Jamie Otis Instagram – Pregnancy hormones def got the best of me yesterday🤪 I cried & ate Rexy’s bday cake all day😅 I just want the best for my children.💯 I want ALL of our family to *want* to be in their lives.🙏 …but people are busy and it’s nothing personal. We all go through seasons where we can be stressed or overwhelmed…we’ve allll forgotten a bday here and there. There should always be grace for that. That was the straw that broke my back, but that wasn’t what hurt the most yesterday… What really hurt my heart was the realization that the same people who we love so much & we so desperately want to be in their lives just don’t feel the same about us – they don’t go out of their way to stay in touch unless its convenient for them. My therapist showed me this about our family dynamics years ago. I’ll never forget what she said .. “they’re not your people” .. that was the first time I realized family may not be “my people”🤯 … and IT’S OK!👌 But it wasn’t ok for me. I didn’t want to believe it. I kept working towards trying to stay close.🙏 I’ve wanted family so bad! The one thing I told the experts way back when I got married at first sight was that I want to be married into a big, loving, accepting family. But people are busy and they have different priorities and needs. And even family who you love can be jealous of you or constantly find your faults & not like you. (Why does that hurt so bad?)😭 Seems like common sense but therapy has helped me learn that you can’t force people-not even family-into loving you🤦🏼‍♀️🤪 It’s helped me recognize when people are trying and when they’re not-and to place boundaries with those who just aren’t-no matter how much you love them and want them to WANT to be in your life too. I’ve really started setting boundaries & I’ve lost people bc of it. Birthdays and holidays are hard bc it’s a huge reminder of the loss of the people you love who are still living but don’t care to do life with you. If you’re in this boat too – you’re not alone.🙏 I’m sorry bc I know it hurts😕 let yourself cry but then go out and find “your people” and do life with them. There are people out there who can’t wait to be part of your “family”🥰