Yam Concepcion Instagram – I love this question from @yamconcepcion and I know it’s a question so many of you have. That’s exactly why I wanted to share a quick strategy on breaking people-pleasing cycles. First working on these cycles in ourselves will help us pass along these habits to our kids.
And you might be thinking, “Okay then what?! How do I apply this to my life so I don’t pass along people-pleasing habits to my kid?”
Start by noticing the moments when they clearly know what they want (yes, even when it’s ice cream at 4pm.)
A child saying “I want ___” isn’t being difficult. They’re practicing using their voice. They’re practicing not shrinking, not apologizing, not guessing what someone else wants first. That’s a skill worth protecting.
So first, name their feeling: “You really want ice cream. I love that you speak up for what you want.”
And then I set the boundary I need: “We’re not having ice cream today.”
Our kids learn: My wants make sense… and my parent can still say no.
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