiful body.
Hardly post worthy content but just checking in because it’s a quiet clear Sunday in autumn and I’m feeling reflective. The baby is almost 4 months old. I love her so so so so (etc) much. She’s laughing ❤️ The days are repetitive, I walk and write as my non-negotiables. Some are better than others depending on sleep and weather. Maggie is a protective older sister and a fairly reliable source of entertainment for the baby, who often chuckles at the mere sight of her strange furry older sibling. She is also a f***ing nuisance because she will bark or wake us up at the worst times. But we still love her too. I miss things about my “old life”, but the new one is more profound. And horizons are slowly expanding again. I feel old but not in a bad way. ❤️
Special lunch out celebrating the day I met Max. The yummiest food (featuring cookie ice cream sandwich) at @therivercafecafe 💗 the baby gave us the best gift and slept the entire meal 🎉😂 – – – thank you @crabcommunications ✨
Special lunch out celebrating the day I met Max. The yummiest food (featuring cookie ice cream sandwich) at @therivercafecafe 💗 the baby gave us the best gift and slept the entire meal 🎉😂 – – – thank you @crabcommunications ✨
Special lunch out celebrating the day I met Max. The yummiest food (featuring cookie ice cream sandwich) at @therivercafecafe 💗 the baby gave us the best gift and slept the entire meal 🎉😂 – – – thank you @crabcommunications ✨
Special lunch out celebrating the day I met Max. The yummiest food (featuring cookie ice cream sandwich) at @therivercafecafe 💗 the baby gave us the best gift and slept the entire meal 🎉😂 – – – thank you @crabcommunications ✨
Special lunch out celebrating the day I met Max. The yummiest food (featuring cookie ice cream sandwich) at @therivercafecafe 💗 the baby gave us the best gift and slept the entire meal 🎉😂 – – – thank you @crabcommunications ✨
Have you ever had lymphatic drainage massage? Vote below!) As part of my pregnancy journey I’ve really thrown myself into looking after my nervous system, body and mind, and so I was really excited to go and see the amazing @anatridatherapist for a massage. I can honestly say this was the most relaxing massage I’ve ever had. Usually I go for the deep-tissue, makes-you-yelp kind of tough love thing when it comes to massages, whereas this felt simply incredibly healing, soothing and restorative. Ana has a background in oncology, and the kindest energy. Especially with all the fluid retention in pregnancy, this felt like the most magical reset. Thank you so much Ana 🤍🙏
I’m getting married in ONE WEEK 😱🎉😱❤️!!!! And in order to achieve the best possible skin for the day (whilst using pregnancy-safe treatments and products) I went to see @dr_catharine_denning_cosmetics and it’s been amazing so far…. Thank you @kendraleaverrylah @theweddingedition_ for the hook up ! 💗🙏
Books I read when pregnant (about baby stuff) – 1. Expecting Better by Emily Oster 2. Hypnobirtbing by Siobhan Miller. Re my comments on this one, or if you happen to be reading this, Siobhan (yeah right 😂) – the author stresses many times that she’s not trying to be anti-medical intervention. HOWEVER as an idealistic and impressionable first-time mum, that was the message I came away with. Still a very useful book! 3. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish. Just a classic. My mum read this and it made me see all the times she used it on me 😂 4. You’ve Got It In You by Emma Pickett for all things breastfeeding. For practical tips see the internet. If you’re in London or even just the UK and struggling to breastfeed I highly highly recommend going to see a lady called Katherine Fischer – she saved me. You can find her on Google. 5. Matrescence by Lucy Jones. A beautiful, intelligent and profound book but a little too much for me to handle just yet. Will report back when I finish it. But the pregnancy part was incredible so far… What books helped you parents out there??? I’ve also spent so much of my pregnancy and early motherhood reading fiction – such a joy of this time – and will share these soon too!
A blissful weekend in the country with my darling @_alicefernandez 🌸 (mostly Rye and the surrounding countryside) P.s – my drink is a non-alcoholic cider before everyone tells me off ! 😂
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Sound on for some wholesome south east London content 🎄❤️ wasn’t expecting this on my afternoon walk with Maggie 🎄❤️
MY FIRST BORN IS 8 YEARS OLD TODAY. The lady I bought Maggie from told me her birthday was 20th of December and I said she was a Christmas miracle. Poor dog has been inevitably a bit shunted since the human baby arrived but she’s such a protective loyal and gentle nanny dog and I can’t believe she’s EIGHT today so big love for Maggie 🎉🎉🎉❤️❤️❤️
Wisteria tangling itself into the ginkgo tree. Even on not the loveliest day the beauty of spring is glorious 🤍🌸
Huge thank you to @najell_official for kitting me out with some baby gear – can’t wait to meet my new little person and try it all out! In the meantime though, I’m really enjoying being pregnant for the most part…. except for SLEEP! Which was kind of an issue. This pregnancy pillow has been a complete game-changer, I literally take it with me when I travel as it’s totally transformed my nights. I can sleep now! Thank you Najell 💛 – Not an ad – product was gifted with no obligation to post so recommendation is whole-hearted! ☺️
SO COOL me and my mum are doing a literary festival together 👏👏👏 if you’re around please come hear us talking about writing, family, and probably being very over-sharey and mildly inappropriate 🎉📚🥂 TICKETS VIA LINK IN BIO ❤️ – #literaryevents #literaryfestival #surreynewwritersfestival #bookstagram #books #lovereading
SO COOL me and my mum are doing a literary festival together 👏👏👏 if you’re around please come hear us talking about writing, family, and probably being very over-sharey and mildly inappropriate 🎉📚🥂 TICKETS VIA LINK IN BIO ❤️ – #literaryevents #literaryfestival #surreynewwritersfestival #bookstagram #books #lovereading
This situation is already much worse than when this was first posted. BEFORE I Repost the caption from @doctorswithoutborders let me add my own words – these are CHILDREN, pregnant women, and breastfeeding mothers. I am an insanely privileged and supported mother living in full safety and comfort and having a baby is STILL terrifying and hard. I can’t imagine how desperate i would be feeling if I were a mother in Gaza. Every day I am humbled with heavy gratitude that I am not there (or in Ukraine, or Sudan, Congo…) This is completely f***ing unacceptable and our leaders are not just complicit they are participants. THERE BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD. nothing but luck separating these people from you. It could be you. It will be you. Do something say something! It is deeply frustrating and sad that speaking out for starving women and children could be interpreted as an “attack” on anyone other than those responsible. ORIGINAL CAPTION: What malnutrition is like at our clinics in Gaza: Our teams are screening over 1,000 people a week at our clinics in Khan Younis and Gaza City, with a global acute malnutrition rate of 20 percent. This graph above shows that between August 3 and August 9, 1 in 5 children aged 6 months to 5 years old and pregnant and breastfeeding women screened at these clinics were malnourished. Pregnant and breastfeeding women make up more than half of the patients enrolled in our Gaza City malnutrition program. *These figures are from MSF’s activities at our Gaza City and Khan Younis clinics and do not reflect the full scale of the malnutrition crisis across the Strip.
Love going to a charity shop to buy books because you never know what you’ll find. This was my latest haul. Have you read any of these? Excited for all of them.