Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram – Oftentimes We work so hard to exist as Ourselves that if anything shifts or changes over time We can be terrified of embracing that change. I find this especially within identity, gender and sexuality that often it’s not embraced for a being to be able to pivot. It’s as if there is a betrayal of a community. Or there may be a disenfranchisement of identity because if someone changes their mind once on something so big then They will “likely do it again”. Mocked. Untrusted. Even feared. There is a desperate demand from family, friends or the world in general for people to remain a singular label once They “arrive to it”. However, Our existence in the world is flowing. Our knowledge of what We want for Ourselves often expands. We learn new things about the way We love or feel loved or lovable. We experience new possibilities and people.
Sometimes, the language We use for our existence and identity is and always will remain what was given to Us by others at birth. This is very valid and if it is the singular truth of someone then that is wonderful and should be respected.
At other times, when there are those who find Their descriptors are deviating from what They were before- They need to know simple things along that journey. They too are valid. They aren’t broken. That every second is arrival and We don’t need “one destination” in life. That language and labels one chooses for Themselves are indeed a choice. They can be trialed. Rejected. Reinvented. Or invented for the first time. And should something shift it doesn’t mean that all along You were “wrong”- and that You may be “wrong” again. It means that You were as You were with what You knew and that was valid when it was Your truth. And Truth can change without it’s past becoming a lie.
For some as well- the arrival to the identity They now use is proof that They are finally as They have always been. But had been told They were not.
Whatever Your journey is- it is YOURS. Your truth. Your language. Your adventure. And We are here to support You by loving the You that You are.
Can You accept others if they change their identity descriptors?
#storytime #questiontime #lgbtqia #foryoupage #genderqueer | Posted on 23/Feb/2023 23:24:10
