Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram – It took a while to get out of the rut I was in because I didn’t know if it was ok to share how I was feeling with people that weren’t paid professionals. Which meant my friends and family were arms length isolated from supporting me through my experiences. I thought I was protecting them from my pain hut in reality I was stealing the opportunity of choice from them. Since I felt that I had been in this space for a while, and it wasn’t an instant fix, I kept it to myself. What was the use of upsetting others with something they couldn’t solve? I mean… what a bummer I was whenever I shared my feelings. Who really wants to be a constant bummer? No. Not me. Positive vibes only. Cheerleader only. Indignant for the justice for others’ causes only.
Turns out that love is circular and it must be circular. You will be surprised at the value and empowerment You provide others by allowing them to support You through the tough times in life. Even if those tough times seem perpetual. The key is allowing friends and family to set boundaries that You respect. If they say they are at capacity, thank them for sharing their truth. Celebrate it. It will empower them to be healthier in their own lives. If they want to show up, celebrate their love. Celebrate their wisdom. Allow them to turn former lessons of pain into power.
Therapy by professionals is important. If You are able to access it please do. It can be truly revolutionary. But at the very least, don’t do what I’ve done in the past- which is to push the people closest to the furthest spaces away from Your conflicts. You aren’t taking when You lean on them. You are giving them an opportunity to grow, give and gain as well.
Are You someone who is ok with being leaned on and setting boundaries when at capacity? Let people know in the comments. It’s important that others witness that there are far more support options than it might appear at first sight.
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