We were on season 1 of Married At First Sight.π°πΌπ€΅ββοΈ They all laughed and mocked us when we said, “I do” as complete strangers.π€·πΌββοΈ Back then no one had ever done it before. (I literally didn’t even know my hubby’s name until our wedding day sooo maybe they had valid reason to call us cray cray!?!)π€ͺ lol!π
But that’s the thing about society norms – they can really hold ya back.π―
If I had listened to everyone’s criticism & never followed my heart I would’ve missed out on growing a love like I’ve never known.β€οΈ
Don’t get me wrong, maybe it was a tv marriage, but it HAS NOT always been a fairy tale!π¬
I literally had a full blown panic attack on my wedding day bc I had just legally committed my life to a complete stranger who I wasn’t even attracted to. π (My long time girlfrans def know this already & I’ll never be able to live it down.π€£ Crying on the floor trying to hide my my tears with a translucent veil was prob not my best moment in life.)π€¦πΌββοΈπ
I went through with #marriedatfirstsight though bc I desperately wanted a family. I wanted someone to share my life with.
I got that and so much more in my hubby, @doughehner.β€οΈ
We will forever be thankful to everyone at MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT (you know who you areπ) who believed in this crazy concept and somehow convinced us to believe in it too!ππ€£
This week we snuck away from our beautiful babies so we could work on spicing up our marriage & hopefully adding two more baby feet to our little fam bam!ππΌπ€°πΌπ€πΌ(Pun totally intended.ππΌ I get my dad jokes from my hubby … we’ve been together too long)π
@spiceislandbeachresort is by far one the fanciest, most relaxing getaways we’ve ever been on!π―
If we get our way, we’re gonna leave here preggers!π€πΌ Throwing that right out into the universe!ππΌ
I was hoping to already be pregnant so on our road trip (we leave April 1st!!!!) across America id be out of the first trimester and into the second, but at this point, I’ll deal w the first trimester nausea on the road! If we have to cut the trip short it’d be worth it!!!
Anyway, I’m just rambling now!π€ͺπ If you wanna send sticky baby dust our way, we’d appreciate it!πΆπΌβ¨
This was just moments before my baby became unresponsive, stopped breathing and his lips turned blue.π’
We had just got done hiking the badlands in South Dakota. He seemed completely fine during our hike. He wanted to be held which was off for him, but he had no signs of being even slightly sick.
I wasn’t sure if I was being “paranoid” or “anxious” but my mama instincts were telling me something was “off” with him.
I just wasn’t sure what?
I had a work phone call when we got home so I went in the bedroom while Doug fed the kids dinner.
When I came out Doug said Rexy seemed fine & even ate dinner.
I held him on the couch and felt him. He felt a little warm to me so I checked his temp. He had a mild fever of 101.4.
We IMMEDIATELY gave him Tylenol bc he’s had febrile seizures before. I hoped we had caught it in time. Apparently, we did not.
And this time it wasn’t quite the same as before.
With his previous seizures he’d twitch a lot, moan lightly, & foam at the mouth a little or throw up a little.
This time, his legs twitched briefly, his eyes had no focus and rolled to the back of his head, and then he stopped breathing for what seemed like forever.
I tried to stay calm for my daughter, but when I looked down at my baby with a grey face, blue lips, a limp body – completely unresponsive, not even twitching – I lost it.
I genuinely thought he was dying.π’
I ran out of our RV and screamed “help!!!!” like a maniac bc I thought we’d need to do CPR.
Doug was on the phone with 911 the whole time & they worked so hard to get to us quickly.
Interior, South Dakota emergency personnel, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM
OF OUR HEARTS!ππΌβ€οΈ
Once Hendrix became responsive and stable again Doug looked at me and said, “you have some instincts!”
Mamas, even if you think you’re being “paranoid” or “anxious” β trust your instincts.π―β€οΈ
This weekend marks the beginning of summer.βοΈ We all have body hair, stretch marks, cellulite, and rollsβ¦Wear the suit and go enjoy yourself.πππ
THE BEST SHOCK OF OUR LIVES!ππ€°πΆπΆπIβM PREGNANT WITH IDENTICAL TWIN BOYS!!!π²ππ₯³π
Full vid is on our YouTube channel Hanging With The Hehners & Iβve linked it in my bio & stories for ya!!! You gotta watch – itβs THE BEST!π₯Ήπ
Like – what are the chances?! The boys are in separate sacs and each have their own placentas so I definitely assumed our twins were fraternal. (Itβs the teeniest, tiniest chance theyβd be identical like this.) Fraternal twins run on my side of the family too. Identical twins are more rare – identical twin boys are the rarest.
But I PRAYED for identical.π Iβve always wanted identical twins!π―
AND THEYRE IDENTICAL?!?π€°π±π₯³ππ€π€
On our journey to becoming parents weβve always lost the first pregnancy (or two) before having a viable pregnancy. Iβve been scared sh!tless that weβd lose this one, too. It took us 3 years to get that positive test and it was a SURPRISE when that pregnancy test came back positive!
But these boys are sticking.ππ
Iβm a girl who LOVES SURPRISES! And let me tell ya, the surprises have just kept coming with these precious boys!π€π€
First getting pregnant! Then the first ultrasound when we found out theyβre twins! I really thought theyβd be girls but each gender reveal confirmed there was a boy β¦. And then the doctorβs blood work now confirming theyβre IDENTICAL!
WOW! Im amazed and thankful and feeling so blessed.ππ I keep asking God what I did to deserve these blessings!!??π₯Ήπ₯Ή
βAfter every storm thereβs a rainbowβ and God has given us a DOUBLE RAINBOW! π π
I will forever be thankful and Iβll be doing my best to continue blessing others however I can bc I really believe in paying it forward!ππ
THANK YOU TO MY SWEETEST COMMUNITY OF GIRLFRANS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND PRAYERS!!
****I AM SO THANKFUL FOR YOU!!!****
These boys (and their big sis and bro) have the best internet fraunties! Loooove you!! ππππ
#identicaltwins #pregnancy #twinpregnancy #preggo #pregnancydiary #pregnancyjourney #thankfulgratefulblessed
I will never know what itβs like to be pregnant, or grow twins inside of me, but I do see the toll it takes on Jamie. After going through multiple pregnancies, Iβve learned that on any given day, you need to be prepared to take over completely. Let her know she never has to apologize or justify needing to sleep a little longer, or asking me to get random things or specific foods, or saying you need alone time.
Jamie, you are beautiful, and strong, and have taken care of all of us! The kids and I are more than happy to take care of you with whatever you need, whenever you need it, no matter what it isβ¦.because you are amazing!
#pregnant #twinpregnancy #marriedlife #dadlife #momlife #parenting #positivevibes #smilemore #dadsofinstagram #pregnancy #twins #family #together #happy #blessed
Today Iβm 17 weeks & 1 day pregnant w these twins, which is the exact same time I birthed & said goodbye to our first son, JohnathanππΌπ
I was saying to Doug this morning that itβs an odd feeling knowing exactly how big our babies are inside me β¦ I donβt need fruit comparisons to tell me bc I delivered & held our first baby at this exact time.π€°
I remember very clearly how big (small, really) his precious, perfectly formed hands and feet wereβ¦& how delicate his skin was while I held him and kissed him before they took him away from me.πΌ
These twin baby boys are the same exact size now as he was then.πΆπΆ
Doug & I talked about how BLESSED we are to know these twins are safe and sound inside me. Iβve had ZERO complications with this pregnancy. And the blood test confirmed theyβre LOW RISK!ππ₯Ή Thank God!ππππ
We are *so thankful* that we got a chance to see our Johnathan and hold him for a short whileβ¦my heart will forever be broken and a piece of it will always be missing bc he took it to heaven with him.πΌ
But, Iβm *so grateful* I got to love on him & talk to him before he left us. I know heβs our guardian angel & watches over Henley and Hendrixβand he had a hand in sending us 2 more perfect baby boys.πππΆπΆ
When I held him I whispered in his ear & promised him that no matter what Iβd spend the rest of my life honoring his short one.π―
Johnathan, I hope you feel loved and honored all the way up in heaven today! Your mommy, daddy, little sis and brothers all love you so much! Thank you for keeping watch over us!
β¦ until we meet again sweet baby boy.πππΌπ
#pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #infantloss #infertility #infertilityawareness #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss
Today Iβm 17 weeks & 1 day pregnant w these twins, which is the exact same time I birthed & said goodbye to our first son, JohnathanππΌπ
I was saying to Doug this morning that itβs an odd feeling knowing exactly how big our babies are inside me β¦ I donβt need fruit comparisons to tell me bc I delivered & held our first baby at this exact time.π€°
I remember very clearly how big (small, really) his precious, perfectly formed hands and feet wereβ¦& how delicate his skin was while I held him and kissed him before they took him away from me.πΌ
These twin baby boys are the same exact size now as he was then.πΆπΆ
Doug & I talked about how BLESSED we are to know these twins are safe and sound inside me. Iβve had ZERO complications with this pregnancy. And the blood test confirmed theyβre LOW RISK!ππ₯Ή Thank God!ππππ
We are *so thankful* that we got a chance to see our Johnathan and hold him for a short whileβ¦my heart will forever be broken and a piece of it will always be missing bc he took it to heaven with him.πΌ
But, Iβm *so grateful* I got to love on him & talk to him before he left us. I know heβs our guardian angel & watches over Henley and Hendrixβand he had a hand in sending us 2 more perfect baby boys.πππΆπΆ
When I held him I whispered in his ear & promised him that no matter what Iβd spend the rest of my life honoring his short one.π―
Johnathan, I hope you feel loved and honored all the way up in heaven today! Your mommy, daddy, little sis and brothers all love you so much! Thank you for keeping watch over us!
β¦ until we meet again sweet baby boy.πππΌπ
#pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #infantloss #infertility #infertilityawareness #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss
Today Iβm 17 weeks & 1 day pregnant w these twins, which is the exact same time I birthed & said goodbye to our first son, JohnathanππΌπ
I was saying to Doug this morning that itβs an odd feeling knowing exactly how big our babies are inside me β¦ I donβt need fruit comparisons to tell me bc I delivered & held our first baby at this exact time.π€°
I remember very clearly how big (small, really) his precious, perfectly formed hands and feet wereβ¦& how delicate his skin was while I held him and kissed him before they took him away from me.πΌ
These twin baby boys are the same exact size now as he was then.πΆπΆ
Doug & I talked about how BLESSED we are to know these twins are safe and sound inside me. Iβve had ZERO complications with this pregnancy. And the blood test confirmed theyβre LOW RISK!ππ₯Ή Thank God!ππππ
We are *so thankful* that we got a chance to see our Johnathan and hold him for a short whileβ¦my heart will forever be broken and a piece of it will always be missing bc he took it to heaven with him.πΌ
But, Iβm *so grateful* I got to love on him & talk to him before he left us. I know heβs our guardian angel & watches over Henley and Hendrixβand he had a hand in sending us 2 more perfect baby boys.πππΆπΆ
When I held him I whispered in his ear & promised him that no matter what Iβd spend the rest of my life honoring his short one.π―
Johnathan, I hope you feel loved and honored all the way up in heaven today! Your mommy, daddy, little sis and brothers all love you so much! Thank you for keeping watch over us!
β¦ until we meet again sweet baby boy.πππΌπ
#pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #infantloss #infertility #infertilityawareness #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss
Today Iβm 17 weeks & 1 day pregnant w these twins, which is the exact same time I birthed & said goodbye to our first son, JohnathanππΌπ
I was saying to Doug this morning that itβs an odd feeling knowing exactly how big our babies are inside me β¦ I donβt need fruit comparisons to tell me bc I delivered & held our first baby at this exact time.π€°
I remember very clearly how big (small, really) his precious, perfectly formed hands and feet wereβ¦& how delicate his skin was while I held him and kissed him before they took him away from me.πΌ
These twin baby boys are the same exact size now as he was then.πΆπΆ
Doug & I talked about how BLESSED we are to know these twins are safe and sound inside me. Iβve had ZERO complications with this pregnancy. And the blood test confirmed theyβre LOW RISK!ππ₯Ή Thank God!ππππ
We are *so thankful* that we got a chance to see our Johnathan and hold him for a short whileβ¦my heart will forever be broken and a piece of it will always be missing bc he took it to heaven with him.πΌ
But, Iβm *so grateful* I got to love on him & talk to him before he left us. I know heβs our guardian angel & watches over Henley and Hendrixβand he had a hand in sending us 2 more perfect baby boys.πππΆπΆ
When I held him I whispered in his ear & promised him that no matter what Iβd spend the rest of my life honoring his short one.π―
Johnathan, I hope you feel loved and honored all the way up in heaven today! Your mommy, daddy, little sis and brothers all love you so much! Thank you for keeping watch over us!
β¦ until we meet again sweet baby boy.πππΌπ
#pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #infantloss #infertility #infertilityawareness #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss
Today Iβm 17 weeks & 1 day pregnant w these twins, which is the exact same time I birthed & said goodbye to our first son, JohnathanππΌπ
I was saying to Doug this morning that itβs an odd feeling knowing exactly how big our babies are inside me β¦ I donβt need fruit comparisons to tell me bc I delivered & held our first baby at this exact time.π€°
I remember very clearly how big (small, really) his precious, perfectly formed hands and feet wereβ¦& how delicate his skin was while I held him and kissed him before they took him away from me.πΌ
These twin baby boys are the same exact size now as he was then.πΆπΆ
Doug & I talked about how BLESSED we are to know these twins are safe and sound inside me. Iβve had ZERO complications with this pregnancy. And the blood test confirmed theyβre LOW RISK!ππ₯Ή Thank God!ππππ
We are *so thankful* that we got a chance to see our Johnathan and hold him for a short whileβ¦my heart will forever be broken and a piece of it will always be missing bc he took it to heaven with him.πΌ
But, Iβm *so grateful* I got to love on him & talk to him before he left us. I know heβs our guardian angel & watches over Henley and Hendrixβand he had a hand in sending us 2 more perfect baby boys.πππΆπΆ
When I held him I whispered in his ear & promised him that no matter what Iβd spend the rest of my life honoring his short one.π―
Johnathan, I hope you feel loved and honored all the way up in heaven today! Your mommy, daddy, little sis and brothers all love you so much! Thank you for keeping watch over us!
β¦ until we meet again sweet baby boy.πππΌπ
#pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #infantloss #infertility #infertilityawareness #rainbowbaby #pregnancyafterloss
We have shocking news!π We didnβt get any big surprises with this twin pregnancy this week.ππ I still canβt really feel them kick yet, I was sick as a dawg yesterday, and Iβm still tired as ever! Same βol same going on over here!π
Itβs been so fun to get so much GOOD news this pregnancy.π especially since this is the sickest Iβve ever been!π€ͺπ€°π And itβs been so fun having you on this journey with us!π₯°
For HEHNER YouTube Monday we are answering your most common questions and giving YOU shoutouts on our YouTube – linked in bio & on stories!πππ
If you saw my stories then you know I went shopping for the boys for the first time ever.π₯Ή of course it was just to target – straight to the clearance section!π―ππ
Every pregnancy after losing our first son Johnathan at 17 weeks, Iβm always scared Iβll lose the pregnancy. No matter how much I try to talk myself out of it the fear creeps up on me.
BUT THESE SWEET IDENTICAL BOYS ARE DEFINITELY STICKING ππ₯Ήππ₯Ή
I canβt wait to see what they look like & HOLD THEM IN MY ARMS!π€±π€±
#pregnancydiary #pregnancyjourney #twinpregnancy #preggolife #pregnancylife #twinmom #twinboys
I heard people were trying to βshameβ me for my βbadβ reaction to having two boysβ¦But these baby boys have our hearts!ππ
Iβm still blown away with this pregnancy & the BLESSINGS thatve been poured down on us.ππ₯Ή I really do believe βask and you shall receiveβ β¦ it may not be in your timing, but if you believe, you will receive.ππ€°π
Henley was definitely a little sad there wasnβt a girl in my belly at first.π She wanted a baby sister so badly and thereβs no shame in having a bit of gender shock – it happens, itβs normal, and itβs okπ―it doesnβt mean she will love them any less!
I mean look at her, she is already over it and saying things like βHendrix, guess what!! We will both have a baby so we donβt have to share!!!β she talks about them at school and is constantly talking to them through my belly.π₯Ή
Hendrix wanted boys all along so heβs happy as a clam!π
Doug and I just wanted them to be HEALTHY and STICK so we didnβt lose them first and foremost!π― But if Iβm being completely honest I also envisioned being more of a girl mom. I assumed for sure there was at least one girl in thereπ€
I think itβs wrong to try shaming women (or men!) for having initial gender shockβ¦.but people do it all the time.π
Im just very girly and always assumed Iβd have girls. I always longed for a close βmother-daughterβ relationship that I didnβt get to have with my mom so Iβve wanted that with my own daughters
I never had a father-daughter relationship either though. My βfather figuresβ would be in jail and come and go throughout my childhood. A friend said to me βMaybe these little boys were sent down from heaven by their big brother in heaven & God to give you some more positive male relationships in your life.βππ₯Ήπ
I donβt know why God chose to bless us with identical twin boys, but I have no doubt theyβre meant to be in our family and Iβm so excited to get to be their mommy. Heck, we are ALL EXCITED to get to have them in our family!πβΊοΈπβΊοΈ
Anyone else have gender shock or disappointment w a pregnancy and felt βwrongβ for it??? π€·πΌββοΈ
Iβm gonna get judged for this, but FOUR DAYS WITH NO THROWING UP & I donβt even feel nauseous!!! Judge all you want, Iβm over here THANKING GOD FOR THIS SLEEP!π₯³ππ
The kiddos have been wanting to sleep on the bunk bed in Hendrixβs room together sooooo I took over my daughterβs room the last couple nights!π I make Doug cuddle with me til I fall asleep and then I sleep so sound with all her stuffies and her white noise machine !!π€£ππ΄
My kids had been sleeping in their rooms all night for some time, but lately theyβve been waking up and coming in our room. When they come in I can never fall back asleepπ€ͺ Doug def doesnβt have this problem – that man can sleep through a hurricane!π
Since my daughter doesnβt wanna sleep in her room anyway I figured Iβd try it out! Oh my gosh, I donβt know if Iβll ever stop sleeping in there!π€£π€£π€£
I almost forgot how good it feels to SLEEP!π΄π
Insomnia is the worse and pregnancy insomnia a real thing! And I swear the lack of sleep makes me throw up more!π― I tell Doug now that Iβm sleeping so I can be more productive the next day!π What was your least fav symptom of pregnancy? What was your fav? π€°πΆπΆ
#momhacks #momlife #pregnancydiary #pregnancylife #twinpregnancy #preggo #preggers
Finally in the mood to flirt with my hubby after feeling nauseous & tired my whole first trimesterβ¦heβs loving itπ€£π€£π€£
I feel like the nausea may be getting better!! Iβve only thrown up a few times this week so I feel like I might be turning a corner!!!πππ
I am trying to spend as much quality time with each of my kids and hubby as I can before these babies come and steal all my attention!π₯Ή
I nursed both Henley & Hendrix the whole first year (plus some with Rexy) and I want to do the same for the twins!π€±
I just donβt even know HOW Iβm going to be able to breastfeed two babies at the same time! Itβs already a full time job with just one!π€ͺ But other mamas do it so Iβm gonna try my absolute best to be able to do it too!π
We have so dang much to do for these babies and I feel like this pregnancy is flying by.π° Thereβs no nursery or crib or really anything for them yet!π€ͺ BUT, I try to remind myself that all they really NEED is love. And this family (and all you internet fraunties) have a whole lot of that to give them!!! πππ
Is your partner anything like mine where you flirt the teeny tiniest bit and they jump all over it?!ππ€£ I feel like most men are like this!π
#marriagehumor #marriagegoals #husbandandwife #preggo #pregnancydiary #twinpregnancy #pregnancylife
Iβm at that awkward stage in pregnancy where i dont fully look pregnant but definitely donβt have a flat stomach, either. I feel blah, but these new outfits and my hubby encouraging me is making me feel better! This is prob my last pregnancy so I wanna have some fun with it!
I asked my Stitch Fix stylists for options AND im loving these! If youβre sick and tired of your same wardrobe but dont know where to start i cant tell you enough good things about Stitch Fix. They make it so easy for you to look your best and feel confident. Iβve got the link right in my bioΒ for ya!Β
Which outfit do you like more? 1 or 2?
#StitchFixPartner #StyleYouCanFeel #StitchFixStyle @StitchFix
IβMπSTILLπINπSHOCK!!!π We are SO EXCITED and HAPPY!πΆπΆ VIDEO IS LIVE ON OUR YOUTUBE!!π₯³π₯³ YOU READY GIRLFRAN?!?
I was so beyond SURPRISED with this news!π₯Ήπ₯Ήππ
You know we were trying to conceive for 3 years. We were told I had secondary infertility & IVF would be our best route (bc I had a slew of βissuesβ) β¦but the moment I left it truly in Gods hands for literally just a minute, HE HAS BEEN GIVING US BLESSINGS UPON BLESSINGS!π€―ππ€―π
Iβm not an overly βreligiousβ person. I donβt have my Bible next to my bed. I used to as a kid – church was my relief from a toxic home life. Iβd pray all the time like God was my father bc I didnβt have a father and the men in my life would be in and out of jail for abusing my mom. Iβd go to church every chance the trailer park owner where we lived would pick me up to take me bc it was such a relief from the negative energy at home.π―π―
I was wronged by a couple people in church and it made me scared to trust in church and the people there at large. I kinda let myself get βbusyβ after that and church became inconvenient. But let me tell ya, this whole pregnancy and how it all came about (and all of these incredible surprises with it!!!) have really made me want to connect with God on a deeper level & try to find the good people from church bc I know theyβre there.ππ₯Ήππ₯Ή
Anyway! TONIGHT at 8pm EST weβre sharing this news with you and we cannot wait!! Itβs on our YouTube channel Hanging With The Hehners! (Itβs linked in my stories and bio! Go there now, subscribe & turn your notifications on bc then youβll get a notice when itβs live and you wonβt miss it!!!)π₯³π₯³
Aaand, Iβll be going LIVE to share with my subscribers personally at 7:45 PM EST!π₯³π₯³ Iβd love to have ya in my lil exclusive corner of IG & I invite you to join me there!! *and if you do join – never mind the drama that came overnight inside thereπ€¦πΌββοΈπ€¦πΌββοΈβ¦itβs been addressed and has been HANDLEDππ
THIS PREGNANCY HAS BEEN SUCH A BLESSING FROM GOD AND IM JUST SO, SO THANKFUL.ππ
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK *YOU* FOR THE PRAYERS, LOVE & SUPPORT! WERE HAVING SO MICH FUN BRINGING YOU IN ON THIS TWIN PREGNANCY JOURNEY WITH US!π₯°π₯°
BIG NEWS!!! WE GOT THE πSHOCKπOF OUR LIVES!π π We are *so excited* to share! Tomorrow at 8pm EST on our YouTube channel!
This pregnancy has been surprise after surprise and we have been LOVING IT!π€°π€°πΆπΆππ
I canβt wait to share this amazing news with you tomorrow at 8pm EST! Subscribe to our YouTube channel Hanging With The Hehners so you donβt miss it!π₯°π₯°
Last night we went to an epic 90βs theme bday party and omg β¦ some of the outfits were absolutely iconic! I shared in my stories w ya!π₯³π₯³
Subscribers, Iβll see you LIVE at 7:45 bc I wanted to personally tell ya the news before we shared with everyone else!π€π€
I really didnβt think there could be any other surprises after finding out there are twins, then two boys β¦ but we got one more BIG ONE!π₯Ήπ₯Ή
Any guesses?!?! ππ
#marriedatfirstsight #mafs #twinpregnancy #preggo #twins #pregnancy #babybump #baby