“Lights On” is UP and available on B-Side App 📲 We spend time in these first few episodes on our experience and what we are learning in the midst of it all. What happened to me? Why did it take so long to talk? What are the consequences for living with lies? Why did Laura stay married to me? Who’s at fault? We have been asked questions like these for a long time and these answers will bring some honest clarity. Episode 2 will drop tomm! We talk about my recovery steps, what you discover when you pursue the root of a problem, what happened to my friendships and how we feel about Hillsong church…Hope you check it out!
One month of LIGHTS ON! 🔦 Thank you for the support and love and encouragement for this podcast. It means a lot to us, really didn’t know what to expect! Thank you to the @bside_app team that has worked so hard to help produce something that matters! Tomm episode is one I wasn’t going to use because it felt too vulnerable.. but after some further thought (and some safety edits lol) the feedback we have gotten is that it’s helpful to see how our family is processing some things. This convo with @avaangellentz @charliejaynelentz covers a lot. Including how to build trust again in your family after that trust is broken so badly.. a lot of families have to go through this to some degree, perhaps our experience as we know it can help you navigate your own… in short for us: NO. FAMILY. SECRETS! Episode drops tomm, hope it’s helpful!
One month of LIGHTS ON! 🔦 Thank you for the support and love and encouragement for this podcast. It means a lot to us, really didn’t know what to expect! Thank you to the @bside_app team that has worked so hard to help produce something that matters! Tomm episode is one I wasn’t going to use because it felt too vulnerable.. but after some further thought (and some safety edits lol) the feedback we have gotten is that it’s helpful to see how our family is processing some things. This convo with @avaangellentz @charliejaynelentz covers a lot. Including how to build trust again in your family after that trust is broken so badly.. a lot of families have to go through this to some degree, perhaps our experience as we know it can help you navigate your own… in short for us: NO. FAMILY. SECRETS! Episode drops tomm, hope it’s helpful!
One month of LIGHTS ON! 🔦 Thank you for the support and love and encouragement for this podcast. It means a lot to us, really didn’t know what to expect! Thank you to the @bside_app team that has worked so hard to help produce something that matters! Tomm episode is one I wasn’t going to use because it felt too vulnerable.. but after some further thought (and some safety edits lol) the feedback we have gotten is that it’s helpful to see how our family is processing some things. This convo with @avaangellentz @charliejaynelentz covers a lot. Including how to build trust again in your family after that trust is broken so badly.. a lot of families have to go through this to some degree, perhaps our experience as we know it can help you navigate your own… in short for us: NO. FAMILY. SECRETS! Episode drops tomm, hope it’s helpful!
One month of LIGHTS ON! 🔦 Thank you for the support and love and encouragement for this podcast. It means a lot to us, really didn’t know what to expect! Thank you to the @bside_app team that has worked so hard to help produce something that matters! Tomm episode is one I wasn’t going to use because it felt too vulnerable.. but after some further thought (and some safety edits lol) the feedback we have gotten is that it’s helpful to see how our family is processing some things. This convo with @avaangellentz @charliejaynelentz covers a lot. Including how to build trust again in your family after that trust is broken so badly.. a lot of families have to go through this to some degree, perhaps our experience as we know it can help you navigate your own… in short for us: NO. FAMILY. SECRETS! Episode drops tomm, hope it’s helpful!
We realized quickly that we had to use time correctly and intentionally… because time alone is not a healer… In my experience it’s been a suppressor of things that should have been dealt with. In episode 2, we talk about time, relationships and the future… you can watch it now exclusively on the B-Side App 📲 Thanks for listening!
Thanks for listening to this conversation! Much of my journey in this chapter has involved staying focused on my role in any equation. I’ve found it expedites healing.. Tomm episode includes some heavy but important things.. we talk about addiction, sexual trauma, rehab, Hillsong Church, friendships and about the blurred lines between a culture of protection vs a culture of cover up. Hope you can glean something meaningful from it.. appreciate all the feedback so far, it’s humbling and we are grateful. EP 1 out now on B-Side App Tonight @ 8PM ET YouTube
Life is good.. @romanbrettlentz you make it GREAT! You have so many gifts and strengths, the one I love the most is your deep kindness towards others.. I love you! You might not be my “little” guy anymore but you will always be MY GUY!
Life is good.. @romanbrettlentz you make it GREAT! You have so many gifts and strengths, the one I love the most is your deep kindness towards others.. I love you! You might not be my “little” guy anymore but you will always be MY GUY!
Life is good.. @romanbrettlentz you make it GREAT! You have so many gifts and strengths, the one I love the most is your deep kindness towards others.. I love you! You might not be my “little” guy anymore but you will always be MY GUY!
This was a hard conversation to have. As most dads will tell you, humiliating your children and family is the last thing you would ever want to do. And unfortunately thats what I did. Yet, there is always hope if you don’t quit. My family is a testament to that. In this EP 2 we talk about a lot including my addictive patterns and what rehab showed me. Thanks for checking it out! P.S. @avaangellentz I still read that letter and it still moves me deeply. I love you!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
1# in Documentary and TOP 50 (#44) in all genre I am overwhelmed by the support. Thank you sincerely for giving this content a fair opportunity to be heard. I think it is indicative of many people being very interested in what honesty and vulnerability can look like. That’s literally all we have to offer. So to see it be received so well, I am really grateful. I put the letters my kids wrote to me after I went to rehab. It was the darkest day of my life. Today, we are not in that dark place. We have a long way to go and always will but Im learning how to count the wins as I go. @lauralentz you are the reason there is a family to talk about and Im grateful for you.. To anybody else that has made mistakes and the road to making it right seems really really long: it is. I’ll be on that road for the rest of my life and there is room for anybody to walk it. You cant quit and you can’t look back… Much love, thanks again for the support!
Feb, 2019… I got a chance to meet with/ Dr. Amen, the world reknown brain doctor about my health, including getting a brain scan. When we met about the results, he said… “I think you need to step away from ministry and focus on brain health. Im really concerned about what I saw.” That was one of a number of warnings I got and did not listen to. But I am now! I look back on moments like that and I just didn’t realize what holistic health really was. Mind, body, soul has taken on a completely different meaning in my life and I thank Dr. Amen for a lot of it! You might hear something in this episode that changes your life and habits…we talk about: -what the truth is about brain health.. -is marijuana helping or hurting people? -what your brain might reveal about your quality of life -how to heal something you have damaged.. -how his faith in Jesus impacted his research.. .. and more! You can listen now! on all audio platforms !! Watch today at 2PM CT on B-Side App
I can only speak to my experience in ministry but I’m told it’s the same in any lane of life: people keep secrets. And you simply can’t win when you do. Nobody ever “gets away with” anything! God has his kind way of exposing the truth. The only variation is want kind of life you want to live. You can live with secrets and be privately miserable in your soul forever. Or you can get honest, possibly lose face in public but live in honest freedom. If you see this today and your holding secrets that are painful, consider what is at stake. I got “caught.” It’s not the same as being honest on your own accord and sometimes the consequences are exponentially worse. I’m sharing my story so hopefully somebody might see the wreckage and chose another path. Yes! God can restore and repair. But He can also be protection if you listen, so what you love doesn’t need repair. Thats the best option. There is no day like today, to confront something that has controlled you for way too long! Turn the lights on. Somebody will eventually, mine as well be you! Check out this episode, it’s full of really applicable help!
Episode 5 has something for everybody and represents the driving motivator for us to do this podcast, which is to share the wisdom, hope and help we have access to with anybody who needs it. My therapist Alex Katahakis, is brilliant, kind and doesn’t subscribe to “therapist coddling.” She is a disrupter in the most beautiful way and has taught me so much. We talk about: -sexuality -secrets -narcissism -addiction -marriage -gaslighting yourself in traumatic relationships and more… it’s all information that has the potential to be truly transformative. It has been for us! Thank you for listening, I know this one will be a huge help! 🎧Available on ALL audio platforms 🅱️Watch NOW on B-Side app 📺Watch on YouTube at 3PM ET
You don’t end up in a lost, broken place overnight. You don’t get out of that place over night either! It’s a long, arduous road at times. But if you ask honest questions, confront some fears and commit to changing deep character issues there is so much hope on the other side of those choices.. “the program” we reference here starts with a fresh commitment to surrender again to Gods will for your life. I’m grateful that door never ever closes on anybody… Hope you are enjoying this episode! Available on ALL platforms 🎧📺 B-Side App YouTube Spotify Apple
I think all these are must listen! This episode is no different and it’s so helpful. Dr.Amen has spent his life studying and understanding the brain. Because all he does is rooted in his faith, this information can help make sense of complex things on a few different levels. From the spiritual to the practical: Why do I think like this? Why can’t I stop? Why do some people just seem smarter, stronger, more disciplined? Is my faith weak? Or might there be more at play than I realize? Can I use marijuana or is it damaging my brain every time I do? If trauma, choices and habits have damaged my brain, can I repair it??? If you have ever asked those questions, there is light to be shed on all of it.. hope this is a blessing to you! As far as the Diet Coke issue, I’m pretty sad and haven’t made my final decision yet…
June is a month focused on the mental health of men, something I am really passionate about… I knew that living with secrets was hurting me and eventually everybody I loved. What I didn’t know is the insidious mental damage it does to a person when they hold things, battle in isolation, live with active lies, refuse to talk about or share their real feelings. This is common among humans but even more pronounced with Men. A great place to start taking inventory, is to shine some light on a dark area of your life with somebody you trust. When I finally did that because I really had no choice, I became aware of addictive patterns, manipulative behavior and negative thought anchors that enabled those patterns that I was blind too. I also found that with honesty there was hope for me! And that’s true for anybody. If you are struggling in silence today, reach out to somebody! It’s often the first step to real freedom… Gods plan is freedom, not a lifetime of mental bondage. Check out this episode if you haven’t yet, heard from many that it’s really helpful! Available on ALL platforms!! Find all 🔗 in bio
