Hello. I ditched the glasses 🤓 and put on falsies for a podcast/radio/YouTube show today. (Will be out around Xmas). Hello. 2025 kicked my ass, in a variety of ways. Somehow grateful for it, for everything that’s leading me to whatever is next, which might be big or might be I disappear, who knows it could go any which way. My capacity for slamming into rocks (metaphorically) has been tested and turns out I’m good at it. While appearing fine on the outside. While things look like they’re going well yet the behind the scenes is quite different. Still, I’m thankful. When this happens one is pushed to lean farther and farther into faith, what can’t be seen or measured. I’m here for it all. I love you. 🤍 Unrelated: there’s a cougars for @yungblud account and I’m here for that too. 😳😜 @yungbludcougarsquad 🔥 hello hello 🖤
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
Moving! 😳🤪😣 Don’t worry I’m not leaving New York. Just temporarily stepping away from Manhattan. Am still *here* for what I moved back here for. Probably it’s one of those things where you have to take a few steps backwards to catch your breath, before you can take the running leap? 2025 knocked me down. I always get back up. Always keep going. I love YOU. And me. Since we’re the same anyway. 😜🩷🌱✨💫 More from me at Substack. Of course… LINKS IN BIO. Hit my buttons lol
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
I wrote a thing on my Substack a few days ago. Putting it here too bc why not. Maybe it helps someone who’s also felt … weird. Something’s shifted. As if it’s all about to make more sense. As if it was all for a purpose. Here for it. 🙂 Link to my Substack and everything else in my bio-links. Happy November and lighter mornings. 🕥☀️💫🌱💓 Pic by my friend @wouldntitbecool 📸
In 2008 I wrote this essay. Listening to @hubermanlab’s podcast this morning I heard the same issue discussed, with @chrispalmermd likening processed food now to the tobacco industry of many decades ago. So many years have passed and the mission I wrote about in ‘08 is *still* my mission—I just got taken down, temporarily. (Or, characterize what happened however you want, for now). At risk of saying a bold thing, it seems like the reason I’m here. If you want to read it, it’s in my bio links or can be found by going to my website sarmaraw.com and clicking through the second page on the “writing” tab. I’ll also add it to story highlights. I love you. 🌱💫💓
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My best impression of a smile. 🙂 This post is to suggest that someone on your Xmas list may be thrilled to receive what they didn’t know they wanted: a copy of my memoir signed to them. 🎉🎄I’m here and available to do it and mail out asap. It’s the top link in my bio. Also in that link you’ll see options to get a regular one, either direct from the printer (preferable) or the one where Amazon gets a big cut. All good all ways, I’m grateful for all of them. With LOVE, Sarma ❤️💚❤️💚
“You didn’t stand a chance.” After reading Sarma Melngailis’ old diaries, I realized how a predator used her deepest hopes and fears as a roadmap. Her openness and vulnerability were studied — then weaponized. For Sarma, whose story was distorted in Netflix’s Bad Vegan, hearing “it wasn’t your fault” is a balm after years of being blamed for not “seeing the red flags.” Predators plan. #SarmaMelngailis #BadVegan #CoerciveControl #SurvivorVoices #TraumaRecovery #Gaslighting #WTFisOnMyMind
Coercive control pushes survivors into emotional corners that most people will never understand. When someone is chronically degraded, isolated, and trapped in a no-win reality, the nervous system goes into survival mode — and reactions can become extreme because the situation is extreme. In the Perfect Prey episode, Sarma Melngailis shares how relentless psychological pressure left her feeling cornered, enraged, and terrified by her own reactions. This is what coercive control does: it wears down agency, distorts perception, and pushes the brain far beyond its window of tolerance. These responses are human, not shameful. Survivors deserve compassion, not judgment. 💙 🎧 Watch the full episode on Perfect Prey — YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts. #PerfectPreyPodcast #DrChristineCocchiola #SarmaMelngailis #CoerciveControl #TraumaResponse #PsychologicalAbuse #BadVegan #SurvivorStories #TraumaInformed
