Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram – If You or a friend say “sorry” as a habit- when an apology isn’t needed- then it’s ok! It’s a normal human cultural conditioning that occurs. But studies show- cultural continuous apologies can contribute to lower self esteem and confidence. It can also lead to confusion and power imbalance- as well as social weaponizing and gaslighting. Language is just a completely made up thing, however the consequences can still be effective of the sounds and words we share. There’s nothing inferior or superior to shifting “sorry” to “thank You”- and whatever You choose to be right for You is. However if You are up to test how it feels- get a friend or family member to gently support You so that whenever You accidentally say “sorry” they remind You to say “thank You”. Eventually a habit will form with practice and it’s likely that You will experience a new type of engagement with people around You.
Examples:
“Sorry I’m late” < “Thanks for Your patience. Happy to be here!”
“Sorry for being emotional” < “Thanks for listening- let me know if You are at capacity”
“Sorry for asking” < “Thanks for Your help!”
It may seem hippie dippie. But I didn’t come up with this concept. Others have taught it before and it’s a lesson that has survived time because it does seem to work. Find the good in Yourself. In Others. In the world. Trust as many of those around You to set their own boundaries and to be good at the heart. At times You will be disappointed. At times people may be mean or rude in response. However, the positivity You will bring into peoples’ lives with gratitude fiest language will far outweigh the outlier or angst You may experience time to time.
Anyone else tried this before? What was Your experience? Who would You choose to be Your language accountability buddy?
#trythis #somethingnew #lgbtqia #parenting #languagelearning #fyp #howto | Posted on 03/Mar/2023 22:50:00
