This year on @joakimgomez birthday we did a book swap and he sent me this book called βfacing codependenceβ that honestly was one of those books that was exactly what I needed.
Essentially Pia, the author, talks about codependence as a result of not learning/taught how to set and respect boundaries. I wanna share with you guys a snippet that while seems very straightforward gave me a great basis on understanding boundaries (swipe!). She splits it into internal and external boundaries. Internal boundaries being emotional – external, physical. She describes her internal boundary like a bullet-proof vest with doors that only open inward, where she has control over what she allows in; while her external boundary is like a bell jar that protects her, and she can decide how far the jar extends. These boundaries are put in place for us to respect not only our needs, but the needs of others, as she proposes that if we donβt understand our own boundaries, weβre more likely to cross into other peopleβs boundaries too, and itβs this invasion of boundaries that often cause turmoil to those on either side.
This process of setting and respecting boundaries is something Iβve been focusing on a lot more lately. I really appreciated this visual of the bell jar and vest because it reminds me that I have full control of my own life, and as do others. It reminds me to exercise empathy in treating both myself and the people around me. To learn how to coexist while moving through different journeys in life. More often than not, weβre going to be stepping on each otherβs toes. Especially online where anonymity and lack of physical interaction can be a shield that allows for harsher interaction and blurs lines between joking and bullying, and Iβm thankful that we have differences because it means everyone is unique. But in the process, I think we can all learn how to be nicer, how to be more respectful.
Itβs a weird feeling to communicate with people digitally, where often nuances of tone, intentions are lost. All in all, and especially as we learn to traverse the digital world β thank you for being so nice! In all the moments youβve practiced humility, empathy, generosity.
This year on @joakimgomez birthday we did a book swap and he sent me this book called βfacing codependenceβ that honestly was one of those books that was exactly what I needed.
Essentially Pia, the author, talks about codependence as a result of not learning/taught how to set and respect boundaries. I wanna share with you guys a snippet that while seems very straightforward gave me a great basis on understanding boundaries (swipe!). She splits it into internal and external boundaries. Internal boundaries being emotional – external, physical. She describes her internal boundary like a bullet-proof vest with doors that only open inward, where she has control over what she allows in; while her external boundary is like a bell jar that protects her, and she can decide how far the jar extends. These boundaries are put in place for us to respect not only our needs, but the needs of others, as she proposes that if we donβt understand our own boundaries, weβre more likely to cross into other peopleβs boundaries too, and itβs this invasion of boundaries that often cause turmoil to those on either side.
This process of setting and respecting boundaries is something Iβve been focusing on a lot more lately. I really appreciated this visual of the bell jar and vest because it reminds me that I have full control of my own life, and as do others. It reminds me to exercise empathy in treating both myself and the people around me. To learn how to coexist while moving through different journeys in life. More often than not, weβre going to be stepping on each otherβs toes. Especially online where anonymity and lack of physical interaction can be a shield that allows for harsher interaction and blurs lines between joking and bullying, and Iβm thankful that we have differences because it means everyone is unique. But in the process, I think we can all learn how to be nicer, how to be more respectful.
Itβs a weird feeling to communicate with people digitally, where often nuances of tone, intentions are lost. All in all, and especially as we learn to traverse the digital world β thank you for being so nice! In all the moments youβve practiced humility, empathy, generosity.
Maybe you canβt tell, but Iβm actually cinderella. Just w a skateboard for my horse and carriage & hoodie, backpack, pants combo aka ballgown dress.
@coach #CoachNY #HorseAndCarriage
Seamless integration across my devices, whether im hopping from track to track or multitasking across multiple platforms is my favourite thing about this Galaxy ecosystem !! Having technology reduce friction so I can spend less time thinking – wait – what was I going to do again?? π¬
#GalaxyZFold3 #GalaxyWatch4 #GalaxyBuds2
Seamless integration across my devices, whether im hopping from track to track or multitasking across multiple platforms is my favourite thing about this Galaxy ecosystem !! Having technology reduce friction so I can spend less time thinking – wait – what was I going to do again?? π¬
#GalaxyZFold3 #GalaxyWatch4 #GalaxyBuds2
πGIVEAWAY
#RuleTheQuiet with @bose QuietComfort Earbudsβ 11 levels of noise cancellation, and block out white noise (or a noisy neighbour) or listen to jams while youβre in the car. Music has always been a source of inspiration for me, and the Bose QC Earbuds helps me tune out the world whenever I need to find inspiration, and get in the hustle zone quickly!
Whenever I have them on, I get lost in my thoughts as I enjoy the crisp, clear audio and rich, deep bass of the QC Earbuds. Psst. they come in Soapstone, Triple Black and limited-edition Stone Blue and Sandstone (the ones Iβm wearing!)
Want to get your hands on a pair of limited-edition QuietComfort Earbuds? Iβm giving away ONE pair of the limited-edition Sandstone QC Earbuds and all you have to do is leave a comment below on what your passions are and how the Bose QC Earbuds can help you get into the zone! Hurry, contest ends on 21 December
#BoseSG #BoseEarbuds #TeamBose
πGIVEAWAY
#RuleTheQuiet with @bose QuietComfort Earbudsβ 11 levels of noise cancellation, and block out white noise (or a noisy neighbour) or listen to jams while youβre in the car. Music has always been a source of inspiration for me, and the Bose QC Earbuds helps me tune out the world whenever I need to find inspiration, and get in the hustle zone quickly!
Whenever I have them on, I get lost in my thoughts as I enjoy the crisp, clear audio and rich, deep bass of the QC Earbuds. Psst. they come in Soapstone, Triple Black and limited-edition Stone Blue and Sandstone (the ones Iβm wearing!)
Want to get your hands on a pair of limited-edition QuietComfort Earbuds? Iβm giving away ONE pair of the limited-edition Sandstone QC Earbuds and all you have to do is leave a comment below on what your passions are and how the Bose QC Earbuds can help you get into the zone! Hurry, contest ends on 21 December
#BoseSG #BoseEarbuds #TeamBose
A Gin & tonic to me is the adult lemonade, and the adultier version is adding a few slices of ginger because weβre complex beings with complex feeling and the extra ginger spice makes the Roku florals extra nice!
Japanese Craft Gin made with six unique Japanese botanicals, Roku has been a mainstay in my home and the four bottles they so kindly gifted to me disappeared in a week π€«ππ»ββοΈ it wasnβt me mom it was my friends !!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for having me @suntory_rokugin πΈ
Lifeβs too short for stiff hair and stiff wear. Stiff rules make you drool, and tigers are cool ππ―
Unleash Your Greatness with #FootLockerSingapore ππ»
Lifeβs too short for stiff hair and stiff wear. Stiff rules make you drool, and tigers are cool ππ―
Unleash Your Greatness with #FootLockerSingapore ππ»
Lifeβs too short for stiff hair and stiff wear. Stiff rules make you drool, and tigers are cool ππ―
Unleash Your Greatness with #FootLockerSingapore ππ»
Lifeβs too short for stiff hair and stiff wear. Stiff rules make you drool, and tigers are cool ππ―
Unleash Your Greatness with #FootLockerSingapore ππ»
indoctrinated into the world of crocs together with none other than @joietan whomst crocs’ journey ive been following for YEARS. DEDICATION is word here, and TEAMWORK because neither of us could finish the interactive game floor Jibbitz Challenge aloneπ Are you game for the challenge?
also left with a minor headache cause choosing Jibbitz from the Jibbitz bar is a whole obsession. thanks @crocs.sg for having us at your newly revamped store !
#jibbitzchallenge #sp
indoctrinated into the world of crocs together with none other than @joietan whomst crocs’ journey ive been following for YEARS. DEDICATION is word here, and TEAMWORK because neither of us could finish the interactive game floor Jibbitz Challenge aloneπ Are you game for the challenge?
also left with a minor headache cause choosing Jibbitz from the Jibbitz bar is a whole obsession. thanks @crocs.sg for having us at your newly revamped store !
#jibbitzchallenge #sp
indoctrinated into the world of crocs together with none other than @joietan whomst crocs’ journey ive been following for YEARS. DEDICATION is word here, and TEAMWORK because neither of us could finish the interactive game floor Jibbitz Challenge aloneπ Are you game for the challenge?
also left with a minor headache cause choosing Jibbitz from the Jibbitz bar is a whole obsession. thanks @crocs.sg for having us at your newly revamped store !
#jibbitzchallenge #sp
Exploring dream worlds both old and new with @penhaligons_london. Citrus orange, jasmine, soft roses make me feel hugged and electrified all at once.
Available at Sephora ION and online at Sephora.com
#Penhaligons #britishtales #luna #endymion
The Year of the Tiger means instinct. It means flow. It means to Unleash Your Greatness. π
2022 is the time to learn to do all the things that have been put on the βback burnerβ for the sake of a βcareerβ.
@narellekheng
#FootLockerSingapore
