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Lynn Toler Instagram - Of course we hope she’s okay. But it would be wasteful not to learn a lesson from her mishap. Your life becomes what you focus on. You know how sometimes you have to refresh your email in order to get a new one coming in? Well, I pressed refresh yesterday and it was wonderful. I have projects and stressors and this and that whirling about me in a way that has consumed me for a while. Then the most wonderful thing happened. (Stick with me because this one is a reach … but it was so real) I had an issue with two of my toilets. I had already had issues with another one twice. So me and The Flush King (and, yes, that’s the name of the company) discussed both my options and their frequent visits. One toilet was actually rocking. Next thing I know I have five guys in my house replacing all four of them. They were here all day. I crocheted and watched a documentary on The Periodic Table then one on the Mona Lisa. They were nice and they appreciated my sense of humor. Made my day. I dealt with a problem I could solve, got my head out of the computer, had some company all day. Since Zora had to stay outside she and I played a lot of fetch. I always feel like if I am not solving or working I am goofing off. That goofing off is what most folk call living. I need to remember that. A dumb thing to call a great day but you take the #joy you get. I also put up a bird feeder with a camera inside that connects to my phone while they were here. Now when a bird feeds I get an alert on my phone and I can watch it! Corny chicks are easily pleased. I’m lucky to be one. #emotionalintelligence #emotion Have a good day. Keep your head up.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I have always considered myself an accidental overachiever. I have goals but I usually miss that mark and in recovery find an option that’s better than the one I was aiming for. The trick is when you fall, look around where you are to see things from that perspective. You might humble up on an opportunity that wasn’t visible while standing. Or may all you get is a good story. I don’t know. Dude here was thinking though. He made the best out of a bad situation … looked good doing it too. Happy Friday! Shoutout @used_03_civic
Lynn Toler Instagram - We can compete and keep it cool. We can disagree without demeaning. We can but we won’t be able to if we all wait for the other guy to go first. If you lead with grace you still have access to your right hook should the other party go there. But you can’t lead with a right hook, realize you’re out matched and expect them to react well to newly expressed #grace. Relevant #Tolerism: If we manage how we feel in a constant deliberate way. We will be less likely to act a fool in such a consistent and destructive manner. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose (link to my podcast in bio) Shoutout @ana_walachowska and @baaartooszzzz Gorgeous people, no? I’d love to be able to do that.
Lynn Toler Instagram - The part that tickled me was the people on the left checking it out. I hope you guys had a good Thanksgiving. I made a pre-Thanksgiving dinner on Wednesday and ate with my sister and sons5and 6 of 6. I made Beef Wellington, roasted carrots and sautéed green beans. It was so good there was some back and forth about who got the last helping. Ah, what a new exciting feeling! On Thanksgiving my sister and I went to my neighbors house. They are the nicest people ever. We were in the family photo and everything. I switched up to get through it with minimal emotional machinations born of my current circumstance. I was, like my good woman here, making my own way. You know, you can step away from how you always do things and re-order them to fit your circumstances. Yesterday, I had to re-home Tess. I loved that dog and she loved me, but she would not stop pooping and peeing in the house. Not even after I got a doggy door. I spent thousands on trainers. The first one she bit. The second used to train wolves so he taught her some things but still couldn’t get on top of the guarding. No one but my boys and my sister could come to the house. I had a third trainer come for the home guarding issue. After an hour he left and refused to return. On my last visit to the vet, I had to lay on my back on the floor, wrap my legs around her body and my arms around her neck while a second tech held her legs and the third gave her a shot. They then sold me tranquilizers and said she has to be sedated before any further services would be rendered. I felt terrible re-homing her but I gave it a full year of all out effort. It’s probably my fault. I got her 5 days after BigE went away. I think I dumped a whole lot of crazy on her and it made her crazy too. I am waffling between relief from and grief for her. Anyway, you have to find a way no matter what comes your way. I have a wonderful life. Tough year, no doubt, but so so many blessings. I hope you guys are doing well and manage to find your own way through whatever’s stalking you. Shoutout @ngakaksehat cr: iqsm DM for further credit or removal.
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Lynn Toler Instagram - Of course I hope he’s okay and my caption was just a joke. I don’t know where he’s been or what physical issue he may have had that helped load him on the baggage carousel, but he was helped by all and he thanked everybody. Baggage carousels and I have a fraught relationship. At Logan Airport in 1978 I watched my ripped luggage deposit my clothing item by item the belt. All I could do is scoop them up as they rolled by. Once a mother I lived in fear of son6 of 6 jumping on it for a ride. He’d look at it then looked at me trying to figure out if I could snag him before he got his ride. He did this kind of thing a lot in a number of venues. Most of my gray hair has his name on it. Have a good day. Help the hapless. I am often among them. 🤣
Lynn Toler Instagram - Even though I am a law and order girl by trade, I still had to root for dude here. Outnumbered, no equipment… not even a shirt, my man bobbed and weaved and went right through them. I’m not sure why my dude was up on that roof or what went down just before. Bad guy, misunderstood guy, confused guy, distraught guy: we don’t know which one he is. What I do know is that he was committed to the proposition of not getting caught. I feel like that a lot. Not running from the authorities, but just running. I’m always just a little bit anxious and said #anxiety, has led to a number of less than optimal decisions. I hate conflict. I’m shy. And as a young person I thought Other People of any variety were problematic, distressing and intrusive. They didn’t even have to do anything to me either. Their presence in my airspace was disconcerting all on its own. I was always trying to be alone. When I went to college I wanted to be an anesthesiologist. You know, a doctor who puts people asleep. Dream job. Unconscious is just how I liked people back in the day. But in order to get into medical school you have to go to class in college… but once I figured out how to pass classes without going, I STAYED in my dorm room. Soaking up solitude and hanging with a few women friends who were gracious enough to put up with me. Got in and out with minimal effort and human contact. Something I regret to this day. As a function of those bad decisions (and it’s fair to presume some less than stellar reasoning got my man up on that roof.) I, not unlike dude, found myself bobbing and weaving through a profession that, by its very nature, offered nothing but conflict and waves of people with whom you were paid to spar. Then my reclusive behind married a dude with four kids. FOUR. What kind of self respecting wannabe recluse does that? Poor decision making and a nervous nature notwithstanding things turned ok. I hope whatever his issues, dude ends up okay too. Now as a law and order girl depending on what proceeded this scene ending up okay might require some jail time. You gotta pay to play. Have a fabulous Friday. Stay nimble. Should @wakeupwiththewolfshow @ryanfoxnow
Lynn Toler Instagram - I am a #widow working her way through the weeds of the holidays. Firsts are awful. That said, I look to manufacture moments of joy so I can press the release valve on all this pressure on my heart.
Lynn Toler Instagram - One of my mother’s favorite expressions is #keepcoming. Just shake out the sheets of your problems so you can see them all clearly then start working the edges. Solve small if you have huge concerns, bite off bits and pieces of it till it’s a size you can consume or if you are unable to that, at least you’ve made it smaller so when it lands on you it doesn’t hurt as much. Y’all have a great day!
Lynn Toler Instagram - I was scrolling, trying to find something #funny. But nothing ... I mean nothing ... struck me as such this morning. The weather report is reading cloudy with a huge low pressure system stagnant above me. Not one to let my moods choose me, I embarked on a sojourn through my phone to see if I could find anything funny there. While this is not that I found it uplifting nevertheless. 1) I was outside mid 2023. Smiling. If I found a way to be okay that day, I should be able to do it today, too. 2) It also confirmed the wisdom of my re-homing Tess. I had massive guilt about that. But two birds in a day? I don't specifically recall that, but it did remind me of the daily stress of in-home carcass location and collection, so I am gonna let that go. 3) Did you see me realize my shirt was too low? Much of what many of you so kindly dub #authenticity on my part is typically little more than laziness and a tomboy nature. I should have checked the shot and made changes, but that would be the rational response of an individual who is patient. As you all know, that ain't me. I said all of that to say this: Don't let your mood pick you. And most certainly don't let any random individuals with whom you have contact today pick your mood either. That is not the kind of work you want to outsource. #emotions #emotionalintelligence.
Lynn Toler Instagram - #Life is full of phases. You start out in your own personal Matrix. We all get air dropped into this group of people who happen to be a certain way and live in a certain place and that becomes your normal. Next thing you know those people who were your entire world ship you off to this big building with a bunch of other short people and you find out that not all families function similarly. And that's how it goes year after year. Your life expands in concentric circles … as, it seems, do we. At some point most of us are gonna have to add girth to our seating arrangement calculations. #fail #fall #shoutout @fails
Lynn Toler Instagram - Busy is good.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I never have shoes on and I believe being right side up should be optional. This is from 2022. While my life was all upside down in 2023, I was never literally upside down. Didn’t occur to me. Had too much going on. That said, I think being upside down is good thing. Sometimes, it’s just boring being grown all day long … A bout of childishness, with in the context of an otherwise orderly life, can be a welcomed change of both pace and perspective. Oftentimes, we lose skills because we don’t regularly engage in them. Of course, I’m not a silly person, so I don’t see me having any real need for this particular skill. I mean where am I gonna pull that out and use it? It’s too late to join the circus.😂 That said, though it may not have intrinsic value, it does keep you flexible. Maintaining flexibility as you age, in both body and mind, is an important thing. While a flexible body helps you navigate the physical world, a flexible mind helps you negotiate your emotional life. If you’re rigid in thinking, all manner of notions that exist outside the narrow scope of what you know can irritate and upset you. But if you have a flexible mind you can entertain a wide range of ideas. You don’t ultimately have to adopt them but think how much easier everything would be if you got interested as opposed to agitated by new and different. Deeper still, you’ll learn a thing or two. And I don’t know about you but I know for a fact I’m not right a lot. The cool thing about that, though, is the more often I figure out what I’m not right about the closer I am to getting there. Looking at things from all sides helps with just about everything. Therefore, now that I have some equilibrium back I intend to invert regularly in 2024. #Goals If you’re not making progress you’re just standing there. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Relevant #Tolerism: I do not claim to possess the #truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. #emotional #emotionalintelligence I am not simply a #widow. I am a widow working her way out of the weeds. The former is a state of being. The latter is a way of living. I am in progress.
Lynn Toler Instagram - The attitude. That baby stared that #nurse down like it was high noon at the OK Corral. Leaning into the hard stuff makes said hard stuff less so. Be well … or get well. Whichever applies to you today. Personally I’m not sure I can manage either one. Your girl is on The Struggle Bus today! That said, I WILL go to my dance class this morning. Maybe I can shake it off, there. I’m telling you so I will feel accountable. Up from here is the game plan. Shoutout @raykowusu #baby #babies #babiesofinstagram
Lynn Toler Instagram - Indeed. Shoutout @mikisoldtoday
Lynn Toler Instagram - #love #marriage #relationshipgoals Happy Sunday! I have been on a very aggressive pause of late. I'm just out here floating. I miss him.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I'm off the Struggle Bus and on the Creativity Caravan. Hopefully the latter can get me where I need to be today. #emotionalintelligence. #BeKind #StayUp
Lynn Toler Instagram - I don't get invited to parties much cause usually I won't go. So I crashed this one. You would think I would move the bags out of the way before I did it but I didn't notice them till I was done, and I spent all my goofy on the first go round.
Lynn Toler Instagram - This is also me re-accessing the best parts of my life. #flashbackfriday (lol I don’t even know if that’s a thing anymore) This was one of the best nights in my life. I had been asked to give a speech in Paris so that meant I got paid to go there for free with BigE. Now I speak French but I don’t SPEAK FRENCH if you get what I mean. BigE was in heaven the first night there. Four young beautiful women picked us up at the airport and took us straight to a magnificent restaurant. I insisted we only speak French. They asked (in English)if it would make him feel excluded. He said, “knock yourselves out.” It was a perfect scenario for him. Surrounded by women he can look at but didn’t have to talk to while eating an outstanding meal. Anyway, they got me an interpreter because though I’m functional in French I can’t go full tilt Toler in it. So I started my speech with a greeting in French then switched to English. I said something funny, she translated, but no one laughed. So I decided to pay attention to her translation when I said the next thing and realized she was not anywhere close. Then I looked down, then back up only to see my interpreter flee the scene. So there I was in front of 800 French speaking people alone. I had two choices panic or persevere. I pulled up everything I could think of and went for broke. Then I started asking the audience questions because I’m better with answering in French than pontificating in it. I was up the 20 minutes before this young lady came out of the audience and translated for me. I got a standing O. Went back to the hotel, got BigE found a great restaurant and drank copious amounts of scotch. I was both relieved and proud. BigE snapped that pic. I was swimming in happy. Feeling better feels better when you do better first. Adversity occurs. How you push back is up to you. Thirty five years worth of wonderful memories. I am not going to let loosing him steal those from me. Just not doing it. Am I crying now? Of course. But I smiled for quite a while first. All progress should be duly noted. I am a #widow working herself out of the weeds. #emotionalintelligence #love survives
Lynn Toler Instagram - Son5 of 6 (who is 18 months in this video) took my old VCR tapes and converted them to digital. He sent me this for #valentines. “She had my support from day one.” He was a sexy somebody, wasn’t he? #live #marriage #relationships #relationshipgoals #love
Lynn Toler Instagram - Happy Birthday Baby.
Lynn Toler Instagram - … and it pulls me under. Have a wonderful holiday. I’m going to take a few weeks and see if I can’t turn on a light or two. Much love. Don’t drink too much and start fighting. Hug everybody hard and long. Love lavishly. Forgive ferociously. See you when the lights come back on.
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Lynn Toler Instagram - I was unhappy with my unhappiness so I made a decision to do otherwise. I put on some #makeup, did my #hair. Put on what I thought was a clean sweatshirt but alas ... 😮 Y'all have a good day. They can't catch you if you keep moving.
Lynn Toler Instagram - #peace ain’t never been still at my house. To Sit is to #worry. To invite #anxiety. To Do is to be rational just another moment longer. #emotionalintelligence #emotions #widow #whitneyhouston
Lynn Toler Instagram - I just wanted to fall through and say Merry Christmas!
Lynn Toler Instagram - You can sell yourself into sadness. Every post, every conversation , every interaction offers you a few cents worth of feel. The clerk may have sold you frustration. Some clown on the road may have offered you a dollars worth of rage in exchange for your best self. You paying? And then there’s technology. The #algorithm sees how long you hovered on something and offer you more of the same. You take the emotional money for that tens seconds of a dopamine dump and you keep it moving … or so you think. Those nickels and dimes of sensory input we sell our mood to add up. I inadvertently sold myself to some rather macabre nonsense when I was trying to remind myself it could be worse. (I try a lot of emotional management strategies… some are better than others!) That misguided effort had huge drawbacks. It may or may not have put my issues in perspective but what it absolutely did is fill the back of my brain with darkness and despair for humanity as a whole. I am going back to #elephants, #babies and #puppies for a while. All I’m saying is that in the midst of the madness remember you have the power to steal some #joy. Like my dude here. He could have been the bane of his entire clients’ existence or a man who makes them #smile. The latter is a bit more work but the return on that labor is invaluable. Shoutout @drimranpatelofficial #emotionalintelligence Emotional intelligence is the security door to you place of peace. You can stand at the window and watch folks whoop and holler but you don’t have to let them in.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Range of motion issues be damned. When the #funk runs deep, your every move speaks. Old in the afternoon dancing with a bunch of girlfriends. I could make that work. Yesterday I wrote a long mixed-metaphor riddled screed about some new drama in my life. I didn’t say what it was but the post was pretty cathartic. I had three #Tolerisms and everything. For some reason, most logically my own state of mind, it didn’t post. I broke at least five of My Mother’s Rules this week. I need to recalibrate. Shoutout @allauthenticsoles
Lynn Toler Instagram - Ain’t gonna lie. I did loose my cool when the dogs rolled around in the mud then tore trough my house flinging mud everywhere. My day is planned. I climbed out of my bedroom window in my jammies to video that. I’m shifting. It’s weird. #joyous one minute undone the next. Emerging from the semi-catatonic state of newly #widowed, I’ve entered a new era in which I feel his absence in new ways daily. I think he’s messing with me from Heaven. You know, « she’s moping. Let me give her something she has to focus on » Whether that makes sense or not is irrelevant. It’s how I choose to #feel about it so I can keep it pushing. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose
Lynn Toler Instagram - Son5 of 6 is the family historian and a man with a memory at which I marvel. He’s in 7th heaven digitizing old stuff. I was minding my own business when Fox called and asked if I wanted to try TV. I asked everyone how they decided to call me and no one really said. People pass the buck a lot out there. I think whoever found me didn’t want to admit it was them until they knew if I would work out. Anyhow I had forgotten all about it. But this was probably what they saw. Things to note: 1. My #hair was crazy, no? That one angle really highlighted my lack of scissor skills. 2. I got my black belt because I was taking son 5 of 6 for lessons. He wasn’t feeling it but I was. So me and a couple of other mothers who watched their kids started taking classes. It took years. Unfortunately, at this juncture, I couldn’t fight my way out of a paper bag with a machete. 3. The news commentator's closing statement, which I thought was goofy and silly in the moment, came true. And to think, BigE and I thought it was hilarious at the time. I swear I’m an accidental overachiever. #momlife #family Use your peripheral vision! Mine has saved me more times than I can count. Don’t just stare straight ahead at what you think you want. Look around at every stop to make sure you you don’t miss something better you didn’t know was out there. Rule, 43 people. It makes life and its inherent messiness more enjoyable. By the way I am not dodging accountability. I both #crocheted and painted yesterday. I did neither well but I did them for a while. Doing so made me feel like a normal person until FedEx showed up with the second solar powered generator I bought. I am into process and procedure. When I don’t feel safe I buy infrastructure. The arrival reminded I’m not well yet (or, as is more likely the case, I was never quite well) but I have learned to generate positive results even when mildly hysterical. Y’all have a good day. Stay on #swivel you might be surprised at what you see.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Something similar happened to me once. I was walking home from the Rapid in Cleveland and some guy came up behind me and grabbed my bag. The strap broke and it fell half way between us. I’m cheap but not stupid. We stood there for a second. I said, “take it.” He hesitated then took it. It’s weird when things don’t go as planned and you have to kinda sit through this odd space of not quite knowing what to do with a complete stranger the only thing you know about is that he’s a criminal but not to terribly adept. I wish you all the #peace that I’ve managed to misplace the last few days. I’m going to do a deep clean in my bedroom and see if i can find it hiding under some of this chaos I’ve got going on in here. I miss him so much. Shoutout @fofocacelebridadess
Lynn Toler Instagram - You have to check your program on a regular basis. That which may have been an appropriate #goal a while ago may no longer be what you need. We're such creatures of habit. Once we find something that works in the moment we tend to stick with it even when that moment has passed. When my world went dark, I had trouble getting out of the bed but I still needed to accomplish things. So I made doing things FROM the bed that much easier. It was a good solve in the interim but it works against me now. So I am doing the uncomfortable thing. The new thing. The get you butt out of bed and get dressed thing. Relevant #Tolerism: Check the corners of your comfort to keep from getting stuck in it, as opposed to rejuvenated by it. ##emotionalintelligence #emotions #grief #belief Overalls! I love that kinda stuff. Makes me wanna get dressed. #halara
Lynn Toler Instagram - You can't just expect things to get better. You have make plans to meet a bad day on YOUR terms. I've got some dark I have to get through. I finished his memorial three volume picture book and sent one to everybody. My goal was to get it there before the anniversary. I'm fielding texts now. They've apparently arrived. The meat of the holiday is on me ... and I do mean ON ME. I ain't gonna let it OWN ME though. There is some other nonsense jumping off that I can't share but oooohh, I 'm like, really? Really. Et tu,Toler. The vissitudes of life come for us all. But I tell you what, dark is gonna have to chase a sister. I'm not going to just stand here and watch it descend. There will be no hand wring or pearl clutching. Sometimes you gotta play hurt. In case you aren't up to speed, I am perched on patio furniture that I am going to put together over the next few days. Give me a few nuts, bolts and some mildly confusing directions and I am good to go for hours. #emotionalintelligence #widow working her way out of the weeds. Feeling better feels better if you do better first. I'm at The Doing part. .
Lynn Toler Instagram - ALL PROGRESS SHOULD BE DULY NOTED #EMOTIONALINTELLIGENCE Just because you know what I've done doesn't mean I've only done what you know. That is an irrelevant #Tolerism vis a vis this post, I know. But I felt the need to share that sentiment. Not sure why, but that's what's rolling around in my head. I need to figure out why it's there, though. I try not to allow unspecified #emotional realities accumulate without figuring out where they're from so they don't unintentionally take me somewhere I really don't want to be. #stay up #bekind People
Lynn Toler Instagram - You know how I like to do all the stuff I really don’t want to do first thing in the morning. Often people return my emails with phrases like what were you doing up at 4:00 a.m.? Anyhow, yesterday the minute the coroner’s office opened, I talked to Irma about autopsy photos. #Widowhood is a tough hood. You get your equilibrium for a moment and then get hit by a whole new verse of He’s Not Here sung in so many different keys of sorrow it’s a cacophony and not a chorus. I hesitated to mention the coroner thing (who wants to hear about that) but I’m just out here, you know? Grabbing at things so I won’t drown. Anyway I spent the rest of the day irritated by every single little thing I came across. Something stupid happened at the bank. #Widow-related, mind you, but I held it together. Then there was the post office issue. I was vibrating by then but I got through it without acting up. But by 2:00 p.m. I was fresh out of all #emotional reserves. So I stayed home. What I did not do, however, was turn my phone off. Not only that, I saw his name on the caller ID. I should have just let it go to voicemail. But oh no! The fact that he had it coming is irrelevant. I should have been above it anyway. I hate it when I let others set my #mood. I can’t even tell you about the second meltdown. I was home. In bed. (5:00 p.m. - don’t judge, discretion is the better part of valor) I called myself securing the world by absenting myself from it. I had all my fences up. But they found me after I had clocked out. I was totally emotionally unprepared for human interaction so I showed up all wrong. It’s a new day though. Relevant #Tolerism The Up Rule: When you mess up. Fess up. Back up, Then clean up. Got my mop and I’m ready to go. #emotionalintellingence #widow working her way out of the weeds.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Happy Friday! Shoutout @allfails credit: @eclektif @clips fail #falls
Lynn Toler Instagram - Some days problems pick you and there’s no way to see them coming. Occasionally events conspire to write a story that is painful in the moment but if you have the right sense of humor is funny in the retelling of it. I know that if that happened to me I’d tell everybody … twice. If I had to suffer the event, ain’t no way in the world I’m not gonna get some joy out of it on the backend. My mother used to tell me you have to look at the whole thing. In other words when something bad happens you can’t just see the problems it causes but you have to find a way to make it inure to your benefit, even if it’s just the lesson not to do it again or a good story to tell. But when you get really proficient at #emotional management you can use other parts too. I look back over the year and see that I have developed a What Would Eric Do-like calm in the midst of turmoil. Since he’s not here to lean on I make a point to mimic what he would do even though it feels all wrong. And you know what I figured out? It works for me too. For instance he never felt the need to explain his decisions when dealing with people he had limited interactions with. I often explain to people why I didn’t want this service or I would second guess myself when dealing in areas about which I knew little. Like landscaping. (Don’t ask, your girl has embarked on a massive backyard project in a fit of ‘I gotta find something large to focus on’ that befell me in August.) Now I can be all calm with stuff & they respect it. It sounds dumb, I know, but we’re all weak in our own silly little ways. The thing is you can’t live that weak without trying to smack it around every now and then. Not sure how I got from the guy on the tree (who we all hope is okay) to my backyard but alas, here we are. Relevant #tolerism: the path of least resistance typically leads to the place with the most persistent problems. It would be easier to stay the me I was when he was here but that won’t bear the results I want so I seek the controlled discomfort of mimicking him. Shoutout @woodworking_art DM for further credit or removal
Lynn Toler Instagram - I hope our day go better. Happy #Saturday Shoutout @dadpack
Lynn Toler Instagram - Unable to extricate myself from my bed, I reached out from here.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I’m just going to pull it together. I mean really. If you could see the state of disassembly I have reached you’d be appalled. I know I am. I need to get my situation in order before I end up bald and a million dollars in debt to Amazon. That is some addictive stuff. Today, I’m on restriction. No on line purchases. No scissors. Relevant #Tolerisms: If you regularly surrender yourself to your emotions eventually you may have to surrender yourself to the state. #Feelings are fleeting. Felonies are forever. #emotionalintelligence
Lynn Toler Instagram - … and when I say it I mean everything possible. Then you work through it! Shoutout @alldondre
Lynn Toler Instagram - I love this video for a variety of reasons: 1) Chris jumped into the deep end of his wife’s cultural pool. He gave it all he had too! You could tell he practiced but wasn’t quite comfortable. He never took his eyes off her. 2. It reminds us that embracing differences is more fun than being annoyed by them. Other people’s odd can be a source of irritation or inspiration. If it’s just different and it’s not hurting anyone, don’t let your brain’s tendency to deploy #fear chemicals when met with the unfamiliar trick you into being distressed by that which is simply unfamiliar. You know what I always say … we are all descended from the guy who ran from the lion, not the one who went over there and tried to pet it. Fear of the unknown has survival benefits. It also has great potential for causing problems because that fear can show when the new your brain sees is benign. So you get to running from or fighting with something that can’t hurt you. Next thing you know you have problems born of that bad call, trying to conquer something that couldn’t hurt you to begin with. 3) Effort and enthusiasm. There’s nothing more beautiful than that. Especially when you’re out there struggling to keep up. 4) Reminds me of the time BigE bought me an eight week couples dance class for my birthday. I always watched ballroom dancers with envy so he bought those classes AND brought his size 12 clod hopper feet to class with me each and every time. For such an outstanding athlete my man had two left feet on the dance floor. But he did it FOR ME. He didn’t buy me something, he gifted me his time and no small measure of his dignity to make me happy. A #highvalue man is determined by what’s in his heart, not his wallet. #relationships #relationshipgoals Have a great day! Your girl is out here fighting some big bad ugly stuff. If you’re praying people throw one up for me. I intend to vanquish them. I just need to stay level and calm. Just writing that down helps me do it. #emotionalintelligence #stayup #bekind
Lynn Toler Instagram - Can I make a suggestion? Beware the #universilization of your own experiences. I know that just because I've experienced something deeply ,intimately and over time, doesn't mean I'm an expert on the underlying event as it occurs to others. People are different. Cultures are different. Upbringings are all over the place. It's like mountain climbing. Just like you should be slow to judge others stuck on a mountain you haven't been required to climb, you should also remember that even if you've already climbed a mountain someone else is on, the ascent is different for everyone depending on their size, which mountain face they chose, their physical ability, and the equipment and guides that they use. You guys have a great day. Even if it's a tough one, try to slip some jot in there somewhere. , went outside, with headphones and a #WhitneyHouston Playlist, and put on a show. Out of respect for the neighbors, I just lip sync and dance. My singing skills are right there with my cooking acumen. 🤣 #widow #betterthanyesterday
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Lynn Toler Instagram - #Strugglebus. Was doing something completely ridiculous when my eye met a flying object that I had failed to secure. Can't get my #hair together. I hate #shoes. HOWEVER, I love my #dog and my son feels better this morning despite my continuing efforts to feed him. I claim victory ... logical or no.
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Lynn Toler Instagram - It’s 2025. I am looking forward to this year. Not altogether sure what I am going to do IN this year, but I am gonna make a point of not being pointless anymore. These are the things I KNOW I am going to do: 1) finish that dollhouse. I’m making good progress that I will share later on. I found a miniatures-enthusiasts site and an on line dollhouse construction forum. I know I always complain about what the internet does to the psyche, but it’s great for people with off brand habits to find their own community. (You should know I had penned an entire diatribe on tribalism … a pet peeve of mine but I deleted it. Really trying to keep it on light and happy. Whhhhoooo, almost blew it.😮‍💨 MMR Rule 43: The Kathy Code 2) I am gonna do more YouTube stuff. I’m going to open rooms like Sonali’s Room and just have chit chats you know? Ain’t gonna lie, I’m going to need a push on that. I feel some #emotional resistance building up in me over it. Probably some old fear got activated and is now crawling around in my cranium trying to tell me what I can’t do. 3) going to finish my novel. 4) have some fun. What, when and how I’m quite sure I don’t know but a sister is gonna give it her best. I’m trying to be more intentional about moving forward. For a while there so much was happening TO me I didn’t have to think about what to do because I had to hose down another fire. My girlfriend Rikki told me to put the hose down. I know she’s right and I can’t quite figure what the holdup is. I think I’m afraid that if I stand down something new and scary will get up. Anyway Happy New Year! Keep your #emotions and your money in different rooms until you’re sure they can play well together. #emotionalintelligence #mood: mindful. lol I was looking over 2024’s records and I did a little more #retailtherapy than I thought. 2025 will be my year of intentional #happiness without the economic injury!
Lynn Toler Instagram - In most homes, this would probably not be a #fail but it certainly would be nothing to boast about. But this is MY house. And this level of order is a #Flex here. And yes there are still pockets of disfunction that I tried to hide but, I mean, in general... My sister said I should hire a cleaning lady. Which would make all the sense in the world. But, the best part of being home is being in it by yourself. I know i could get used to it, but the idea of paying somebody to invade one's space ranckles a woman for whom a reclusive nature is matched only by her penchant toward penury. I'm proud of myself. I got up at 4 a.m. had an EDIBLE dinner completed by 6, cleaned the house. Now I can work! #momlife. A sense of humor is invaluable.
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Lynn Toler Instagram - Gorgeous baby! Shoutout @tajjxrose HAPPY THANKSGIVING! Shoutout @cutekudsrepublic DM for further credit or removal #babies #cute babies
Lynn Toler Instagram - #Panic is the tsunami of #emotional weather. Fueled by #fear, it resists all logic and reason. Eventually, it blinds you to what's happening right in front of you. Half of the problems I have are a function of my inability to remain calm when faced with new and scary. I'm better now, though. I figured out that in any battle, the first fight I have is always with myself. In order to successfully navigate a situation, I have to get this flighty chick to stop whirling about the edges of whatever catastrophe I have created in my cranium so I can see what the issue really is. #Politians have known this forever. If you can scare the people first you can get them to do anything, even if it's not in their best interests. Remain calm. Don't get #angry when annoyed will do. Don't confront when you have yet to simply inquire. Don't match energy. Dictate atmosphere with #logic, #kindness and a sprinkle of OLD SCHOOL #adulting. #Grace is never a waste even if it's not reciprocated. I don't know how I got here from the phone. I guess it just reminded me of all the time I've wasted doing ludicrous things because a chick has so much trouble staying cool. It's annoying. But I am improving so ... All progress should be duly noted. Shoutout @pubity #emotionalintelligence #phone fears.
Lynn Toler Instagram - You ever just stumble on your own stupid? I mean, I haven't said one right thing to any one body in days. #dogsofinstagram #dogs. I want to go on vacation but I don't have anything to vacate. I mean I don't do anything all day. Not true ... but I don't do anything that seems to go anywhere. I'm just kinda tumbling around the washing machine of a new and challenging existence. No complaints... just acknowledging the weirdness. Y'all have a good day. I'm gonna go play fetch.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Dumb stuff happens all day long. You startle. You drop stuff. You miss a step and fall. You’ll lose stuff. You’ll break something and then you’ll stub your toe. Others will irritate you. Cut you off on the road. Give bad customer service. Say something insensitive… If you collect all the dumb stuff that happens to you in a big box of ‘I’m Annoyed ’ it will get heavy enough to crush you even though the individual nonsense in said box has no real weight. Bad stuff is gonna happen. I mean tough stuff. The thing is if you hang on to the small nonsense all along the way and feel all outdone by everything that doesn’t go quite right, when something really distressing happens you’re already emotionally raw and it will be much worse. If your nonsense threshold is high you get to laugh at the small ridiculous stuff that doesn’t mean that much. That way you’ll be fresh for the fight with the big stuff. These two had an awkward moment that they decided to turn into comedy. Let’s all follow suit. #emotions #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @vivint
Lynn Toler Instagram - First of all, his expression was an entire soliloquy. Pops was doing his job. Quiet as it’s kept the booty shaker (who I assume is his daughter) was doing her job as well. Kids are supposed to test the limits, find it, and then retreat. (That last part is important) Then there was the woman who re-focused pops. Those kind of women are critical. They see the situation for what it is, and they rescue the evening with a smile and gentle re-direction. And , to his credit, he went back to it. I bet he’s gonna mention it later though! Shoutout @blackdadstv DM for further credit or removal. #Family will work you. #daddy #daddyduties
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Lynn Toler Instagram - Happy Tuesday! I wore a #wig once out to dinner with BigE. Between the appetizer and the salad, I went into the bathroom and took it off. He liked it too because I had cut all my #hair off the year before, and that wig looked like my old hair. Me: I tried. Him: That's all I can ask. That's as deep as I can get this morning. I have no lessons to impart or Tolerisms to share. I'm in a good mood, just not firing on all cylinders this morning. I hope you are! Shoutout @doctor_ming21
Lynn Toler Instagram - Me @target just like I said I would. #joytrolling #feelingonpurpose when Stevie Wonders’ Sign Sealed and Delivered came on I thought it quite apropos.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I used to be the biggest curmudgeon. I thought the world was a scary place and for the life of me I could not figure out how everyone was just out there smiling and laughing when there was so much to worry about. Naturally anxious I had the good fortune of having an extraordinary emotionally intelligent mother. She talked about everything people did in terms of how they felt. And if you want to be in the business of understanding others you have to be able to understand how they feel. Here’s the hard part, you can’t judge them while you’re trying to understand them. If you tag them too soon with a label that doesn’t fit you will consume all new information about them from the skewed perspective of your opinion and you will get it wrong. I went to an all girls high school. I was an anxious kid who went off to college at 17. All the guys thought I was stuck up and snooty. I was simply scared of them. The first guy I ended up dating was the first one to look past the perception and talk to me. We are killing nuance these days. People who have nothing but a platform and an opinion are giving full throated psychological assessments of people based on a ten second video. And those assessments are made not by inquiry but by running ten cents worth of information through a million dollars worth of stuff you don’t know, that bears interest born of bias. Let’s not be so anxious to wag fingers. Let’s not make every social sin subject to the death penalty. Let’s not pile on other people’s pain just because it’s good fodder. Enjoy people who are different. Get interested not anxious. My #life got a lot better when I sat down my predilection to judge hastily based on how I felt and learned to assess accurately because I understood how others did. Relevant #Tolerisms: Everyone sees through the prism of their past. Don’t come to conclusions about what you see until you understand how your history bends the light you shine on it. Think twice before judging people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #grace #peace
Lynn Toler Instagram - You know how I feel about unbridled emotionality. I mean really. And what was she hollering about? It’s too early in the day to be this annoyed. I’m gonna stop typing and make myself a roast beef sandwich. #mood: not nearly stable enough for continued public interaction. See how that works? I am responsible for my own cranky. Got no business spreading it around. #emotional #emotionalintelligence #thestupidtax Shoutout @clubb_az Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to #anger. Everybody’s got a boatload of crap they’re trying to get through.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Focus past the nonsense... hone in on some joy.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Happy New Year. Me and BigE 1988. No tears just smiles. Both then and Now. All progress should be duly noted.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Those legs. I am so okay with being alone in this moment. But I’m glad I liked seeing that. I had it. A great love over a long period of time. I was with a guy that thought I was the best thing since sliced bread and I had the even greater pleasure of thinking the same thing about him. I’m not interested in romance or getting a new dude. But I’m out in the light enough to appreciate … Those legs. It’s like watching a bonfire. You like looking at it but you don’t want to touch it or have it touch you. Shoutout @sports_fan_tv DM for further credit or removal.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Me: enjoying the ride. Happy Friday!
Lynn Toler Instagram - Well I went for the whole ride and this is what I learned: 1) Never get a #dog while you’re in the midst of an #emotional meltdown. I think I off loaded a fair bit of crazy onto that dog. And she handed it right back to me. 2) I have a lot of good friends. More than I knew, which is heartening for a solitary sister like myself. 3) Don’t panic. It never helps. 4) If you do end up panicking don’t beat yourself up about it. I spent half the year upset about the frequency and extent to which I got upset. lol now I’m mad at myself about that, which, ultimately, I find funny so I guess it all comes out in the wash. 5) I loved him more than I knew. 6) I am stronger than I thought. Shoutout @rising.tech Relevant #Tolerism: you’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you end up somewhere better than you were. Though not yet healed I am no longer hysterical. All progress should be duly noted.
Lynn Toler Instagram - There is no designated decibel level at which errant ideas dislodge. So, quit yelling. My commentary has nothing to do with the video. It's just that i had a day yesterday in which that concept was wholly ignored by all involved, and it was so very silly. I hate silly. @divorcecourt uploads old seasons on YouTube in bulk now, so if you're feeling nostalgic... #relationships #relationshipgoals
Lynn Toler Instagram - My #hair is crazy. Picture’s dark. Had on my husband’s old tee shirt. I am also surrounded by family. Sons 5 and 6 bookending me and my sister in law! She was here for one hour, looked at me and said “You have too many doors open” She was not talking about the house. She was talking about my head. Ain’t nothing like having a woman your age who gets you and ain’t afraid to tell exactly what she sees. #family #familyiseverything
Lynn Toler Instagram - Me, sitting on the floor with Zora! Nothing like a calm #dog. #dogsofinstagram I’m working on staying in the moment. No small feat for a card carrying member of the #anxiety society. (What an annoying club to belong to 🤨). Anyway, this is me and my piece of peace parked on the floor watching NYPD Blue. Your #brain prioritizes problems. After all, if a dog is chasing you you don’t worry about anything but that. It’s how our limbic system keeps us safe. The problem with people like me is we never see past the problems and if there aren’t any pressing ones we start worrying about those that aren’t until we turn one into the catastrophe of the month. Troubles tend to be finite. Worry, by nature, is infinite. There is no end to the permutations of any problems you might have. So what I usually end up doing is worrying about 20 things that don’t happen and in so doing missed the issue that actually I ended up having … not to mention the moments of merriment I missed trying to solve problems I don’t have. But Zora and I are going to do our best to progress past this mess. #worry: false prophet of doom. I rebuke you. And not for nothing, #dennisfranz is my favorite leading man of all time. Just saying.
Lynn Toler Instagram - My man Max displays a number of positive traits. 1) He stayed with it. Didn’t get frustrated. Just hung in there. 2. Then he did that thing a lot of us grown folk have yet to master. When what made sense to him at first did not work, he did something else. 3. He picked a second method that didn’t seem line it would work. But it did. This is an example of one of Duchess’ favorite bromides. “If you’ve done everything that makes sense to you and they don’t work start doing things that don’t necessarily seem as logical. Only doing things that makes sense to you in the face of unwanted results is a reminder that we all have limited information. Sometimes there are forces at work we don’t understand. New methods may allow you to discover what those forces are. … and not for nothing mom had it going on. She encouraged but did not rescue. She praised effort and thought. If you teach your children to keep trying. If you allow them to become frustrated and then let them figure it out. They learn how to stay in the game when things get tough. #momlife Relevant #Tolerism: The more often you consider the proposition that you could be wrong the more often you’ll end up right. I don’t mind making mistakes as long as they’re new. If I keep making the same ones, it means I didn’t learn anything and THAT is a tragedy of epic proportions. When labels and allegiances become more important than independent thought and an understanding of nuance, you get a divide so wide everyone ends up acting in opposition to their own interests on some level. Don’t buy your ideas in bulk. Don’t become impervious to truths that don’t sit smack dab in the middle to some group or cause with which you are aligned. You never get to stop thinking no matter how strongly you feel. #momlfe #emotionalintelligence There are 20 levels of BS going on at my house. Hence the cranky tone to a cute video. I re-read it and I sound like an out of sorts educator that doesn’t understand her class. My apologies to you and kudos to Max and mom! Shoutout @serenamariemetz
Lynn Toler Instagram - You can’t play Uno with Monopoly rules. Y’all know how I feel about finger wagging. They dragged #katemiddleton about the silence and the photoshopped picture. Had all these “well researched” theories replete with video evidence & clips of comments weaved together w/ such an exaggerated sense of their ability to suss out body language, explain royal protocol and accurately assess the human nature of a human whose true nature they knew nothing of and posit THE TRUTH. All the theories were extensively supported & completely wrong. She didn’t have plastic surgery, there was no impending divorce, no new chick. I know I took a small inappropriately emotionally charged tangent. But the assumptions folk make. I’m not a royal watcher of fan but man, I can’t imagine. My thing is we all have such limited perspectives. Even though we have computers and apps that give us access to all manner of other cultures we still see them through our own cultural kaleidoscope. If I had kicked some guy in the face while dancing I would have apologized. If I got kicked at a party I would say something. But then again I wouldn’t be at that party. It’s not for me. Wouldn’t know about it wouldn’t get invited to it, wouldn’t show if I did. But apparently dude broke no rules. The guy on the receiving end responded in kind. And if you pay attention someone else who was also accustomed to the environment handed the guy who lost his drink another one. I do a lot of odd stuff. I talk to myself while walking around the backyard. I mean, full throated conversations. But when you’re in a profession that demands large quantities of extemporaneous speaking, that chit chat in the grass facilitates ease of access to the right word when called upon. Even though I think of that every time I get the urge to judge that about which I know little ... I still end up invoking an inappropriate condemnation on occasion. 😞 The takeaway: You can’t check others w/out checking yourself first. Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to judge people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. Just because you know what someone’s done doesn’t mean they’ve only done what you know.
Lynn Toler Instagram - Can I hear it for our young dancer? She practiced; she got dressed up; her parents were probably all up in the audience. Ain’t no way in the world she wasn’t going to give it her all. Can I also get a small shoutout to my young shook dude? Yea, I know he bailed. He left her on her own. But I feel for him because that’s the kind of thing I used to do. I was scared of everything. I went to a violin recital at around 8. Got there. Simply refused to go on stage. Mom tried to put me in a dance class when I was around 5. Just class, mind you. I saw all those kids in there and refused. Mom said she would spank me if I didn’t and I said OK. Mom said that’s the last time she did that because she saw who she was dealing with. She’d have to be more creative if she was going to get my hard head to do anything. I was terrified by the public. But as horrified as he looks he might be learning something. Tough lesson but I’ve taken that course. Getting through it, no matter how bad it feels taught me that it wasn’t fatal. Horrifying but survivable. My mother eventually found ways of shoving me into things. And every time you COULD NOT TELL ME THE WORLD WASN’T GONNA END. (I wrote that in the way I felt it. Full volume freak out) The thing is absent those throws into the deep in of the #fear pool no THIS. No judgeship. No TV. I feel her pain too though, in a weird metaphysical kind of way. I’m dancing alone now too. Sometimes the sad just jumps on you out of nowhere. This was supposed to be cute and uplifting. My bad. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #widow #dance Relevant #tolerism: Fear is a failed front man: he never lets the band in stage. Shoutout @saysdotcom
Lynn Toler Instagram - Everybody saw and looked. Then the guy in the black came over to help followed by the woman in the blue flowered dress. Once that happens everyone gets involved. It’s a social phenomenon. One person does something different he’s just odd. Someone joins him, validating his move, others see and follow suit. Not always but it’s a real thing that you can see if you pay attention and use if you’re trying to start something. But please use your powers for good! #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @lass_kemo_
Lynn Toler Instagram - This is a picture I took of myself because my sister-in-law (you can see her astonished mug in the background) kept asking me: what are you doing?” My mother used to work out well into her 80’s. She was all about use it or lose it. Ironically she died of ALS Lou Gehrig’s disease. It was tough watching her body just tell her ‘no’ more and more often when she tried to move. Mind in tact body just won’t work. UH OH … let’s not go down this rabbit hole! (Personally I can’t let my thoughts just do as they please. I am a Dark Seeker. If unregulated I will stand on my tippy toes and peer over a wall of good fortune so I can search for potential problems that might be out there. And if I don’t see any right away I don’t do the logical thing and get down and enjoy what I have. Oh no! I get a telescope and look for potential problems undetectable by the naked eye … for the most part cause they’re too small and dumb to be real issues. I look until I find one and then I proceed to #worry about it. Exhausting.) 🤣 Tangent Train left the station and took us … in the inimitable words of Rudy Huxtable “all the way to Baltimore.” Returning to the subject at hand. Mom always said pick at yourself. You know, make little improvements all the time. I move it so I don’t lose it. Heck this week I got under the sink WITH the plumber so he could teach me how to do it next time. That right there, worked my body, my mind and my confidence. Everything’s a lesson. Full disclosure I enjoy being upside down, climbing on stuff. So it’s not purely for purpose…. Wait! Fun IS a legit purpose. Y’all don’t know I figure out so much doing this! Anyway my sister in law thought it was so funny I took a picture of me and more importantly her expression in the back. #Joytrolling l can do that again!!!!! #emotionalintelligence Relevant #Tolerism: don’t fill in the blanks of what you don’t know with the #fears you have about what you do.
Lynn Toler Instagram - First of all I know I can’t sing. My favorite saying used to be “I only sing in church because He knows what He did and did not give me so He won’t mind” Anyhow the fact that I broke out into song in public lets you know how excited I was. Yesterday morning was perfect. Got a last minute call from my volunteer group because they needed me. So I came. (My usual day is Thursday) Anyway apparently on Mondays they have rental assistance program there so there were women and children in the lobby. Even though I was late this baby caught my eye. I made her smile. Then I had to go to class. Well, after a half hour he decided he didn’t need me after all so I left and son of a gun if that baby wasn’t still there. Thank goodness her mom recognized me. Otherwise I think I may have come across as some crazy lady you should call the police on. I plopped down on the floor next to her mother and I asked if I could hold her. She said yes. So we were chillin’. Baby was sitting on my lap smiling and pooping. I was honored she felt comfortable enough with me to do so. 😂 Another mother came over for a photo for her mom because she said her mother watches my reruns over and over. I asked if her mother was home and she said yes. So I said, “call her.” Unfortunately she wasn’t home so I did a video for her on her daughter’s phone. It was everything. On the floor with two young women laughing holding a baby. I made their day and they made mine. FYI I asked her mother permission to post this and she said cool. Anyway, I had such fun. Relevant #Tolerism: #happiness is measured by smiles and laughter, not by money, likes or views. There is an 80 year long longitudinal study that backs that up. The Grant Study. In 1938 eugenics was all the rage and this study was set up exploring that. Come to find out it’s strength, number h and quality of relationships that are the most predictive of happiness. #emotionalintelligence #babies #babiesofinstagram
Lynn Toler Instagram - Little girl Lynn just got all out in front of me and and messed up a couple of things. Now don’t get it twisted… I was pushed: Police. Seven hour emergency room stay. (Unrelated btw) #Widow work of the most daunting variety. As I write I got a call from a Texas hospital about my sister. I need to get all emotional hands on deck cause my boat keeps springing leaks. That said, there is no excuse for being short with people or not acknowledging their progress. I have an apology to make. Ain’t saying to who or why but I want you to know that I am. Unsolicited apologies are like a wide spectrum antibiotic. Cures a multitude of #emotional mistakes. I apologize a lot. It’s freeing. Temper tantrums are the hallmarks of powerlessness. I have problems but I also have the power to be a good human being. It takes more work and I have a spotty success record but hey, you gotta try. #emotionalintelligence Happy Saturday you guys!
Lynn Toler Instagram - Is often unplanned and unpretty (I know that’s not a word). Every day funny is the best funny that there is. Shoutout @mandyhunterhealing
Lynn Toler Instagram - I contend my mother was an #emotional genius. Rarely did she accede to an #emotion w/out determining whether acting on it would inure to her benefit. She could #feel, then she’d #THINK and only then would she act. I wrote #MyMothersRules before Divorce Court. I thought that would be the best way to teach what she knew. Then TV called. And I got to shout it from the rooftops! Like here. The thing is you have to be able to hear past the insult you feel when criticized and determine if there’s any validity to it. And though I’m not immune to the emotional barbs and bullets people throw mom DID teach me not to shudder and wilt when met with criticism. I had to consider it objectively and if that criticism was true I had to actively decide to let go of how being told I was wrong made me feel so I could use the information to learn something about myself. Of course, you can’t go around absorbing people’s criticism all Willy-Nilly. Some people are suffused with so much unhappiness they can’t carry it all, so they offload some of that on others inappropriately. That said, even people who don’t like you and try to hurt you can be of assistance to you. The trick is to consider the comments objectively and make a decision to accept it or dismiss it, intelligently and then do The Next Thing. If the critique was valid The Next Thing is to put processes and procedures in place to improve. If the criticism was unwarranted The Next Thing is to pay it no mind. It’s not easy to do but you can practice glacial. I’m not an iceberg yet, but I’m like black ice on a road. Unobtrusive yet slippery. Anyway, out of 14 years on TV, this is one of my top five keepers. It’s me showing someone the way out of their own personal emotional prison. Whether she truly got out, I don’t know, but she heard me. That’s how better starts. P.s. and yes I actually Re-look at it. 🧐 Terrible word choice but I was rolling and the right word couldn’t catch up with me. Y’all have a wonderful holiday season. #BeKind #StayUp #GiveGrace It’s getting choppy out there, people. Remain vigilant but don’t be a vigilante. #emotionalintelligence #momlife
Lynn Toler Instagram - #Cool: there's nothing quite like it. #Unbothered: that's the goal. He could have gone a whole lot of ways with this one. But he chose to walk off the fright while counting his blessings. Did you see the pep in his step? If it had been me, I would have run around in circles panicked for a good minute or two. He had every right in the world to carry on. He really could have been hurt. Instead, he chose to feel good about the bullet he dodged. And kept it moving. People SHOULD act right. People SHOULD treat each other well. We SHOULD all be cautious and drive correctly. We SHOULD not offend others. We SHOULD be kind and forgiving. But you and I both know we all fall short of all good SHOULDS because we're all human. You can languish in the horror of it all. Or not. What a wonderful choice to have. If you're not saving or solving, sit it down. You can work the problem. You can address an issue but don't just soak in the dark waters of unpleasantness without trying to swim to the shore. You flail about you wear yourself out and THAT'S when you drown. #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @ppv_tahoe @king.tahoe
Lynn Toler Instagram - I haven’t been that sure about anything in a while. And remember #feelings are fleeting but felonies are forever.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I mean my man did not hesitate. I bet that bear was more surprised than he was. There are a multitude of words and phrases rolling about in my head. Unfortunately they are all full of expletives and unkind thoughts about a range of things that aren’t any of my business. The weather report: low pressure system has blown in. So I’m going to get on the treadmill. First me and #ceelo are going to tell everybody do F off. Then me, Anita, Whitney can tear down the house at our sold out show. And after they leave Tom Jones joins me for a rendition of Kiss. After which i am going to bring out #brunomars and we’re going to tear up Up Town Funk. By then I should have enough endorphins rolling about in my head so I can rejoin the public. When I am not sure of my Angle of Emotional Repose, I like to protect the public by staying home. As I reread this I realized that last statement is only partially true. I just like being home. Any excuse will do. I’m in an emotional blender at the moment. But here’s the thing. I’m gonna fight. Me and this Bear of a Bad Mood I’m in are going to go a few rounds. I’m not altogether sure which one of us will win but even if I fail to prevail that bear will walk off victorious … but limping. Relevant #Tolerism: MOTIVATED: The art of being dissatisfied without feeling defeated. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @yabanihayat1
Lynn Toler Instagram - If I do say so myself I have a fairly good record of creative problem solving. My mother, Duchess, was that way. She used to say, “while you can’t always solve a problem you can dull its edges so it doesn’t hurt as much.” I think sometimes we get paralyzed by the size or number of difficulties we might have. Unable to find a pure and universal solve sometimes we end up just staring at trouble. Problems get bigger when you just sit there and look at them. Fear feeds both flaws and failures. If you focus on all the things you can’t fix you’ll miss seeing the ones you can. Mom taught me to shake out the sheets of my problems… (you know like when you’re making a bed) That way you can see all of it laid out. Increases your chances of finding any a thread you can pull on so you can’t start to unravel the issues.. Amelioration beats exasperation. Relevant #Tolerism: You’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you ended up somewhere better than you were. Like our equine friend here. Didn’t have room to jump it so he did the next best thing. #emotionalintelligence Sometimes you just have to roll with it. Shoutout @teknik_amele1 DM for further credit or removal.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I try to keep an open mind. I do. But at some point you have to take a step back from what you’re doing and ask yourself: has the rising tide of a current cultural phenomenon swept me up into the River Ridiculous? You know, that rushing white water tributary that leads to Lake Ludicrous. There’s one near by us all. If nothing else, understand time and place. If you know junior’s there then …? Relevant #Tolerism: Everyone is doing it is an insufficient explanation. Never go with the flow unless you’re quite sure you know where that flow is trying to go. Shoutout @hilarrious
Lynn Toler Instagram - As long as they’re not hurting anybody, I am all out of the business of asking ‘why?’ when presented with something it would never occur to me to do. First, you have to acknowledge that social media amplifies that kind of stuff. You can’t get big views filming mundane stuff. And that’s no diss. This thing we’re doing here can be fun if used correctly. Second, I do a lot of weird stuff in the Personal Matrix of my home. Oddball gets a lot of play at my house. #Othering is very human nature. Your brain’s always scanning for potential threats and anything you’re unfamiliar with qualifies. Sends you a “this ain’t something we’re comfortable with” text before it really knows what’s up. Before I ask others ‘why’ I do the following: A) ask myself if I am truly inquiring or silently judging? B) revisit my own odd to remind myself of my place in this world. It would be reasonable to wonder why a 64 year old woman would build doll houses. Not well. Just to throw them out when I’m done. I took a bat to the last three story Victorian I put together. That happened early 2023 which makes it not weird at all. I have no clue what I came here to say. This #Tolerism isn’t even relevant but I just felt like it: #courtesy is the grease that eases social interaction. Lots of friction out there, people, let’s ... (lol my first thought was to say lubricate, and though denotatively correct, it had connotative issues) How about this? #BeKind and enjoy your day! p.s. got to love his support system. First she worried then she celebrated!
Lynn Toler Instagram - #DivorceCourt routinely uploads old videos on YouTube from past seasons. The uploaded one of my favorites, yesterday. Conswella v. Loren #Errorhoarder #relationships #relationshipgoals. #marriage. A whole lot of oldies but goodies on there.
Lynn Toler Instagram - In years past I used to do a holiday assessment letter that I would post on my blog. You know how it goes, the year is sauntering to a close and relatives come for #thanksgiving and when they do you reminisce and review. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas I would think about all of the things I’ve been through that year and figure out what life lessons I’ve learned, give it a course name then a grade and some commentary as to why I received it. (If I can find one I’ll post it) Anyhow, I haven’t done one in a while so I thought I’d try but oh my, what a mistake that was. I looked back and almost imploded. Suffice it to say this is no year to be nit-picking my behavior. Never been one to brag but I feel like I held it down simply because I stayed up and going. Anyway, I was thinking about it and decided to have some fun with it. These are my three favorite Chronicling My Own Stupid Videos. Have some fun with yours. I was wrong. My bad. Oops: tickets to freedom all! Relevant #Tolerism: The Up Rule If you mess up. Fess up. Back up And Clean Up. Happy Wednesday #emotionalintelligence
Lynn Toler Instagram - So the question becomes : What is YOUR ‘what is’ that you can decide to enjoy? A ‘what is’ is something going on that is problematic but that you’ve found a way to make it ok. Like dude here. I’ve found a few. 1) This will be a low stress Christmas. I am going to repeat the Beef Wellington I made for Thanksgiving because it was, if I do say so myself, outstanding. (This is me taking a victory lap 🏃🏾‍♀️) After that there are no expectations and it’s a relief. Christmas often devolved into mommy wife showtime. The lights the presents the pressure. Not this year. 2) got everyone the same thing. I can’t say what it is but it was a year in the making. 3) I found a new #hair regiment that is making that particular persistent irritation less irritating. 4) While distracting myself from my feelings this year, I created all new habits of neat and clean. Calming! Metaphorically speaking this is me relaxing in the rain, enjoying my ´what is’ as best I can. Relevant #Tolerism: Enjoy ´what is’ because there are plenty of people living through what’s way worse. So if you find yourself sunk in #holidayblues, find a ‘what is’ and find something in it to enjoy. I’m not gonna lie, it’s ’s not always possible. For the first four or so months this year there was no ‘what is’ in sight. But I’ve lived through that part and am now embarking on a ´what is’ that’s going to be way better. Shoutout @sekitarbandungcom #emotionalintelligence #emotion #mood: unbowed.
Lynn Toler Instagram - I’m talking A but feeling very Z this morning. I need to run through some sprinklers. Have a good day! Shoutout @oddlywholesome
Lynn Toler Instagram - I’m going to confess to a few moments of judgment. I saw this and I was like … what in the world? But then I thought, who am I? I am A judge. But I’m not Her judge. And I am most certainly not THE judge. None of us are. Once I stopped judging I just enjoyed. My Mother’s Rules #43 I wish you piles of #peace and hampers full of happy. Alliterative metaphor compliments of the fact that I did a lot of laundry yesterday. BigE used to do the laundry. 30 years. I mean go figure: Turn a couple of a man’s favorite shirts pink and he never trusts you again. Happy Sunday. #bekind #stayup
Lynn Toler Instagram - It took her five minutes to fall. Shoutout @clubb_az
Lynn Toler Instagram - Current cultural commentary custom has people arguing about who is to blame, who is more to blame or who got what they deserved. But as you know, two things can be true at once. Deeper still a whole lot of people can be wrong at once. History is littered with group stupid. Your discomfort is not a license to act a fool. Even if someone did cut you off on the road what does a big display get you? I will utter (jackass) under my breath but that's about it. Of course I am the wrong size to do anything else but that. The point is hopping out the car and tearing up something is just a temper tantrum. Likewise one ought not be launching projectiles at cars either. (Which appears to be what she did) Being right does not absolve you from being an adult. Importantly others behaving childishly is not a call to do the same. How are we going to go around and let other people dictate how we conduct business? We all err. Every single one of us. But I always figure the more #grace we give, the more get get back. It has a cumulative cultural effect. PS I put that heart sticker there because I did not realize I bent over that much and I was too lazy to do it again. #emotionalintelligence #rage Shoutout @peoplegettingmad and @girlsofthegram
Lynn Toler Instagram - #joytrolling Shoutout @fails 🎥:TikTok/failarmy
Lynn Toler Instagram - Now see, I love this kind of stuff because I’m pedestrian in a lot of ways. I don’t chase dreams nor do I believe I have one true purpose in life. I don’t manifest and I have had nary a light bulb moment that didn’t involve something tremendously mundane. Like in my car. I’d be doing something the hard way and BigE would say “you know if you …” then he’d show me some feature on the car and I’d be so excited. I can’t tell anybody how to make their dreams come true because I fell into my line of work ass backward running from things I didn’t like. More importantly, I have no intention of making up some quest-like story so I can sound like it was intentional or pretend I can impart some great secret to success. I am not a dreamer. I’m a serial solver. I nibble at the edges of my troubles until they get small enough to swallow. I am not saying this is THE WAY to be. It’s just how I am. I don’t storm cities with an army of ideas. I guérilla fight, house to house, with different ways of doing business. I love process and procedure. My everyday goal is just to be better than yesterday. I love a lot of small obtainable wins, like putting together furniture. I said all that to say, I like this video because it’s speaks to the manual laborer in me. Speaking of which, I am going to start putting together the backyard patio furniture today. I am all excited. Nuts and bolts appeal to me both physically and intellectually. #peace Relevant #Tolerism: I do not contend to possess the truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. Shoutout @viralworking
Lynn Toler Instagram - #love in the time of technology. You gotta put the phone down to keep your #relationship together. Shoutout @allfails
Lynn Toler Instagram - I was raised by parents who always told the unvarnished truth. One of my mom’s favorite sayings was “a lie won’t help.” So she would tell me exactly where I went left so I’d learn from whatever it was. There is something wrong with all of us. All of us. You can close your eyes to it if you want to but I guarantee you the rest of the world will not join you there in the dark of your denial. It’ll put a spot light on that sucker and broadcast it to the world. My thing is I want to know what my issues are before the rest of the world gets the news. There is no mistake more avoidable than being blindsided by your own weak. That’s why I keep mine front and center. Deeper still, every once in a while I’ll just smack her by doing something she won’t like but that I know is in my best interest. Just this morning I signed up for a writing group. I don’t want to do that. But I need to force socialization. The least of me will keep the best of me in the bed if I don’t fight her. So, my dukes are up and I’m punching way out of this silo of solitude I’ve sunk into. So what piece of you do you want to pummel? You don’t have to tell anyone else but I want to make sure you know. We can fight these people together if we know exactly who they are. Relevant #Tolerism: Don’t just focus on putting your best foot forward. Also keep an eye on the one dragging behind because that’s the one that will trip you up if you have to break out into a run. #emotionalintelligence
Lynn Toler Instagram - This is exactly how I feel. I don’t know who she is. I don’t know what went wrong I don’t know who she’s looking to hit. Nevertheless she embodies my current #mood. I take that back. She embodies the mood I want. Not quite there yet. Shoutout @dr1llworld
Lynn Toler Instagram - I have been floating in a weird kind of wordlessness of late. I probably need to get on the treadmill or something to shake some cobwebs loose. Shoutout @angelhernandezyya
Lynn Toler Instagram - Remarkable,no? You could ask why but then again why not? And while ‘for the fun of it’ is a notion I have new found appreciation for, there are other benefits. What she did has benefits to both body and brain as well. She had to hone her body, work her flexibility, practice her precision, build up her strength. All things she can use in other avenues. People often ask me why I do the things I do: Build dollhouses Paint on canvas Study French and Russian. Draw house plans I’m not going to need any of those things. But they all add to me. Just on a dementia tip alone. A challenged brain must wire up in new places to handle new skills. The more active highways you got up there the harder dementia has to work to commandeer them all. At least current research gives us hope in that direction. Ain’t that just like an anxious person? Always warding off danger. In real time, though, those things are fun. They help me gather patience (something I am oh so much in need of) and I get to see what I’ve done and I am proud. Even if it didn’t turn out quite right. #joytrolling #joy #simple Fight to enjoy your day. I implore you. If I end up going the grocery store today I’m gonna dance in the tuna aisle. Let’s all hope it’s empty if I do!😎 To those of you for whom this makes sense: I’m underwater but okay. Thanks for your love and support. Will resurface soon. Shoutout @stefaniemillinger
Lynn Toler Instagram - Dude in the red shirt had him hemmed up. Apparently, they could see which way the sportsmanship wind was blowing. … but he found a way. I’m not going to say anything about anybody’s parents or upbringing. It’s a moment in time … and I found it funny. Just saying. Be slow to judge. Everybody got a boatload of nonsense they’re trying to get through. For instance, If someone had seen me at 5:46 yesterday evening they would have branded me a whole entire lunatic, and not the half in the bag lunatic status I claim. I was on one. But there is no way in the world any who saw me could have known the unique fashion in which my 64 year old knees, a battle over medical records, an ailing family member, and cream sauce (I mean, really, who forgets they’re lactose intolerant?😔) combined to create some of crunch in my countenance … a daub of disquiet in my demeanor … some salt in my spirit. (And, yes, I know I have a ludicrously juvenile love of alliteration.) Having realized I was at less than my best, I did a half hour inclined brisk walk on the treadmill this morning. And yes, my knees hurt but I wrapped them up and kept it moving. I’d rather my knees hurt than my mood.Endorphins get me right. Now I am fit for public consumption! Being out of sorts is not a license to light up other people. Even if you had a lot of things beyond your control pushing you past your limits, you still have to act like you have some sense when dealing with people who had nothing to do with getting you there. My situation explains why I wasn’t my best self but I still have to own the fact that that was the case. Since I’m moody, I have a carefully curated assortment of apologies at the ready. Every year I add more, but have to use them less. Using them is good practice. Not having to do so, however, is growth. One elevates by degrees. My attempts at elevation notwithstanding little dude throwing up that finger is still hilarious to me. And I’m not altogether sure I want to get to a place where that isn’t funny. #Humorlessness will have you pointing, judging and in a perpetual position of derision. Who needs that? Have a great day! I intend to.
Lynn Toler - 1.7 Million Likes - Of course we hope she’s okay. But it would be wasteful not to learn a lesson from her mishap. Your life becomes what you focus on. You know how sometimes you have to refresh your email in order to get a new one coming in? Well, I pressed refresh yesterday and it was wonderful. I have projects and stressors and this and that whirling about me in a way that has consumed me for a while. Then the most wonderful thing happened. (Stick with me because this one is a reach … but it was so real) I had an issue with two of my toilets. I had already had issues with another one twice. So me and The Flush King (and, yes, that’s the name of the company) discussed both my options and their frequent visits. One toilet was actually rocking. Next thing I know I have five guys in my house replacing all four of them. They were here all day. I crocheted and watched a documentary on The Periodic Table then one on the Mona Lisa. They were nice and they appreciated my sense of humor. Made my day. I dealt with a problem I could solve, got my head out of the computer, had some company all day. Since Zora had to stay outside she and I played a lot of fetch. I always feel like if I am not solving or working I am goofing off. That goofing off is what most folk call living. I need to remember that. A dumb thing to call a great day but you take the #joy you get. I also put up a bird feeder with a camera inside that connects to my phone while they were here. Now when a bird feeds I get an alert on my phone and I can watch it! Corny chicks are easily pleased. I’m lucky to be one. #emotionalintelligence #emotion Have a good day. Keep your head up.

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Caption : Of course we hope she’s okay. But it would be wasteful not to learn a lesson from her mishap. Your life becomes what you focus on. You know how sometimes you have to refresh your email in order to get a new one coming in? Well, I pressed refresh yesterday and it was wonderful. I have projects and stressors and this and that whirling about me in a way that has consumed me for a while. Then the most wonderful thing happened. (Stick with me because this one is a reach … but it was so real) I had an issue with two of my toilets. I had already had issues with another one twice. So me and The Flush King (and, yes, that’s the name of the company) discussed both my options and their frequent visits. One toilet was actually rocking. Next thing I know I have five guys in my house replacing all four of them. They were here all day. I crocheted and watched a documentary on The Periodic Table then one on the Mona Lisa. They were nice and they appreciated my sense of humor. Made my day. I dealt with a problem I could solve, got my head out of the computer, had some company all day. Since Zora had to stay outside she and I played a lot of fetch. I always feel like if I am not solving or working I am goofing off. That goofing off is what most folk call living. I need to remember that. A dumb thing to call a great day but you take the #joy you get. I also put up a bird feeder with a camera inside that connects to my phone while they were here. Now when a bird feeds I get an alert on my phone and I can watch it! Corny chicks are easily pleased. I’m lucky to be one. #emotionalintelligence #emotion Have a good day. Keep your head up.
Likes : 1717300Lynn Toler - 1.1 Million Likes - I have always considered myself an accidental overachiever. I have goals but I usually miss that mark and in recovery find an option that’s better than the one I was aiming for. The trick is when you fall, look around where you are to see things from that perspective. You might humble up on an opportunity that wasn’t visible while standing. Or may all you get is a good story. I don’t know. Dude here was thinking though. He made the best out of a bad situation … looked good doing it too. Happy Friday! Shoutout @used_03_civic

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Caption : I have always considered myself an accidental overachiever. I have goals but I usually miss that mark and in recovery find an option that’s better than the one I was aiming for. The trick is when you fall, look around where you are to see things from that perspective. You might humble up on an opportunity that wasn’t visible while standing. Or may all you get is a good story. I don’t know. Dude here was thinking though. He made the best out of a bad situation … looked good doing it too. Happy Friday! Shoutout @used_03_civic
Likes : 1055664Lynn Toler - 869.7K Likes - We can compete and keep it cool. We can disagree without demeaning. We can but we won’t be able to if we all wait for the other guy to go first. If you lead with grace you still have access to your right hook should the other party go there. But you can’t lead with a right hook, realize you’re out matched and expect them to react well to newly expressed #grace. Relevant #Tolerism: If we manage how we feel in a constant deliberate way. We will be less likely to act a fool in such a consistent and destructive manner. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose (link to my podcast in bio) Shoutout @ana_walachowska and @baaartooszzzz Gorgeous people, no? I’d love to be able to do that.

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Caption : We can compete and keep it cool. We can disagree without demeaning. We can but we won’t be able to if we all wait for the other guy to go first. If you lead with grace you still have access to your right hook should the other party go there. But you can’t lead with a right hook, realize you’re out matched and expect them to react well to newly expressed #grace. Relevant #Tolerism: If we manage how we feel in a constant deliberate way. We will be less likely to act a fool in such a consistent and destructive manner. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose (link to my podcast in bio) Shoutout @ana_walachowska and @baaartooszzzz Gorgeous people, no? I’d love to be able to do that.
Likes : 869740Lynn Toler - 638.1K Likes - The part that tickled me was the people on the left checking it out. I hope you guys had a good Thanksgiving. I made a pre-Thanksgiving dinner on Wednesday and ate with my sister and sons5and 6 of 6. I made Beef Wellington, roasted carrots and sautéed green beans. It was so good there was some back and forth about who got the last helping. Ah, what a new exciting feeling! On Thanksgiving my sister and I went to my neighbors house. They are the nicest people ever. We were in the family photo and everything. I switched up to get through it with minimal emotional machinations born of my current circumstance. I was, like my good woman here, making my own way. You know, you can step away from how you always do things and re-order them to fit your circumstances. Yesterday, I had to re-home Tess. I loved that dog and she loved me, but she would not stop pooping and peeing in the house. Not even after I got a doggy door. I spent thousands on trainers. The first one she bit. The second used to train wolves so he taught her some things but still couldn’t get on top of the guarding. No one but my boys and my sister could come to the house. I had a third trainer come for the home guarding issue. After an hour he left and refused to return. On my last visit to the vet, I had to lay on my back on the floor, wrap my legs around her body and my arms around her neck while a second tech held her legs and the third gave her a shot. They then sold me tranquilizers and said she has to be sedated before any further services would be rendered. I felt terrible re-homing her but I gave it a full year of all out effort. It’s probably my fault. I got her 5 days after BigE went away. I think I dumped a whole lot of crazy on her and it made her crazy too. I am waffling between relief from and grief for her. Anyway, you have to find a way no matter what comes your way. I have a wonderful life. Tough year, no doubt, but so so many blessings. I hope you guys are doing well and manage to find your own way through whatever’s stalking you. Shoutout @ngakaksehat cr: iqsm DM for further credit or removal.

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Caption : The part that tickled me was the people on the left checking it out. I hope you guys had a good Thanksgiving. I made a pre-Thanksgiving dinner on Wednesday and ate with my sister and sons5and 6 of 6. I made Beef Wellington, roasted carrots and sautéed green beans. It was so good there was some back and forth about who got the last helping. Ah, what a new exciting feeling! On Thanksgiving my sister and I went to my neighbors house. They are the nicest people ever. We were in the family photo and everything. I switched up to get through it with minimal emotional machinations born of my current circumstance. I was, like my good woman here, making my own way. You know, you can step away from how you always do things and re-order them to fit your circumstances. Yesterday, I had to re-home Tess. I loved that dog and she loved me, but she would not stop pooping and peeing in the house. Not even after I got a doggy door. I spent thousands on trainers. The first one she bit. The second used to train wolves so he taught her some things but still couldn’t get on top of the guarding. No one but my boys and my sister could come to the house. I had a third trainer come for the home guarding issue. After an hour he left and refused to return. On my last visit to the vet, I had to lay on my back on the floor, wrap my legs around her body and my arms around her neck while a second tech held her legs and the third gave her a shot. They then sold me tranquilizers and said she has to be sedated before any further services would be rendered. I felt terrible re-homing her but I gave it a full year of all out effort. It’s probably my fault. I got her 5 days after BigE went away. I think I dumped a whole lot of crazy on her and it made her crazy too. I am waffling between relief from and grief for her. Anyway, you have to find a way no matter what comes your way. I have a wonderful life. Tough year, no doubt, but so so many blessings. I hope you guys are doing well and manage to find your own way through whatever’s stalking you. Shoutout @ngakaksehat cr: iqsm DM for further credit or removal.
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Likes : 629769Lynn Toler - 388.6K Likes - Of course I hope he’s okay and my caption was just a joke. I don’t know where he’s been or what physical issue he may have had that helped load him on the baggage carousel, but he was helped by all and he thanked everybody. Baggage carousels and I have a fraught relationship. At Logan Airport in 1978 I watched my ripped luggage deposit my clothing item by item the belt. All I could do is scoop them up as they rolled by. Once a mother I lived in fear of son6 of 6 jumping on it for a ride. He’d look at it then looked at me trying to figure out if I could snag him before he got his ride. He did this kind of thing a lot in a number of venues. Most of my gray hair has his name on it. Have a good day. Help the hapless. I am often among them. 🤣

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Caption : Of course I hope he’s okay and my caption was just a joke. I don’t know where he’s been or what physical issue he may have had that helped load him on the baggage carousel, but he was helped by all and he thanked everybody. Baggage carousels and I have a fraught relationship. At Logan Airport in 1978 I watched my ripped luggage deposit my clothing item by item the belt. All I could do is scoop them up as they rolled by. Once a mother I lived in fear of son6 of 6 jumping on it for a ride. He’d look at it then looked at me trying to figure out if I could snag him before he got his ride. He did this kind of thing a lot in a number of venues. Most of my gray hair has his name on it. Have a good day. Help the hapless. I am often among them. 🤣
Likes : 388608Lynn Toler - 176K Likes - Even though I am a law and order girl by trade, I still had to root for dude here. Outnumbered, no equipment… not even a shirt, my man bobbed and weaved and went right through them. I’m not sure why my dude was up on that roof or what went down just before. Bad guy, misunderstood guy, confused guy, distraught guy: we don’t know which one he is. What I do know is that he was committed to the proposition of not getting caught. I feel like that a lot. Not running from the authorities, but just running. I’m always just a little bit anxious and said #anxiety, has led to a number of less than optimal decisions. I hate conflict. I’m shy. And as a young person I thought Other People of any variety were problematic, distressing and intrusive. They didn’t even have to do anything to me either. Their presence in my airspace was disconcerting all on its own. I was always trying to be alone. When I went to college I wanted to be an anesthesiologist. You know, a doctor who puts people asleep. Dream job. Unconscious is just how I liked people back in the day. But in order to get into medical school you have to go to class in college… but once I figured out how to pass classes without going, I STAYED in my dorm room. Soaking up solitude and hanging with a few women friends who were gracious enough to put up with me. Got in and out with minimal effort and human contact. Something I regret to this day. As a function of those bad decisions (and it’s fair to presume some less than stellar reasoning got my man up on that roof.) I, not unlike dude, found myself bobbing and weaving through a profession that, by its very nature, offered nothing but conflict and waves of people with whom you were paid to spar. Then my reclusive behind married a dude with four kids. FOUR. What kind of self respecting wannabe recluse does that? Poor decision making and a nervous nature notwithstanding things turned ok. I hope whatever his issues, dude ends up okay too. Now as a law and order girl depending on what proceeded this scene ending up okay might require some jail time. You gotta pay to play. Have a fabulous Friday. Stay nimble. Should @wakeupwiththewolfshow @ryanfoxnow

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Caption : Even though I am a law and order girl by trade, I still had to root for dude here. Outnumbered, no equipment… not even a shirt, my man bobbed and weaved and went right through them. I’m not sure why my dude was up on that roof or what went down just before. Bad guy, misunderstood guy, confused guy, distraught guy: we don’t know which one he is. What I do know is that he was committed to the proposition of not getting caught. I feel like that a lot. Not running from the authorities, but just running. I’m always just a little bit anxious and said #anxiety, has led to a number of less than optimal decisions. I hate conflict. I’m shy. And as a young person I thought Other People of any variety were problematic, distressing and intrusive. They didn’t even have to do anything to me either. Their presence in my airspace was disconcerting all on its own. I was always trying to be alone. When I went to college I wanted to be an anesthesiologist. You know, a doctor who puts people asleep. Dream job. Unconscious is just how I liked people back in the day. But in order to get into medical school you have to go to class in college… but once I figured out how to pass classes without going, I STAYED in my dorm room. Soaking up solitude and hanging with a few women friends who were gracious enough to put up with me. Got in and out with minimal effort and human contact. Something I regret to this day. As a function of those bad decisions (and it’s fair to presume some less than stellar reasoning got my man up on that roof.) I, not unlike dude, found myself bobbing and weaving through a profession that, by its very nature, offered nothing but conflict and waves of people with whom you were paid to spar. Then my reclusive behind married a dude with four kids. FOUR. What kind of self respecting wannabe recluse does that? Poor decision making and a nervous nature notwithstanding things turned ok. I hope whatever his issues, dude ends up okay too. Now as a law and order girl depending on what proceeded this scene ending up okay might require some jail time. You gotta pay to play. Have a fabulous Friday. Stay nimble. Should @wakeupwiththewolfshow @ryanfoxnow
Likes : 176049Lynn Toler - 168.5K Likes - I am a #widow working her way through the weeds of the holidays. Firsts are awful. That said, I look to manufacture moments of joy so I can press the release valve on all this pressure on my heart.

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Caption : I am a #widow working her way through the weeds of the holidays. Firsts are awful. That said, I look to manufacture moments of joy so I can press the release valve on all this pressure on my heart.
Likes : 168455Lynn Toler - 110.8K Likes - One of my mother’s favorite expressions is #keepcoming. Just shake out the sheets of your problems so you can see them all clearly then start working the edges. Solve small if you have huge concerns, bite off bits and pieces of it till it’s a size you can consume or if you are unable to that, at least you’ve made it smaller so when it lands on you it doesn’t hurt as much. Y’all have a great day!

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Caption : One of my mother’s favorite expressions is #keepcoming. Just shake out the sheets of your problems so you can see them all clearly then start working the edges. Solve small if you have huge concerns, bite off bits and pieces of it till it’s a size you can consume or if you are unable to that, at least you’ve made it smaller so when it lands on you it doesn’t hurt as much. Y’all have a great day!
Likes : 110829Lynn Toler - 85.5K Likes - I was scrolling, trying to find something #funny. But nothing ... I mean nothing ... struck me as such this morning. The weather report is reading cloudy with a huge low pressure system stagnant above me. Not one to let my moods choose me, I embarked on a sojourn through my phone to see if I could find anything funny there. While this is not that I found it uplifting nevertheless. 1) I was outside mid 2023. Smiling. If I found a way to be okay that day, I should be able to do it today, too. 2) It also confirmed the wisdom of my re-homing Tess. I had massive guilt about that. But two birds in a day? I don't specifically recall that, but it did remind me of the daily stress of in-home carcass location and collection, so I am gonna let that go. 3) Did you see me realize my shirt was too low? Much of what many of you so kindly dub #authenticity on my part is typically little more than laziness and a tomboy nature. I should have checked the shot and made changes, but that would be the rational response of an individual who is patient. As you all know, that ain't me. I said all of that to say this: Don't let your mood pick you. And most certainly don't let any random individuals with whom you have contact today pick your mood either. That is not the kind of work you want to outsource. #emotions #emotionalintelligence.

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Caption : I was scrolling, trying to find something #funny. But nothing … I mean nothing … struck me as such this morning. The weather report is reading cloudy with a huge low pressure system stagnant above me. Not one to let my moods choose me, I embarked on a sojourn through my phone to see if I could find anything funny there. While this is not that I found it uplifting nevertheless. 1) I was outside mid 2023. Smiling. If I found a way to be okay that day, I should be able to do it today, too. 2) It also confirmed the wisdom of my re-homing Tess. I had massive guilt about that. But two birds in a day? I don’t specifically recall that, but it did remind me of the daily stress of in-home carcass location and collection, so I am gonna let that go. 3) Did you see me realize my shirt was too low? Much of what many of you so kindly dub #authenticity on my part is typically little more than laziness and a tomboy nature. I should have checked the shot and made changes, but that would be the rational response of an individual who is patient. As you all know, that ain’t me. I said all of that to say this: Don’t let your mood pick you. And most certainly don’t let any random individuals with whom you have contact today pick your mood either. That is not the kind of work you want to outsource. #emotions #emotionalintelligence.
Likes : 85494Lynn Toler - 59K Likes - #Life is full of phases. You start out in your own personal Matrix. We all get air dropped into this group of people who happen to be a certain way and live in a certain place and that becomes your normal. Next thing you know those people who were your entire world ship you off to this big building with a bunch of other short people and you find out that not all families function similarly. And that's how it goes year after year. Your life expands in concentric circles … as, it seems, do we. At some point most of us are gonna have to add girth to our seating arrangement calculations. #fail #fall #shoutout @fails

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Caption : #Life is full of phases. You start out in your own personal Matrix. We all get air dropped into this group of people who happen to be a certain way and live in a certain place and that becomes your normal. Next thing you know those people who were your entire world ship you off to this big building with a bunch of other short people and you find out that not all families function similarly. And that’s how it goes year after year. Your life expands in concentric circles … as, it seems, do we. At some point most of us are gonna have to add girth to our seating arrangement calculations. #fail #fall #shoutout @fails
Likes : 58980Lynn Toler - 57K Likes - Busy is good.

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Caption : Busy is good.
Likes : 56998Lynn Toler - 54.4K Likes - I never have shoes on and I believe being right side up should be optional. This is from 2022. While my life was all upside down in 2023, I was never literally upside down. Didn’t occur to me. Had too much going on. That said, I think being upside down is good thing. Sometimes, it’s just boring being grown all day long … A bout of childishness, with in the context of an otherwise orderly life, can be a welcomed change of both pace and perspective. Oftentimes, we lose skills because we don’t regularly engage in them. Of course, I’m not a silly person, so I don’t see me having any real need for this particular skill. I mean where am I gonna pull that out and use it? It’s too late to join the circus.😂 That said, though it may not have intrinsic value, it does keep you flexible. Maintaining flexibility as you age, in both body and mind, is an important thing. While a flexible body helps you navigate the physical world, a flexible mind helps you negotiate your emotional life. If you’re rigid in thinking, all manner of notions that exist outside the narrow scope of what you know can irritate and upset you. But if you have a flexible mind you can entertain a wide range of ideas. You don’t ultimately have to adopt them but think how much easier everything would be if you got interested as opposed to agitated by new and different. Deeper still, you’ll learn a thing or two. And I don’t know about you but I know for a fact I’m not right a lot. The cool thing about that, though, is the more often I figure out what I’m not right about the closer I am to getting there. Looking at things from all sides helps with just about everything. Therefore, now that I have some equilibrium back I intend to invert regularly in 2024. #Goals If you’re not making progress you’re just standing there. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Relevant #Tolerism: I do not claim to possess the #truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. #emotional #emotionalintelligence I am not simply a #widow. I am a widow working her way out of the weeds. The former is a state of being. The latter is a way of living. I am in progress.

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Caption : I never have shoes on and I believe being right side up should be optional. This is from 2022. While my life was all upside down in 2023, I was never literally upside down. Didn’t occur to me. Had too much going on. That said, I think being upside down is good thing. Sometimes, it’s just boring being grown all day long … A bout of childishness, with in the context of an otherwise orderly life, can be a welcomed change of both pace and perspective. Oftentimes, we lose skills because we don’t regularly engage in them. Of course, I’m not a silly person, so I don’t see me having any real need for this particular skill. I mean where am I gonna pull that out and use it? It’s too late to join the circus.😂 That said, though it may not have intrinsic value, it does keep you flexible. Maintaining flexibility as you age, in both body and mind, is an important thing. While a flexible body helps you navigate the physical world, a flexible mind helps you negotiate your emotional life. If you’re rigid in thinking, all manner of notions that exist outside the narrow scope of what you know can irritate and upset you. But if you have a flexible mind you can entertain a wide range of ideas. You don’t ultimately have to adopt them but think how much easier everything would be if you got interested as opposed to agitated by new and different. Deeper still, you’ll learn a thing or two. And I don’t know about you but I know for a fact I’m not right a lot. The cool thing about that, though, is the more often I figure out what I’m not right about the closer I am to getting there. Looking at things from all sides helps with just about everything. Therefore, now that I have some equilibrium back I intend to invert regularly in 2024. #Goals If you’re not making progress you’re just standing there. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Relevant #Tolerism: I do not claim to possess the #truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. #emotional #emotionalintelligence I am not simply a #widow. I am a widow working her way out of the weeds. The former is a state of being. The latter is a way of living. I am in progress.
Likes : 54351Lynn Toler - 50.4K Likes - The attitude. That baby stared that #nurse down like it was high noon at the OK Corral. Leaning into the hard stuff makes said hard stuff less so. Be well … or get well. Whichever applies to you today. Personally I’m not sure I can manage either one. Your girl is on The Struggle Bus today! That said, I WILL go to my dance class this morning. Maybe I can shake it off, there. I’m telling you so I will feel accountable. Up from here is the game plan. Shoutout @raykowusu #baby #babies #babiesofinstagram

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Caption : The attitude. That baby stared that #nurse down like it was high noon at the OK Corral. Leaning into the hard stuff makes said hard stuff less so. Be well … or get well. Whichever applies to you today. Personally I’m not sure I can manage either one. Your girl is on The Struggle Bus today! That said, I WILL go to my dance class this morning. Maybe I can shake it off, there. I’m telling you so I will feel accountable. Up from here is the game plan. Shoutout @raykowusu #baby #babies #babiesofinstagram
Likes : 50384Lynn Toler - 46.8K Likes - Indeed. Shoutout @mikisoldtoday

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Caption : Indeed. Shoutout @mikisoldtoday
Likes : 46815Lynn Toler - 44.9K Likes - #love #marriage #relationshipgoals Happy Sunday! I have been on a very aggressive pause of late. I'm just out here floating. I miss him.

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Caption : #love #marriage #relationshipgoals Happy Sunday! I have been on a very aggressive pause of late. I’m just out here floating. I miss him.
Likes : 44904Lynn Toler - 44.4K Likes - I'm off the Struggle Bus and on the Creativity Caravan. Hopefully the latter can get me where I need to be today. #emotionalintelligence. #BeKind #StayUp

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Caption : I’m off the Struggle Bus and on the Creativity Caravan. Hopefully the latter can get me where I need to be today. #emotionalintelligence. #BeKind #StayUp
Likes : 44361Lynn Toler - 43.6K Likes - I don't get invited to parties much cause usually I won't go. So I crashed this one. You would think I would move the bags out of the way before I did it but I didn't notice them till I was done, and I spent all my goofy on the first go round.

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Caption : I don’t get invited to parties much cause usually I won’t go. So I crashed this one. You would think I would move the bags out of the way before I did it but I didn’t notice them till I was done, and I spent all my goofy on the first go round.
Likes : 43630Lynn Toler - 43.6K Likes - This is also me re-accessing the best parts of my life. #flashbackfriday (lol I don’t even know if that’s a thing anymore) This was one of the best nights in my life. I had been asked to give a speech in Paris so that meant I got paid to go there for free with BigE. Now I speak French but I don’t SPEAK FRENCH if you get what I mean. BigE was in heaven the first night there. Four young beautiful women picked us up at the airport and took us straight to a magnificent restaurant. I insisted we only speak French. They asked (in English)if it would make him feel excluded. He said, “knock yourselves out.” It was a perfect scenario for him. Surrounded by women he can look at but didn’t have to talk to while eating an outstanding meal. Anyway, they got me an interpreter because though I’m functional in French I can’t go full tilt Toler in it. So I started my speech with a greeting in French then switched to English. I said something funny, she translated, but no one laughed. So I decided to pay attention to her translation when I said the next thing and realized she was not anywhere close. Then I looked down, then back up only to see my interpreter flee the scene. So there I was in front of 800 French speaking people alone. I had two choices panic or persevere. I pulled up everything I could think of and went for broke. Then I started asking the audience questions because I’m better with answering in French than pontificating in it. I was up the 20 minutes before this young lady came out of the audience and translated for me. I got a standing O. Went back to the hotel, got BigE found a great restaurant and drank copious amounts of scotch. I was both relieved and proud. BigE snapped that pic. I was swimming in happy. Feeling better feels better when you do better first. Adversity occurs. How you push back is up to you. Thirty five years worth of wonderful memories. I am not going to let loosing him steal those from me. Just not doing it. Am I crying now? Of course. But I smiled for quite a while first. All progress should be duly noted. I am a #widow working herself out of the weeds. #emotionalintelligence #love survives

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Caption : This is also me re-accessing the best parts of my life. #flashbackfriday (lol I don’t even know if that’s a thing anymore) This was one of the best nights in my life. I had been asked to give a speech in Paris so that meant I got paid to go there for free with BigE. Now I speak French but I don’t SPEAK FRENCH if you get what I mean. BigE was in heaven the first night there. Four young beautiful women picked us up at the airport and took us straight to a magnificent restaurant. I insisted we only speak French. They asked (in English)if it would make him feel excluded. He said, “knock yourselves out.” It was a perfect scenario for him. Surrounded by women he can look at but didn’t have to talk to while eating an outstanding meal. Anyway, they got me an interpreter because though I’m functional in French I can’t go full tilt Toler in it. So I started my speech with a greeting in French then switched to English. I said something funny, she translated, but no one laughed. So I decided to pay attention to her translation when I said the next thing and realized she was not anywhere close. Then I looked down, then back up only to see my interpreter flee the scene. So there I was in front of 800 French speaking people alone. I had two choices panic or persevere. I pulled up everything I could think of and went for broke. Then I started asking the audience questions because I’m better with answering in French than pontificating in it. I was up the 20 minutes before this young lady came out of the audience and translated for me. I got a standing O. Went back to the hotel, got BigE found a great restaurant and drank copious amounts of scotch. I was both relieved and proud. BigE snapped that pic. I was swimming in happy. Feeling better feels better when you do better first. Adversity occurs. How you push back is up to you. Thirty five years worth of wonderful memories. I am not going to let loosing him steal those from me. Just not doing it. Am I crying now? Of course. But I smiled for quite a while first. All progress should be duly noted. I am a #widow working herself out of the weeds. #emotionalintelligence #love survives
Likes : 43598Lynn Toler - 43.5K Likes - Son5 of 6 (who is 18 months in this video) took my old VCR tapes and converted them to digital. He sent me this for #valentines. “She had my support from day one.” He was a sexy somebody, wasn’t he? #live #marriage #relationships #relationshipgoals #love

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Caption : Son5 of 6 (who is 18 months in this video) took my old VCR tapes and converted them to digital. He sent me this for #valentines. “She had my support from day one.” He was a sexy somebody, wasn’t he? #live #marriage #relationships #relationshipgoals #love
Likes : 43482Lynn Toler - 41.3K Likes - Happy Birthday Baby.

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Caption : Happy Birthday Baby.
Likes : 41292Lynn Toler - 39.6K Likes - … and it pulls me under. Have a wonderful holiday. I’m going to take a few weeks and see if I can’t turn on a light or two. Much love. Don’t drink too much and start fighting. Hug everybody hard and long. Love lavishly. Forgive ferociously. See you when the lights come back on.

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Caption : … and it pulls me under. Have a wonderful holiday. I’m going to take a few weeks and see if I can’t turn on a light or two. Much love. Don’t drink too much and start fighting. Hug everybody hard and long. Love lavishly. Forgive ferociously. See you when the lights come back on.
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Likes : 33282Lynn Toler - 32.9K Likes - I was unhappy with my unhappiness so I made a decision to do otherwise. I put on some #makeup, did my #hair. Put on what I thought was a clean sweatshirt but alas ... 😮 Y'all have a good day. They can't catch you if you keep moving.

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Caption : I was unhappy with my unhappiness so I made a decision to do otherwise. I put on some #makeup, did my #hair. Put on what I thought was a clean sweatshirt but alas … 😮 Y’all have a good day. They can’t catch you if you keep moving.
Likes : 32930Lynn Toler - 32.6K Likes - #peace ain’t never been still at my house. To Sit is to #worry. To invite #anxiety. To Do is to be rational just another moment longer. #emotionalintelligence #emotions #widow #whitneyhouston

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Caption : #peace ain’t never been still at my house. To Sit is to #worry. To invite #anxiety. To Do is to be rational just another moment longer. #emotionalintelligence #emotions #widow #whitneyhouston
Likes : 32611Lynn Toler - 32.6K Likes - I just wanted to fall through and say Merry Christmas!

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Caption : I just wanted to fall through and say Merry Christmas!
Likes : 32571Lynn Toler - 31.2K Likes - You can sell yourself into sadness. Every post, every conversation , every interaction offers you a few cents worth of feel. The clerk may have sold you frustration. Some clown on the road may have offered you a dollars worth of rage in exchange for your best self. You paying? And then there’s technology. The #algorithm sees how long you hovered on something and offer you more of the same. You take the emotional money for that tens seconds of a dopamine dump and you keep it moving … or so you think. Those nickels and dimes of sensory input we sell our mood to add up. I inadvertently sold myself to some rather macabre nonsense when I was trying to remind myself it could be worse. (I try a lot of emotional management strategies… some are better than others!) That misguided effort had huge drawbacks. It may or may not have put my issues in perspective but what it absolutely did is fill the back of my brain with darkness and despair for humanity as a whole. I am going back to #elephants, #babies and #puppies for a while. All I’m saying is that in the midst of the madness remember you have the power to steal some #joy. Like my dude here. He could have been the bane of his entire clients’ existence or a man who makes them #smile. The latter is a bit more work but the return on that labor is invaluable. Shoutout @drimranpatelofficial #emotionalintelligence Emotional intelligence is the security door to you place of peace. You can stand at the window and watch folks whoop and holler but you don’t have to let them in.

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Caption : You can sell yourself into sadness. Every post, every conversation , every interaction offers you a few cents worth of feel. The clerk may have sold you frustration. Some clown on the road may have offered you a dollars worth of rage in exchange for your best self. You paying? And then there’s technology. The #algorithm sees how long you hovered on something and offer you more of the same. You take the emotional money for that tens seconds of a dopamine dump and you keep it moving … or so you think. Those nickels and dimes of sensory input we sell our mood to add up. I inadvertently sold myself to some rather macabre nonsense when I was trying to remind myself it could be worse. (I try a lot of emotional management strategies… some are better than others!) That misguided effort had huge drawbacks. It may or may not have put my issues in perspective but what it absolutely did is fill the back of my brain with darkness and despair for humanity as a whole. I am going back to #elephants, #babies and #puppies for a while. All I’m saying is that in the midst of the madness remember you have the power to steal some #joy. Like my dude here. He could have been the bane of his entire clients’ existence or a man who makes them #smile. The latter is a bit more work but the return on that labor is invaluable. Shoutout @drimranpatelofficial #emotionalintelligence Emotional intelligence is the security door to you place of peace. You can stand at the window and watch folks whoop and holler but you don’t have to let them in.
Likes : 31151Lynn Toler - 29.6K Likes - Range of motion issues be damned. When the #funk runs deep, your every move speaks. Old in the afternoon dancing with a bunch of girlfriends. I could make that work. Yesterday I wrote a long mixed-metaphor riddled screed about some new drama in my life. I didn’t say what it was but the post was pretty cathartic. I had three #Tolerisms and everything. For some reason, most logically my own state of mind, it didn’t post. I broke at least five of My Mother’s Rules this week. I need to recalibrate. Shoutout @allauthenticsoles

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Caption : Range of motion issues be damned. When the #funk runs deep, your every move speaks. Old in the afternoon dancing with a bunch of girlfriends. I could make that work. Yesterday I wrote a long mixed-metaphor riddled screed about some new drama in my life. I didn’t say what it was but the post was pretty cathartic. I had three #Tolerisms and everything. For some reason, most logically my own state of mind, it didn’t post. I broke at least five of My Mother’s Rules this week. I need to recalibrate. Shoutout @allauthenticsoles
Likes : 29605Lynn Toler - 28.7K Likes - Ain’t gonna lie. I did loose my cool when the dogs rolled around in the mud then tore trough my house flinging mud everywhere. My day is planned. I climbed out of my bedroom window in my jammies to video that. I’m shifting. It’s weird. #joyous one minute undone the next. Emerging from the semi-catatonic state of newly #widowed, I’ve entered a new era in which I feel his absence in new ways daily. I think he’s messing with me from Heaven. You know, « she’s moping. Let me give her something she has to focus on » Whether that makes sense or not is irrelevant. It’s how I choose to #feel about it so I can keep it pushing. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose

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Caption : Ain’t gonna lie. I did loose my cool when the dogs rolled around in the mud then tore trough my house flinging mud everywhere. My day is planned. I climbed out of my bedroom window in my jammies to video that. I’m shifting. It’s weird. #joyous one minute undone the next. Emerging from the semi-catatonic state of newly #widowed, I’ve entered a new era in which I feel his absence in new ways daily. I think he’s messing with me from Heaven. You know, « she’s moping. Let me give her something she has to focus on » Whether that makes sense or not is irrelevant. It’s how I choose to #feel about it so I can keep it pushing. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose
Likes : 28712Lynn Toler - 28.2K Likes - Son5 of 6 is the family historian and a man with a memory at which I marvel. He’s in 7th heaven digitizing old stuff. I was minding my own business when Fox called and asked if I wanted to try TV. I asked everyone how they decided to call me and no one really said. People pass the buck a lot out there. I think whoever found me didn’t want to admit it was them until they knew if I would work out. Anyhow I had forgotten all about it. But this was probably what they saw. Things to note: 1. My #hair was crazy, no? That one angle really highlighted my lack of scissor skills. 2. I got my black belt because I was taking son 5 of 6 for lessons. He wasn’t feeling it but I was. So me and a couple of other mothers who watched their kids started taking classes. It took years. Unfortunately, at this juncture, I couldn’t fight my way out of a paper bag with a machete. 3. The news commentator's closing statement, which I thought was goofy and silly in the moment, came true. And to think, BigE and I thought it was hilarious at the time. I swear I’m an accidental overachiever. #momlife #family Use your peripheral vision! Mine has saved me more times than I can count. Don’t just stare straight ahead at what you think you want. Look around at every stop to make sure you you don’t miss something better you didn’t know was out there. Rule, 43 people. It makes life and its inherent messiness more enjoyable. By the way I am not dodging accountability. I both #crocheted and painted yesterday. I did neither well but I did them for a while. Doing so made me feel like a normal person until FedEx showed up with the second solar powered generator I bought. I am into process and procedure. When I don’t feel safe I buy infrastructure. The arrival reminded I’m not well yet (or, as is more likely the case, I was never quite well) but I have learned to generate positive results even when mildly hysterical. Y’all have a good day. Stay on #swivel you might be surprised at what you see.

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Caption : Son5 of 6 is the family historian and a man with a memory at which I marvel. He’s in 7th heaven digitizing old stuff. I was minding my own business when Fox called and asked if I wanted to try TV. I asked everyone how they decided to call me and no one really said. People pass the buck a lot out there. I think whoever found me didn’t want to admit it was them until they knew if I would work out. Anyhow I had forgotten all about it. But this was probably what they saw. Things to note: 1. My #hair was crazy, no? That one angle really highlighted my lack of scissor skills. 2. I got my black belt because I was taking son 5 of 6 for lessons. He wasn’t feeling it but I was. So me and a couple of other mothers who watched their kids started taking classes. It took years. Unfortunately, at this juncture, I couldn’t fight my way out of a paper bag with a machete. 3. The news commentator’s closing statement, which I thought was goofy and silly in the moment, came true. And to think, BigE and I thought it was hilarious at the time. I swear I’m an accidental overachiever. #momlife #family Use your peripheral vision! Mine has saved me more times than I can count. Don’t just stare straight ahead at what you think you want. Look around at every stop to make sure you you don’t miss something better you didn’t know was out there. Rule, 43 people. It makes life and its inherent messiness more enjoyable. By the way I am not dodging accountability. I both #crocheted and painted yesterday. I did neither well but I did them for a while. Doing so made me feel like a normal person until FedEx showed up with the second solar powered generator I bought. I am into process and procedure. When I don’t feel safe I buy infrastructure. The arrival reminded I’m not well yet (or, as is more likely the case, I was never quite well) but I have learned to generate positive results even when mildly hysterical. Y’all have a good day. Stay on #swivel you might be surprised at what you see.
Likes : 28236Lynn Toler - 28.1K Likes - Something similar happened to me once. I was walking home from the Rapid in Cleveland and some guy came up behind me and grabbed my bag. The strap broke and it fell half way between us. I’m cheap but not stupid. We stood there for a second. I said, “take it.” He hesitated then took it. It’s weird when things don’t go as planned and you have to kinda sit through this odd space of not quite knowing what to do with a complete stranger the only thing you know about is that he’s a criminal but not to terribly adept. I wish you all the #peace that I’ve managed to misplace the last few days. I’m going to do a deep clean in my bedroom and see if i can find it hiding under some of this chaos I’ve got going on in here. I miss him so much. Shoutout @fofocacelebridadess

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Caption : Something similar happened to me once. I was walking home from the Rapid in Cleveland and some guy came up behind me and grabbed my bag. The strap broke and it fell half way between us. I’m cheap but not stupid. We stood there for a second. I said, “take it.” He hesitated then took it. It’s weird when things don’t go as planned and you have to kinda sit through this odd space of not quite knowing what to do with a complete stranger the only thing you know about is that he’s a criminal but not to terribly adept. I wish you all the #peace that I’ve managed to misplace the last few days. I’m going to do a deep clean in my bedroom and see if i can find it hiding under some of this chaos I’ve got going on in here. I miss him so much. Shoutout @fofocacelebridadess
Likes : 28140Lynn Toler - 27.2K Likes - You have to check your program on a regular basis. That which may have been an appropriate #goal a while ago may no longer be what you need. We're such creatures of habit. Once we find something that works in the moment we tend to stick with it even when that moment has passed. When my world went dark, I had trouble getting out of the bed but I still needed to accomplish things. So I made doing things FROM the bed that much easier. It was a good solve in the interim but it works against me now. So I am doing the uncomfortable thing. The new thing. The get you butt out of bed and get dressed thing. Relevant #Tolerism: Check the corners of your comfort to keep from getting stuck in it, as opposed to rejuvenated by it. ##emotionalintelligence #emotions #grief #belief Overalls! I love that kinda stuff. Makes me wanna get dressed. #halara

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Caption : You have to check your program on a regular basis. That which may have been an appropriate #goal a while ago may no longer be what you need. We’re such creatures of habit. Once we find something that works in the moment we tend to stick with it even when that moment has passed. When my world went dark, I had trouble getting out of the bed but I still needed to accomplish things. So I made doing things FROM the bed that much easier. It was a good solve in the interim but it works against me now. So I am doing the uncomfortable thing. The new thing. The get you butt out of bed and get dressed thing. Relevant #Tolerism: Check the corners of your comfort to keep from getting stuck in it, as opposed to rejuvenated by it. ##emotionalintelligence #emotions #grief #belief Overalls! I love that kinda stuff. Makes me wanna get dressed. #halara
Likes : 27164Lynn Toler - 27K Likes - You can't just expect things to get better. You have make plans to meet a bad day on YOUR terms. I've got some dark I have to get through. I finished his memorial three volume picture book and sent one to everybody. My goal was to get it there before the anniversary. I'm fielding texts now. They've apparently arrived. The meat of the holiday is on me ... and I do mean ON ME. I ain't gonna let it OWN ME though. There is some other nonsense jumping off that I can't share but oooohh, I 'm like, really? Really. Et tu,Toler. The vissitudes of life come for us all. But I tell you what, dark is gonna have to chase a sister. I'm not going to just stand here and watch it descend. There will be no hand wring or pearl clutching. Sometimes you gotta play hurt. In case you aren't up to speed, I am perched on patio furniture that I am going to put together over the next few days. Give me a few nuts, bolts and some mildly confusing directions and I am good to go for hours. #emotionalintelligence #widow working her way out of the weeds. Feeling better feels better if you do better first. I'm at The Doing part. .

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Caption : You can’t just expect things to get better. You have make plans to meet a bad day on YOUR terms. I’ve got some dark I have to get through. I finished his memorial three volume picture book and sent one to everybody. My goal was to get it there before the anniversary. I’m fielding texts now. They’ve apparently arrived. The meat of the holiday is on me … and I do mean ON ME. I ain’t gonna let it OWN ME though. There is some other nonsense jumping off that I can’t share but oooohh, I ‘m like, really? Really. Et tu,Toler. The vissitudes of life come for us all. But I tell you what, dark is gonna have to chase a sister. I’m not going to just stand here and watch it descend. There will be no hand wring or pearl clutching. Sometimes you gotta play hurt. In case you aren’t up to speed, I am perched on patio furniture that I am going to put together over the next few days. Give me a few nuts, bolts and some mildly confusing directions and I am good to go for hours. #emotionalintelligence #widow working her way out of the weeds. Feeling better feels better if you do better first. I’m at The Doing part. .
Likes : 27044Lynn Toler - 24.6K Likes - ALL PROGRESS SHOULD BE DULY NOTED #EMOTIONALINTELLIGENCE Just because you know what I've done doesn't mean I've only done what you know. That is an irrelevant #Tolerism vis a vis this post, I know. But I felt the need to share that sentiment. Not sure why, but that's what's rolling around in my head. I need to figure out why it's there, though. I try not to allow unspecified #emotional realities accumulate without figuring out where they're from so they don't unintentionally take me somewhere I really don't want to be. #stay up #bekind People

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Caption : ALL PROGRESS SHOULD BE DULY NOTED #EMOTIONALINTELLIGENCE Just because you know what I’ve done doesn’t mean I’ve only done what you know. That is an irrelevant #Tolerism vis a vis this post, I know. But I felt the need to share that sentiment. Not sure why, but that’s what’s rolling around in my head. I need to figure out why it’s there, though. I try not to allow unspecified #emotional realities accumulate without figuring out where they’re from so they don’t unintentionally take me somewhere I really don’t want to be. #stay up #bekind People
Likes : 24648Lynn Toler - 24.3K Likes - You know how I like to do all the stuff I really don’t want to do first thing in the morning. Often people return my emails with phrases like what were you doing up at 4:00 a.m.? Anyhow, yesterday the minute the coroner’s office opened, I talked to Irma about autopsy photos. #Widowhood is a tough hood. You get your equilibrium for a moment and then get hit by a whole new verse of He’s Not Here sung in so many different keys of sorrow it’s a cacophony and not a chorus. I hesitated to mention the coroner thing (who wants to hear about that) but I’m just out here, you know? Grabbing at things so I won’t drown. Anyway I spent the rest of the day irritated by every single little thing I came across. Something stupid happened at the bank. #Widow-related, mind you, but I held it together. Then there was the post office issue. I was vibrating by then but I got through it without acting up. But by 2:00 p.m. I was fresh out of all #emotional reserves. So I stayed home. What I did not do, however, was turn my phone off. Not only that, I saw his name on the caller ID. I should have just let it go to voicemail. But oh no! The fact that he had it coming is irrelevant. I should have been above it anyway. I hate it when I let others set my #mood. I can’t even tell you about the second meltdown. I was home. In bed. (5:00 p.m. - don’t judge, discretion is the better part of valor) I called myself securing the world by absenting myself from it. I had all my fences up. But they found me after I had clocked out. I was totally emotionally unprepared for human interaction so I showed up all wrong. It’s a new day though. Relevant #Tolerism The Up Rule: When you mess up. Fess up. Back up, Then clean up. Got my mop and I’m ready to go. #emotionalintellingence #widow working her way out of the weeds.

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Caption : You know how I like to do all the stuff I really don’t want to do first thing in the morning. Often people return my emails with phrases like what were you doing up at 4:00 a.m.? Anyhow, yesterday the minute the coroner’s office opened, I talked to Irma about autopsy photos. #Widowhood is a tough hood. You get your equilibrium for a moment and then get hit by a whole new verse of He’s Not Here sung in so many different keys of sorrow it’s a cacophony and not a chorus. I hesitated to mention the coroner thing (who wants to hear about that) but I’m just out here, you know? Grabbing at things so I won’t drown. Anyway I spent the rest of the day irritated by every single little thing I came across. Something stupid happened at the bank. #Widow-related, mind you, but I held it together. Then there was the post office issue. I was vibrating by then but I got through it without acting up. But by 2:00 p.m. I was fresh out of all #emotional reserves. So I stayed home. What I did not do, however, was turn my phone off. Not only that, I saw his name on the caller ID. I should have just let it go to voicemail. But oh no! The fact that he had it coming is irrelevant. I should have been above it anyway. I hate it when I let others set my #mood. I can’t even tell you about the second meltdown. I was home. In bed. (5:00 p.m. – don’t judge, discretion is the better part of valor) I called myself securing the world by absenting myself from it. I had all my fences up. But they found me after I had clocked out. I was totally emotionally unprepared for human interaction so I showed up all wrong. It’s a new day though. Relevant #Tolerism The Up Rule: When you mess up. Fess up. Back up, Then clean up. Got my mop and I’m ready to go. #emotionalintellingence #widow working her way out of the weeds.
Likes : 24302Lynn Toler - 21.4K Likes - Happy Friday! Shoutout @allfails credit: @eclektif @clips fail #falls

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Caption : Happy Friday! Shoutout @allfails credit: @eclektif @clips fail #falls
Likes : 21434Lynn Toler - 21.1K Likes - Some days problems pick you and there’s no way to see them coming. Occasionally events conspire to write a story that is painful in the moment but if you have the right sense of humor is funny in the retelling of it. I know that if that happened to me I’d tell everybody … twice. If I had to suffer the event, ain’t no way in the world I’m not gonna get some joy out of it on the backend. My mother used to tell me you have to look at the whole thing. In other words when something bad happens you can’t just see the problems it causes but you have to find a way to make it inure to your benefit, even if it’s just the lesson not to do it again or a good story to tell. But when you get really proficient at #emotional management you can use other parts too. I look back over the year and see that I have developed a What Would Eric Do-like calm in the midst of turmoil. Since he’s not here to lean on I make a point to mimic what he would do even though it feels all wrong. And you know what I figured out? It works for me too. For instance he never felt the need to explain his decisions when dealing with people he had limited interactions with. I often explain to people why I didn’t want this service or I would second guess myself when dealing in areas about which I knew little. Like landscaping. (Don’t ask, your girl has embarked on a massive backyard project in a fit of ‘I gotta find something large to focus on’ that befell me in August.) Now I can be all calm with stuff & they respect it. It sounds dumb, I know, but we’re all weak in our own silly little ways. The thing is you can’t live that weak without trying to smack it around every now and then. Not sure how I got from the guy on the tree (who we all hope is okay) to my backyard but alas, here we are. Relevant #tolerism: the path of least resistance typically leads to the place with the most persistent problems. It would be easier to stay the me I was when he was here but that won’t bear the results I want so I seek the controlled discomfort of mimicking him. Shoutout @woodworking_art DM for further credit or removal

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Caption : Some days problems pick you and there’s no way to see them coming. Occasionally events conspire to write a story that is painful in the moment but if you have the right sense of humor is funny in the retelling of it. I know that if that happened to me I’d tell everybody … twice. If I had to suffer the event, ain’t no way in the world I’m not gonna get some joy out of it on the backend. My mother used to tell me you have to look at the whole thing. In other words when something bad happens you can’t just see the problems it causes but you have to find a way to make it inure to your benefit, even if it’s just the lesson not to do it again or a good story to tell. But when you get really proficient at #emotional management you can use other parts too. I look back over the year and see that I have developed a What Would Eric Do-like calm in the midst of turmoil. Since he’s not here to lean on I make a point to mimic what he would do even though it feels all wrong. And you know what I figured out? It works for me too. For instance he never felt the need to explain his decisions when dealing with people he had limited interactions with. I often explain to people why I didn’t want this service or I would second guess myself when dealing in areas about which I knew little. Like landscaping. (Don’t ask, your girl has embarked on a massive backyard project in a fit of ‘I gotta find something large to focus on’ that befell me in August.) Now I can be all calm with stuff & they respect it. It sounds dumb, I know, but we’re all weak in our own silly little ways. The thing is you can’t live that weak without trying to smack it around every now and then. Not sure how I got from the guy on the tree (who we all hope is okay) to my backyard but alas, here we are. Relevant #tolerism: the path of least resistance typically leads to the place with the most persistent problems. It would be easier to stay the me I was when he was here but that won’t bear the results I want so I seek the controlled discomfort of mimicking him. Shoutout @woodworking_art DM for further credit or removal
Likes : 21133Lynn Toler - 20.6K Likes - I hope our day go better. Happy #Saturday Shoutout @dadpack

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Caption : I hope our day go better. Happy #Saturday Shoutout @dadpack
Likes : 20610Lynn Toler - 20.3K Likes - Unable to extricate myself from my bed, I reached out from here.

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Caption : Unable to extricate myself from my bed, I reached out from here.
Likes : 20270Lynn Toler - 18.6K Likes - I’m just going to pull it together. I mean really. If you could see the state of disassembly I have reached you’d be appalled. I know I am. I need to get my situation in order before I end up bald and a million dollars in debt to Amazon. That is some addictive stuff. Today, I’m on restriction. No on line purchases. No scissors. Relevant #Tolerisms: If you regularly surrender yourself to your emotions eventually you may have to surrender yourself to the state. #Feelings are fleeting. Felonies are forever. #emotionalintelligence

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Caption : I’m just going to pull it together. I mean really. If you could see the state of disassembly I have reached you’d be appalled. I know I am. I need to get my situation in order before I end up bald and a million dollars in debt to Amazon. That is some addictive stuff. Today, I’m on restriction. No on line purchases. No scissors. Relevant #Tolerisms: If you regularly surrender yourself to your emotions eventually you may have to surrender yourself to the state. #Feelings are fleeting. Felonies are forever. #emotionalintelligence
Likes : 18611Lynn Toler - 18.3K Likes - … and when I say it I mean everything possible. Then you work through it! Shoutout @alldondre

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Caption : … and when I say it I mean everything possible. Then you work through it! Shoutout @alldondre
Likes : 18277Lynn Toler - 18.2K Likes - I love this video for a variety of reasons: 1) Chris jumped into the deep end of his wife’s cultural pool. He gave it all he had too! You could tell he practiced but wasn’t quite comfortable. He never took his eyes off her. 2. It reminds us that embracing differences is more fun than being annoyed by them. Other people’s odd can be a source of irritation or inspiration. If it’s just different and it’s not hurting anyone, don’t let your brain’s tendency to deploy #fear chemicals when met with the unfamiliar trick you into being distressed by that which is simply unfamiliar. You know what I always say … we are all descended from the guy who ran from the lion, not the one who went over there and tried to pet it. Fear of the unknown has survival benefits. It also has great potential for causing problems because that fear can show when the new your brain sees is benign. So you get to running from or fighting with something that can’t hurt you. Next thing you know you have problems born of that bad call, trying to conquer something that couldn’t hurt you to begin with. 3) Effort and enthusiasm. There’s nothing more beautiful than that. Especially when you’re out there struggling to keep up. 4) Reminds me of the time BigE bought me an eight week couples dance class for my birthday. I always watched ballroom dancers with envy so he bought those classes AND brought his size 12 clod hopper feet to class with me each and every time. For such an outstanding athlete my man had two left feet on the dance floor. But he did it FOR ME. He didn’t buy me something, he gifted me his time and no small measure of his dignity to make me happy. A #highvalue man is determined by what’s in his heart, not his wallet. #relationships #relationshipgoals Have a great day! Your girl is out here fighting some big bad ugly stuff. If you’re praying people throw one up for me. I intend to vanquish them. I just need to stay level and calm. Just writing that down helps me do it. #emotionalintelligence #stayup #bekind

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Caption : I love this video for a variety of reasons: 1) Chris jumped into the deep end of his wife’s cultural pool. He gave it all he had too! You could tell he practiced but wasn’t quite comfortable. He never took his eyes off her. 2. It reminds us that embracing differences is more fun than being annoyed by them. Other people’s odd can be a source of irritation or inspiration. If it’s just different and it’s not hurting anyone, don’t let your brain’s tendency to deploy #fear chemicals when met with the unfamiliar trick you into being distressed by that which is simply unfamiliar. You know what I always say … we are all descended from the guy who ran from the lion, not the one who went over there and tried to pet it. Fear of the unknown has survival benefits. It also has great potential for causing problems because that fear can show when the new your brain sees is benign. So you get to running from or fighting with something that can’t hurt you. Next thing you know you have problems born of that bad call, trying to conquer something that couldn’t hurt you to begin with. 3) Effort and enthusiasm. There’s nothing more beautiful than that. Especially when you’re out there struggling to keep up. 4) Reminds me of the time BigE bought me an eight week couples dance class for my birthday. I always watched ballroom dancers with envy so he bought those classes AND brought his size 12 clod hopper feet to class with me each and every time. For such an outstanding athlete my man had two left feet on the dance floor. But he did it FOR ME. He didn’t buy me something, he gifted me his time and no small measure of his dignity to make me happy. A #highvalue man is determined by what’s in his heart, not his wallet. #relationships #relationshipgoals Have a great day! Your girl is out here fighting some big bad ugly stuff. If you’re praying people throw one up for me. I intend to vanquish them. I just need to stay level and calm. Just writing that down helps me do it. #emotionalintelligence #stayup #bekind
Likes : 18199Lynn Toler - 18K Likes - Can I make a suggestion? Beware the #universilization of your own experiences. I know that just because I've experienced something deeply ,intimately and over time, doesn't mean I'm an expert on the underlying event as it occurs to others. People are different. Cultures are different. Upbringings are all over the place. It's like mountain climbing. Just like you should be slow to judge others stuck on a mountain you haven't been required to climb, you should also remember that even if you've already climbed a mountain someone else is on, the ascent is different for everyone depending on their size, which mountain face they chose, their physical ability, and the equipment and guides that they use. You guys have a great day. Even if it's a tough one, try to slip some jot in there somewhere. , went outside, with headphones and a #WhitneyHouston Playlist, and put on a show. Out of respect for the neighbors, I just lip sync and dance. My singing skills are right there with my cooking acumen. 🤣 #widow #betterthanyesterday

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Caption : Can I make a suggestion? Beware the #universilization of your own experiences. I know that just because I’ve experienced something deeply ,intimately and over time, doesn’t mean I’m an expert on the underlying event as it occurs to others. People are different. Cultures are different. Upbringings are all over the place. It’s like mountain climbing. Just like you should be slow to judge others stuck on a mountain you haven’t been required to climb, you should also remember that even if you’ve already climbed a mountain someone else is on, the ascent is different for everyone depending on their size, which mountain face they chose, their physical ability, and the equipment and guides that they use. You guys have a great day. Even if it’s a tough one, try to slip some jot in there somewhere. , went outside, with headphones and a #WhitneyHouston Playlist, and put on a show. Out of respect for the neighbors, I just lip sync and dance. My singing skills are right there with my cooking acumen. 🤣 #widow #betterthanyesterday
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Caption : For those who sought a more appealing presentation to that particular comment.
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Caption : Shoutout @sportscenter. DM for further credit or removal.
Likes : 17151Lynn Toler - 17K Likes - #Strugglebus. Was doing something completely ridiculous when my eye met a flying object that I had failed to secure. Can't get my #hair together. I hate #shoes. HOWEVER, I love my #dog and my son feels better this morning despite my continuing efforts to feed him. I claim victory ... logical or no.

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Caption : #Strugglebus. Was doing something completely ridiculous when my eye met a flying object that I had failed to secure. Can’t get my #hair together. I hate #shoes. HOWEVER, I love my #dog and my son feels better this morning despite my continuing efforts to feed him. I claim victory … logical or no.
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Likes : 16689Lynn Toler - 16.3K Likes - It’s today. Don’t miss it.

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Caption : It’s today. Don’t miss it.
Likes : 16325Lynn Toler - 16.1K Likes - It’s 2025. I am looking forward to this year. Not altogether sure what I am going to do IN this year, but I am gonna make a point of not being pointless anymore. These are the things I KNOW I am going to do: 1) finish that dollhouse. I’m making good progress that I will share later on. I found a miniatures-enthusiasts site and an on line dollhouse construction forum. I know I always complain about what the internet does to the psyche, but it’s great for people with off brand habits to find their own community. (You should know I had penned an entire diatribe on tribalism … a pet peeve of mine but I deleted it. Really trying to keep it on light and happy. Whhhhoooo, almost blew it.😮‍💨 MMR Rule 43: The Kathy Code 2) I am gonna do more YouTube stuff. I’m going to open rooms like Sonali’s Room and just have chit chats you know? Ain’t gonna lie, I’m going to need a push on that. I feel some #emotional resistance building up in me over it. Probably some old fear got activated and is now crawling around in my cranium trying to tell me what I can’t do. 3) going to finish my novel. 4) have some fun. What, when and how I’m quite sure I don’t know but a sister is gonna give it her best. I’m trying to be more intentional about moving forward. For a while there so much was happening TO me I didn’t have to think about what to do because I had to hose down another fire. My girlfriend Rikki told me to put the hose down. I know she’s right and I can’t quite figure what the holdup is. I think I’m afraid that if I stand down something new and scary will get up. Anyway Happy New Year! Keep your #emotions and your money in different rooms until you’re sure they can play well together. #emotionalintelligence #mood: mindful. lol I was looking over 2024’s records and I did a little more #retailtherapy than I thought. 2025 will be my year of intentional #happiness without the economic injury!

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Caption : It’s 2025. I am looking forward to this year. Not altogether sure what I am going to do IN this year, but I am gonna make a point of not being pointless anymore. These are the things I KNOW I am going to do: 1) finish that dollhouse. I’m making good progress that I will share later on. I found a miniatures-enthusiasts site and an on line dollhouse construction forum. I know I always complain about what the internet does to the psyche, but it’s great for people with off brand habits to find their own community. (You should know I had penned an entire diatribe on tribalism … a pet peeve of mine but I deleted it. Really trying to keep it on light and happy. Whhhhoooo, almost blew it.😮‍💨 MMR Rule 43: The Kathy Code 2) I am gonna do more YouTube stuff. I’m going to open rooms like Sonali’s Room and just have chit chats you know? Ain’t gonna lie, I’m going to need a push on that. I feel some #emotional resistance building up in me over it. Probably some old fear got activated and is now crawling around in my cranium trying to tell me what I can’t do. 3) going to finish my novel. 4) have some fun. What, when and how I’m quite sure I don’t know but a sister is gonna give it her best. I’m trying to be more intentional about moving forward. For a while there so much was happening TO me I didn’t have to think about what to do because I had to hose down another fire. My girlfriend Rikki told me to put the hose down. I know she’s right and I can’t quite figure what the holdup is. I think I’m afraid that if I stand down something new and scary will get up. Anyway Happy New Year! Keep your #emotions and your money in different rooms until you’re sure they can play well together. #emotionalintelligence #mood: mindful. lol I was looking over 2024’s records and I did a little more #retailtherapy than I thought. 2025 will be my year of intentional #happiness without the economic injury!
Likes : 16098Lynn Toler - 15.4K Likes - In most homes, this would probably not be a #fail but it certainly would be nothing to boast about. But this is MY house. And this level of order is a #Flex here. And yes there are still pockets of disfunction that I tried to hide but, I mean, in general... My sister said I should hire a cleaning lady. Which would make all the sense in the world. But, the best part of being home is being in it by yourself. I know i could get used to it, but the idea of paying somebody to invade one's space ranckles a woman for whom a reclusive nature is matched only by her penchant toward penury. I'm proud of myself. I got up at 4 a.m. had an EDIBLE dinner completed by 6, cleaned the house. Now I can work! #momlife. A sense of humor is invaluable.

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Caption : In most homes, this would probably not be a #fail but it certainly would be nothing to boast about. But this is MY house. And this level of order is a #Flex here. And yes there are still pockets of disfunction that I tried to hide but, I mean, in general… My sister said I should hire a cleaning lady. Which would make all the sense in the world. But, the best part of being home is being in it by yourself. I know i could get used to it, but the idea of paying somebody to invade one’s space ranckles a woman for whom a reclusive nature is matched only by her penchant toward penury. I’m proud of myself. I got up at 4 a.m. had an EDIBLE dinner completed by 6, cleaned the house. Now I can work! #momlife. A sense of humor is invaluable.
Likes : 15399Lynn Toler - 14.6K Likes - #widow #oldchick new #dog dogs #dogsofinstagram

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Caption : #widow #oldchick new #dog dogs #dogsofinstagram
Likes : 14560Lynn Toler - 14.5K Likes - Gorgeous baby! Shoutout @tajjxrose HAPPY THANKSGIVING! Shoutout @cutekudsrepublic DM for further credit or removal #babies #cute babies

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Caption : Gorgeous baby! Shoutout @tajjxrose HAPPY THANKSGIVING! Shoutout @cutekudsrepublic DM for further credit or removal #babies #cute babies
Likes : 14462Lynn Toler - 14.5K Likes - #Panic is the tsunami of #emotional weather. Fueled by #fear, it resists all logic and reason. Eventually, it blinds you to what's happening right in front of you. Half of the problems I have are a function of my inability to remain calm when faced with new and scary. I'm better now, though. I figured out that in any battle, the first fight I have is always with myself. In order to successfully navigate a situation, I have to get this flighty chick to stop whirling about the edges of whatever catastrophe I have created in my cranium so I can see what the issue really is. #Politians have known this forever. If you can scare the people first you can get them to do anything, even if it's not in their best interests. Remain calm. Don't get #angry when annoyed will do. Don't confront when you have yet to simply inquire. Don't match energy. Dictate atmosphere with #logic, #kindness and a sprinkle of OLD SCHOOL #adulting. #Grace is never a waste even if it's not reciprocated. I don't know how I got here from the phone. I guess it just reminded me of all the time I've wasted doing ludicrous things because a chick has so much trouble staying cool. It's annoying. But I am improving so ... All progress should be duly noted. Shoutout @pubity #emotionalintelligence #phone fears.

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Caption : #Panic is the tsunami of #emotional weather. Fueled by #fear, it resists all logic and reason. Eventually, it blinds you to what’s happening right in front of you. Half of the problems I have are a function of my inability to remain calm when faced with new and scary. I’m better now, though. I figured out that in any battle, the first fight I have is always with myself. In order to successfully navigate a situation, I have to get this flighty chick to stop whirling about the edges of whatever catastrophe I have created in my cranium so I can see what the issue really is. #Politians have known this forever. If you can scare the people first you can get them to do anything, even if it’s not in their best interests. Remain calm. Don’t get #angry when annoyed will do. Don’t confront when you have yet to simply inquire. Don’t match energy. Dictate atmosphere with #logic, #kindness and a sprinkle of OLD SCHOOL #adulting. #Grace is never a waste even if it’s not reciprocated. I don’t know how I got here from the phone. I guess it just reminded me of all the time I’ve wasted doing ludicrous things because a chick has so much trouble staying cool. It’s annoying. But I am improving so … All progress should be duly noted. Shoutout @pubity #emotionalintelligence #phone fears.
Likes : 14455Lynn Toler - 14.2K Likes - You ever just stumble on your own stupid? I mean, I haven't said one right thing to any one body in days. #dogsofinstagram #dogs. I want to go on vacation but I don't have anything to vacate. I mean I don't do anything all day. Not true ... but I don't do anything that seems to go anywhere. I'm just kinda tumbling around the washing machine of a new and challenging existence. No complaints... just acknowledging the weirdness. Y'all have a good day. I'm gonna go play fetch.

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Caption : You ever just stumble on your own stupid? I mean, I haven’t said one right thing to any one body in days. #dogsofinstagram #dogs. I want to go on vacation but I don’t have anything to vacate. I mean I don’t do anything all day. Not true … but I don’t do anything that seems to go anywhere. I’m just kinda tumbling around the washing machine of a new and challenging existence. No complaints… just acknowledging the weirdness. Y’all have a good day. I’m gonna go play fetch.
Likes : 14178Lynn Toler - 14K Likes - Dumb stuff happens all day long. You startle. You drop stuff. You miss a step and fall. You’ll lose stuff. You’ll break something and then you’ll stub your toe. Others will irritate you. Cut you off on the road. Give bad customer service. Say something insensitive… If you collect all the dumb stuff that happens to you in a big box of ‘I’m Annoyed ’ it will get heavy enough to crush you even though the individual nonsense in said box has no real weight. Bad stuff is gonna happen. I mean tough stuff. The thing is if you hang on to the small nonsense all along the way and feel all outdone by everything that doesn’t go quite right, when something really distressing happens you’re already emotionally raw and it will be much worse. If your nonsense threshold is high you get to laugh at the small ridiculous stuff that doesn’t mean that much. That way you’ll be fresh for the fight with the big stuff. These two had an awkward moment that they decided to turn into comedy. Let’s all follow suit. #emotions #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @vivint

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Caption : Dumb stuff happens all day long. You startle. You drop stuff. You miss a step and fall. You’ll lose stuff. You’ll break something and then you’ll stub your toe. Others will irritate you. Cut you off on the road. Give bad customer service. Say something insensitive… If you collect all the dumb stuff that happens to you in a big box of ‘I’m Annoyed ’ it will get heavy enough to crush you even though the individual nonsense in said box has no real weight. Bad stuff is gonna happen. I mean tough stuff. The thing is if you hang on to the small nonsense all along the way and feel all outdone by everything that doesn’t go quite right, when something really distressing happens you’re already emotionally raw and it will be much worse. If your nonsense threshold is high you get to laugh at the small ridiculous stuff that doesn’t mean that much. That way you’ll be fresh for the fight with the big stuff. These two had an awkward moment that they decided to turn into comedy. Let’s all follow suit. #emotions #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @vivint
Likes : 13957Lynn Toler - 13.5K Likes - First of all, his expression was an entire soliloquy. Pops was doing his job. Quiet as it’s kept the booty shaker (who I assume is his daughter) was doing her job as well. Kids are supposed to test the limits, find it, and then retreat. (That last part is important) Then there was the woman who re-focused pops. Those kind of women are critical. They see the situation for what it is, and they rescue the evening with a smile and gentle re-direction. And , to his credit, he went back to it. I bet he’s gonna mention it later though! Shoutout @blackdadstv DM for further credit or removal. #Family will work you. #daddy #daddyduties

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Caption : First of all, his expression was an entire soliloquy. Pops was doing his job. Quiet as it’s kept the booty shaker (who I assume is his daughter) was doing her job as well. Kids are supposed to test the limits, find it, and then retreat. (That last part is important) Then there was the woman who re-focused pops. Those kind of women are critical. They see the situation for what it is, and they rescue the evening with a smile and gentle re-direction. And , to his credit, he went back to it. I bet he’s gonna mention it later though! Shoutout @blackdadstv DM for further credit or removal. #Family will work you. #daddy #daddyduties
Likes : 13519Lynn Toler - 13.3K Likes - #Dogs #Widows #Mood #Mistakes

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Caption : #Dogs #Widows #Mood #Mistakes
Likes : 13289Lynn Toler - 13.1K Likes - Happy Tuesday! I wore a #wig once out to dinner with BigE. Between the appetizer and the salad, I went into the bathroom and took it off. He liked it too because I had cut all my #hair off the year before, and that wig looked like my old hair. Me: I tried. Him: That's all I can ask. That's as deep as I can get this morning. I have no lessons to impart or Tolerisms to share. I'm in a good mood, just not firing on all cylinders this morning. I hope you are! Shoutout @doctor_ming21

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Caption : Happy Tuesday! I wore a #wig once out to dinner with BigE. Between the appetizer and the salad, I went into the bathroom and took it off. He liked it too because I had cut all my #hair off the year before, and that wig looked like my old hair. Me: I tried. Him: That’s all I can ask. That’s as deep as I can get this morning. I have no lessons to impart or Tolerisms to share. I’m in a good mood, just not firing on all cylinders this morning. I hope you are! Shoutout @doctor_ming21
Likes : 13140Lynn Toler - 12.8K Likes - Me @target just like I said I would. #joytrolling #feelingonpurpose when Stevie Wonders’ Sign Sealed and Delivered came on I thought it quite apropos.

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Caption : Me @target just like I said I would. #joytrolling #feelingonpurpose when Stevie Wonders’ Sign Sealed and Delivered came on I thought it quite apropos.
Likes : 12796Lynn Toler - 12.2K Likes - I used to be the biggest curmudgeon. I thought the world was a scary place and for the life of me I could not figure out how everyone was just out there smiling and laughing when there was so much to worry about. Naturally anxious I had the good fortune of having an extraordinary emotionally intelligent mother. She talked about everything people did in terms of how they felt. And if you want to be in the business of understanding others you have to be able to understand how they feel. Here’s the hard part, you can’t judge them while you’re trying to understand them. If you tag them too soon with a label that doesn’t fit you will consume all new information about them from the skewed perspective of your opinion and you will get it wrong. I went to an all girls high school. I was an anxious kid who went off to college at 17. All the guys thought I was stuck up and snooty. I was simply scared of them. The first guy I ended up dating was the first one to look past the perception and talk to me. We are killing nuance these days. People who have nothing but a platform and an opinion are giving full throated psychological assessments of people based on a ten second video. And those assessments are made not by inquiry but by running ten cents worth of information through a million dollars worth of stuff you don’t know, that bears interest born of bias. Let’s not be so anxious to wag fingers. Let’s not make every social sin subject to the death penalty. Let’s not pile on other people’s pain just because it’s good fodder. Enjoy people who are different. Get interested not anxious. My #life got a lot better when I sat down my predilection to judge hastily based on how I felt and learned to assess accurately because I understood how others did. Relevant #Tolerisms: Everyone sees through the prism of their past. Don’t come to conclusions about what you see until you understand how your history bends the light you shine on it. Think twice before judging people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #grace #peace

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Caption : I used to be the biggest curmudgeon. I thought the world was a scary place and for the life of me I could not figure out how everyone was just out there smiling and laughing when there was so much to worry about. Naturally anxious I had the good fortune of having an extraordinary emotionally intelligent mother. She talked about everything people did in terms of how they felt. And if you want to be in the business of understanding others you have to be able to understand how they feel. Here’s the hard part, you can’t judge them while you’re trying to understand them. If you tag them too soon with a label that doesn’t fit you will consume all new information about them from the skewed perspective of your opinion and you will get it wrong. I went to an all girls high school. I was an anxious kid who went off to college at 17. All the guys thought I was stuck up and snooty. I was simply scared of them. The first guy I ended up dating was the first one to look past the perception and talk to me. We are killing nuance these days. People who have nothing but a platform and an opinion are giving full throated psychological assessments of people based on a ten second video. And those assessments are made not by inquiry but by running ten cents worth of information through a million dollars worth of stuff you don’t know, that bears interest born of bias. Let’s not be so anxious to wag fingers. Let’s not make every social sin subject to the death penalty. Let’s not pile on other people’s pain just because it’s good fodder. Enjoy people who are different. Get interested not anxious. My #life got a lot better when I sat down my predilection to judge hastily based on how I felt and learned to assess accurately because I understood how others did. Relevant #Tolerisms: Everyone sees through the prism of their past. Don’t come to conclusions about what you see until you understand how your history bends the light you shine on it. Think twice before judging people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #grace #peace
Likes : 12211Lynn Toler - 12.1K Likes - You know how I feel about unbridled emotionality. I mean really. And what was she hollering about? It’s too early in the day to be this annoyed. I’m gonna stop typing and make myself a roast beef sandwich. #mood: not nearly stable enough for continued public interaction. See how that works? I am responsible for my own cranky. Got no business spreading it around. #emotional #emotionalintelligence #thestupidtax Shoutout @clubb_az Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to #anger. Everybody’s got a boatload of crap they’re trying to get through.

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Caption : You know how I feel about unbridled emotionality. I mean really. And what was she hollering about? It’s too early in the day to be this annoyed. I’m gonna stop typing and make myself a roast beef sandwich. #mood: not nearly stable enough for continued public interaction. See how that works? I am responsible for my own cranky. Got no business spreading it around. #emotional #emotionalintelligence #thestupidtax Shoutout @clubb_az Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to #anger. Everybody’s got a boatload of crap they’re trying to get through.
Likes : 12065Lynn Toler - 11.6K Likes - Focus past the nonsense... hone in on some joy.

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Caption : Focus past the nonsense… hone in on some joy.
Likes : 11647Lynn Toler - 11.6K Likes - Happy New Year. Me and BigE 1988. No tears just smiles. Both then and Now. All progress should be duly noted.

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Caption : Happy New Year. Me and BigE 1988. No tears just smiles. Both then and Now. All progress should be duly noted.
Likes : 11557Lynn Toler - 11.5K Likes - Those legs. I am so okay with being alone in this moment. But I’m glad I liked seeing that. I had it. A great love over a long period of time. I was with a guy that thought I was the best thing since sliced bread and I had the even greater pleasure of thinking the same thing about him. I’m not interested in romance or getting a new dude. But I’m out in the light enough to appreciate … Those legs. It’s like watching a bonfire. You like looking at it but you don’t want to touch it or have it touch you. Shoutout @sports_fan_tv DM for further credit or removal.

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Caption : Those legs. I am so okay with being alone in this moment. But I’m glad I liked seeing that. I had it. A great love over a long period of time. I was with a guy that thought I was the best thing since sliced bread and I had the even greater pleasure of thinking the same thing about him. I’m not interested in romance or getting a new dude. But I’m out in the light enough to appreciate … Those legs. It’s like watching a bonfire. You like looking at it but you don’t want to touch it or have it touch you. Shoutout @sports_fan_tv DM for further credit or removal.
Likes : 11493Lynn Toler - 11.1K Likes - Me: enjoying the ride. Happy Friday!

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Caption : Me: enjoying the ride. Happy Friday!
Likes : 11089Lynn Toler - 10.9K Likes - Well I went for the whole ride and this is what I learned: 1) Never get a #dog while you’re in the midst of an #emotional meltdown. I think I off loaded a fair bit of crazy onto that dog. And she handed it right back to me. 2) I have a lot of good friends. More than I knew, which is heartening for a solitary sister like myself. 3) Don’t panic. It never helps. 4) If you do end up panicking don’t beat yourself up about it. I spent half the year upset about the frequency and extent to which I got upset. lol now I’m mad at myself about that, which, ultimately, I find funny so I guess it all comes out in the wash. 5) I loved him more than I knew. 6) I am stronger than I thought. Shoutout @rising.tech Relevant #Tolerism: you’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you end up somewhere better than you were. Though not yet healed I am no longer hysterical. All progress should be duly noted.

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Caption : Well I went for the whole ride and this is what I learned: 1) Never get a #dog while you’re in the midst of an #emotional meltdown. I think I off loaded a fair bit of crazy onto that dog. And she handed it right back to me. 2) I have a lot of good friends. More than I knew, which is heartening for a solitary sister like myself. 3) Don’t panic. It never helps. 4) If you do end up panicking don’t beat yourself up about it. I spent half the year upset about the frequency and extent to which I got upset. lol now I’m mad at myself about that, which, ultimately, I find funny so I guess it all comes out in the wash. 5) I loved him more than I knew. 6) I am stronger than I thought. Shoutout @rising.tech Relevant #Tolerism: you’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you end up somewhere better than you were. Though not yet healed I am no longer hysterical. All progress should be duly noted.
Likes : 10859Lynn Toler - 10.8K Likes - There is no designated decibel level at which errant ideas dislodge. So, quit yelling. My commentary has nothing to do with the video. It's just that i had a day yesterday in which that concept was wholly ignored by all involved, and it was so very silly. I hate silly. @divorcecourt uploads old seasons on YouTube in bulk now, so if you're feeling nostalgic... #relationships #relationshipgoals

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Caption : There is no designated decibel level at which errant ideas dislodge. So, quit yelling. My commentary has nothing to do with the video. It’s just that i had a day yesterday in which that concept was wholly ignored by all involved, and it was so very silly. I hate silly. @divorcecourt uploads old seasons on YouTube in bulk now, so if you’re feeling nostalgic… #relationships #relationshipgoals
Likes : 10766Lynn Toler - 10.5K Likes - My #hair is crazy. Picture’s dark. Had on my husband’s old tee shirt. I am also surrounded by family. Sons 5 and 6 bookending me and my sister in law! She was here for one hour, looked at me and said “You have too many doors open” She was not talking about the house. She was talking about my head. Ain’t nothing like having a woman your age who gets you and ain’t afraid to tell exactly what she sees. #family #familyiseverything

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Caption : My #hair is crazy. Picture’s dark. Had on my husband’s old tee shirt. I am also surrounded by family. Sons 5 and 6 bookending me and my sister in law! She was here for one hour, looked at me and said “You have too many doors open” She was not talking about the house. She was talking about my head. Ain’t nothing like having a woman your age who gets you and ain’t afraid to tell exactly what she sees. #family #familyiseverything
Likes : 10490Lynn Toler - 10.3K Likes - Me, sitting on the floor with Zora! Nothing like a calm #dog. #dogsofinstagram I’m working on staying in the moment. No small feat for a card carrying member of the #anxiety society. (What an annoying club to belong to 🤨). Anyway, this is me and my piece of peace parked on the floor watching NYPD Blue. Your #brain prioritizes problems. After all, if a dog is chasing you you don’t worry about anything but that. It’s how our limbic system keeps us safe. The problem with people like me is we never see past the problems and if there aren’t any pressing ones we start worrying about those that aren’t until we turn one into the catastrophe of the month. Troubles tend to be finite. Worry, by nature, is infinite. There is no end to the permutations of any problems you might have. So what I usually end up doing is worrying about 20 things that don’t happen and in so doing missed the issue that actually I ended up having … not to mention the moments of merriment I missed trying to solve problems I don’t have. But Zora and I are going to do our best to progress past this mess. #worry: false prophet of doom. I rebuke you. And not for nothing, #dennisfranz is my favorite leading man of all time. Just saying.

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Caption : Me, sitting on the floor with Zora! Nothing like a calm #dog. #dogsofinstagram I’m working on staying in the moment. No small feat for a card carrying member of the #anxiety society. (What an annoying club to belong to 🤨). Anyway, this is me and my piece of peace parked on the floor watching NYPD Blue. Your #brain prioritizes problems. After all, if a dog is chasing you you don’t worry about anything but that. It’s how our limbic system keeps us safe. The problem with people like me is we never see past the problems and if there aren’t any pressing ones we start worrying about those that aren’t until we turn one into the catastrophe of the month. Troubles tend to be finite. Worry, by nature, is infinite. There is no end to the permutations of any problems you might have. So what I usually end up doing is worrying about 20 things that don’t happen and in so doing missed the issue that actually I ended up having … not to mention the moments of merriment I missed trying to solve problems I don’t have. But Zora and I are going to do our best to progress past this mess. #worry: false prophet of doom. I rebuke you. And not for nothing, #dennisfranz is my favorite leading man of all time. Just saying.
Likes : 10344Lynn Toler - 10.3K Likes - My man Max displays a number of positive traits. 1) He stayed with it. Didn’t get frustrated. Just hung in there. 2. Then he did that thing a lot of us grown folk have yet to master. When what made sense to him at first did not work, he did something else. 3. He picked a second method that didn’t seem line it would work. But it did. This is an example of one of Duchess’ favorite bromides. “If you’ve done everything that makes sense to you and they don’t work start doing things that don’t necessarily seem as logical. Only doing things that makes sense to you in the face of unwanted results is a reminder that we all have limited information. Sometimes there are forces at work we don’t understand. New methods may allow you to discover what those forces are. … and not for nothing mom had it going on. She encouraged but did not rescue. She praised effort and thought. If you teach your children to keep trying. If you allow them to become frustrated and then let them figure it out. They learn how to stay in the game when things get tough. #momlife Relevant #Tolerism: The more often you consider the proposition that you could be wrong the more often you’ll end up right. I don’t mind making mistakes as long as they’re new. If I keep making the same ones, it means I didn’t learn anything and THAT is a tragedy of epic proportions. When labels and allegiances become more important than independent thought and an understanding of nuance, you get a divide so wide everyone ends up acting in opposition to their own interests on some level. Don’t buy your ideas in bulk. Don’t become impervious to truths that don’t sit smack dab in the middle to some group or cause with which you are aligned. You never get to stop thinking no matter how strongly you feel. #momlfe #emotionalintelligence There are 20 levels of BS going on at my house. Hence the cranky tone to a cute video. I re-read it and I sound like an out of sorts educator that doesn’t understand her class. My apologies to you and kudos to Max and mom! Shoutout @serenamariemetz

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Caption : My man Max displays a number of positive traits. 1) He stayed with it. Didn’t get frustrated. Just hung in there. 2. Then he did that thing a lot of us grown folk have yet to master. When what made sense to him at first did not work, he did something else. 3. He picked a second method that didn’t seem line it would work. But it did. This is an example of one of Duchess’ favorite bromides. “If you’ve done everything that makes sense to you and they don’t work start doing things that don’t necessarily seem as logical. Only doing things that makes sense to you in the face of unwanted results is a reminder that we all have limited information. Sometimes there are forces at work we don’t understand. New methods may allow you to discover what those forces are. … and not for nothing mom had it going on. She encouraged but did not rescue. She praised effort and thought. If you teach your children to keep trying. If you allow them to become frustrated and then let them figure it out. They learn how to stay in the game when things get tough. #momlife Relevant #Tolerism: The more often you consider the proposition that you could be wrong the more often you’ll end up right. I don’t mind making mistakes as long as they’re new. If I keep making the same ones, it means I didn’t learn anything and THAT is a tragedy of epic proportions. When labels and allegiances become more important than independent thought and an understanding of nuance, you get a divide so wide everyone ends up acting in opposition to their own interests on some level. Don’t buy your ideas in bulk. Don’t become impervious to truths that don’t sit smack dab in the middle to some group or cause with which you are aligned. You never get to stop thinking no matter how strongly you feel. #momlfe #emotionalintelligence There are 20 levels of BS going on at my house. Hence the cranky tone to a cute video. I re-read it and I sound like an out of sorts educator that doesn’t understand her class. My apologies to you and kudos to Max and mom! Shoutout @serenamariemetz
Likes : 10329Lynn Toler - 10K Likes - You can’t play Uno with Monopoly rules. Y’all know how I feel about finger wagging. They dragged #katemiddleton about the silence and the photoshopped picture. Had all these “well researched” theories replete with video evidence & clips of comments weaved together w/ such an exaggerated sense of their ability to suss out body language, explain royal protocol and accurately assess the human nature of a human whose true nature they knew nothing of and posit THE TRUTH. All the theories were extensively supported & completely wrong. She didn’t have plastic surgery, there was no impending divorce, no new chick. I know I took a small inappropriately emotionally charged tangent. But the assumptions folk make. I’m not a royal watcher of fan but man, I can’t imagine. My thing is we all have such limited perspectives. Even though we have computers and apps that give us access to all manner of other cultures we still see them through our own cultural kaleidoscope. If I had kicked some guy in the face while dancing I would have apologized. If I got kicked at a party I would say something. But then again I wouldn’t be at that party. It’s not for me. Wouldn’t know about it wouldn’t get invited to it, wouldn’t show if I did. But apparently dude broke no rules. The guy on the receiving end responded in kind. And if you pay attention someone else who was also accustomed to the environment handed the guy who lost his drink another one. I do a lot of odd stuff. I talk to myself while walking around the backyard. I mean, full throated conversations. But when you’re in a profession that demands large quantities of extemporaneous speaking, that chit chat in the grass facilitates ease of access to the right word when called upon. Even though I think of that every time I get the urge to judge that about which I know little ... I still end up invoking an inappropriate condemnation on occasion. 😞 The takeaway: You can’t check others w/out checking yourself first. Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to judge people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. Just because you know what someone’s done doesn’t mean they’ve only done what you know.

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Caption : You can’t play Uno with Monopoly rules. Y’all know how I feel about finger wagging. They dragged #katemiddleton about the silence and the photoshopped picture. Had all these “well researched” theories replete with video evidence & clips of comments weaved together w/ such an exaggerated sense of their ability to suss out body language, explain royal protocol and accurately assess the human nature of a human whose true nature they knew nothing of and posit THE TRUTH. All the theories were extensively supported & completely wrong. She didn’t have plastic surgery, there was no impending divorce, no new chick. I know I took a small inappropriately emotionally charged tangent. But the assumptions folk make. I’m not a royal watcher of fan but man, I can’t imagine. My thing is we all have such limited perspectives. Even though we have computers and apps that give us access to all manner of other cultures we still see them through our own cultural kaleidoscope. If I had kicked some guy in the face while dancing I would have apologized. If I got kicked at a party I would say something. But then again I wouldn’t be at that party. It’s not for me. Wouldn’t know about it wouldn’t get invited to it, wouldn’t show if I did. But apparently dude broke no rules. The guy on the receiving end responded in kind. And if you pay attention someone else who was also accustomed to the environment handed the guy who lost his drink another one. I do a lot of odd stuff. I talk to myself while walking around the backyard. I mean, full throated conversations. But when you’re in a profession that demands large quantities of extemporaneous speaking, that chit chat in the grass facilitates ease of access to the right word when called upon. Even though I think of that every time I get the urge to judge that about which I know little … I still end up invoking an inappropriate condemnation on occasion. 😞 The takeaway: You can’t check others w/out checking yourself first. Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to judge people stuck on the side of a mountain you haven’t been required to climb. Just because you know what someone’s done doesn’t mean they’ve only done what you know.
Likes : 10024Lynn Toler - 9.8K Likes - Can I hear it for our young dancer? She practiced; she got dressed up; her parents were probably all up in the audience. Ain’t no way in the world she wasn’t going to give it her all. Can I also get a small shoutout to my young shook dude? Yea, I know he bailed. He left her on her own. But I feel for him because that’s the kind of thing I used to do. I was scared of everything. I went to a violin recital at around 8. Got there. Simply refused to go on stage. Mom tried to put me in a dance class when I was around 5. Just class, mind you. I saw all those kids in there and refused. Mom said she would spank me if I didn’t and I said OK. Mom said that’s the last time she did that because she saw who she was dealing with. She’d have to be more creative if she was going to get my hard head to do anything. I was terrified by the public. But as horrified as he looks he might be learning something. Tough lesson but I’ve taken that course. Getting through it, no matter how bad it feels taught me that it wasn’t fatal. Horrifying but survivable. My mother eventually found ways of shoving me into things. And every time you COULD NOT TELL ME THE WORLD WASN’T GONNA END. (I wrote that in the way I felt it. Full volume freak out) The thing is absent those throws into the deep in of the #fear pool no THIS. No judgeship. No TV. I feel her pain too though, in a weird metaphysical kind of way. I’m dancing alone now too. Sometimes the sad just jumps on you out of nowhere. This was supposed to be cute and uplifting. My bad. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #widow #dance Relevant #tolerism: Fear is a failed front man: he never lets the band in stage. Shoutout @saysdotcom

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Caption : Can I hear it for our young dancer? She practiced; she got dressed up; her parents were probably all up in the audience. Ain’t no way in the world she wasn’t going to give it her all. Can I also get a small shoutout to my young shook dude? Yea, I know he bailed. He left her on her own. But I feel for him because that’s the kind of thing I used to do. I was scared of everything. I went to a violin recital at around 8. Got there. Simply refused to go on stage. Mom tried to put me in a dance class when I was around 5. Just class, mind you. I saw all those kids in there and refused. Mom said she would spank me if I didn’t and I said OK. Mom said that’s the last time she did that because she saw who she was dealing with. She’d have to be more creative if she was going to get my hard head to do anything. I was terrified by the public. But as horrified as he looks he might be learning something. Tough lesson but I’ve taken that course. Getting through it, no matter how bad it feels taught me that it wasn’t fatal. Horrifying but survivable. My mother eventually found ways of shoving me into things. And every time you COULD NOT TELL ME THE WORLD WASN’T GONNA END. (I wrote that in the way I felt it. Full volume freak out) The thing is absent those throws into the deep in of the #fear pool no THIS. No judgeship. No TV. I feel her pain too though, in a weird metaphysical kind of way. I’m dancing alone now too. Sometimes the sad just jumps on you out of nowhere. This was supposed to be cute and uplifting. My bad. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #widow #dance Relevant #tolerism: Fear is a failed front man: he never lets the band in stage. Shoutout @saysdotcom
Likes : 9765Lynn Toler - 9.7K Likes - Everybody saw and looked. Then the guy in the black came over to help followed by the woman in the blue flowered dress. Once that happens everyone gets involved. It’s a social phenomenon. One person does something different he’s just odd. Someone joins him, validating his move, others see and follow suit. Not always but it’s a real thing that you can see if you pay attention and use if you’re trying to start something. But please use your powers for good! #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @lass_kemo_

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Caption : Everybody saw and looked. Then the guy in the black came over to help followed by the woman in the blue flowered dress. Once that happens everyone gets involved. It’s a social phenomenon. One person does something different he’s just odd. Someone joins him, validating his move, others see and follow suit. Not always but it’s a real thing that you can see if you pay attention and use if you’re trying to start something. But please use your powers for good! #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @lass_kemo_
Likes : 9728Lynn Toler - 9.6K Likes - This is a picture I took of myself because my sister-in-law (you can see her astonished mug in the background) kept asking me: what are you doing?” My mother used to work out well into her 80’s. She was all about use it or lose it. Ironically she died of ALS Lou Gehrig’s disease. It was tough watching her body just tell her ‘no’ more and more often when she tried to move. Mind in tact body just won’t work. UH OH … let’s not go down this rabbit hole! (Personally I can’t let my thoughts just do as they please. I am a Dark Seeker. If unregulated I will stand on my tippy toes and peer over a wall of good fortune so I can search for potential problems that might be out there. And if I don’t see any right away I don’t do the logical thing and get down and enjoy what I have. Oh no! I get a telescope and look for potential problems undetectable by the naked eye … for the most part cause they’re too small and dumb to be real issues. I look until I find one and then I proceed to #worry about it. Exhausting.) 🤣 Tangent Train left the station and took us … in the inimitable words of Rudy Huxtable “all the way to Baltimore.” Returning to the subject at hand. Mom always said pick at yourself. You know, make little improvements all the time. I move it so I don’t lose it. Heck this week I got under the sink WITH the plumber so he could teach me how to do it next time. That right there, worked my body, my mind and my confidence. Everything’s a lesson. Full disclosure I enjoy being upside down, climbing on stuff. So it’s not purely for purpose…. Wait! Fun IS a legit purpose. Y’all don’t know I figure out so much doing this! Anyway my sister in law thought it was so funny I took a picture of me and more importantly her expression in the back. #Joytrolling l can do that again!!!!! #emotionalintelligence Relevant #Tolerism: don’t fill in the blanks of what you don’t know with the #fears you have about what you do.

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Caption : This is a picture I took of myself because my sister-in-law (you can see her astonished mug in the background) kept asking me: what are you doing?” My mother used to work out well into her 80’s. She was all about use it or lose it. Ironically she died of ALS Lou Gehrig’s disease. It was tough watching her body just tell her ‘no’ more and more often when she tried to move. Mind in tact body just won’t work. UH OH … let’s not go down this rabbit hole! (Personally I can’t let my thoughts just do as they please. I am a Dark Seeker. If unregulated I will stand on my tippy toes and peer over a wall of good fortune so I can search for potential problems that might be out there. And if I don’t see any right away I don’t do the logical thing and get down and enjoy what I have. Oh no! I get a telescope and look for potential problems undetectable by the naked eye … for the most part cause they’re too small and dumb to be real issues. I look until I find one and then I proceed to #worry about it. Exhausting.) 🤣 Tangent Train left the station and took us … in the inimitable words of Rudy Huxtable “all the way to Baltimore.” Returning to the subject at hand. Mom always said pick at yourself. You know, make little improvements all the time. I move it so I don’t lose it. Heck this week I got under the sink WITH the plumber so he could teach me how to do it next time. That right there, worked my body, my mind and my confidence. Everything’s a lesson. Full disclosure I enjoy being upside down, climbing on stuff. So it’s not purely for purpose…. Wait! Fun IS a legit purpose. Y’all don’t know I figure out so much doing this! Anyway my sister in law thought it was so funny I took a picture of me and more importantly her expression in the back. #Joytrolling l can do that again!!!!! #emotionalintelligence Relevant #Tolerism: don’t fill in the blanks of what you don’t know with the #fears you have about what you do.
Likes : 9608Lynn Toler - 9.5K Likes - First of all I know I can’t sing. My favorite saying used to be “I only sing in church because He knows what He did and did not give me so He won’t mind” Anyhow the fact that I broke out into song in public lets you know how excited I was. Yesterday morning was perfect. Got a last minute call from my volunteer group because they needed me. So I came. (My usual day is Thursday) Anyway apparently on Mondays they have rental assistance program there so there were women and children in the lobby. Even though I was late this baby caught my eye. I made her smile. Then I had to go to class. Well, after a half hour he decided he didn’t need me after all so I left and son of a gun if that baby wasn’t still there. Thank goodness her mom recognized me. Otherwise I think I may have come across as some crazy lady you should call the police on. I plopped down on the floor next to her mother and I asked if I could hold her. She said yes. So we were chillin’. Baby was sitting on my lap smiling and pooping. I was honored she felt comfortable enough with me to do so. 😂 Another mother came over for a photo for her mom because she said her mother watches my reruns over and over. I asked if her mother was home and she said yes. So I said, “call her.” Unfortunately she wasn’t home so I did a video for her on her daughter’s phone. It was everything. On the floor with two young women laughing holding a baby. I made their day and they made mine. FYI I asked her mother permission to post this and she said cool. Anyway, I had such fun. Relevant #Tolerism: #happiness is measured by smiles and laughter, not by money, likes or views. There is an 80 year long longitudinal study that backs that up. The Grant Study. In 1938 eugenics was all the rage and this study was set up exploring that. Come to find out it’s strength, number h and quality of relationships that are the most predictive of happiness. #emotionalintelligence #babies #babiesofinstagram

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Caption : First of all I know I can’t sing. My favorite saying used to be “I only sing in church because He knows what He did and did not give me so He won’t mind” Anyhow the fact that I broke out into song in public lets you know how excited I was. Yesterday morning was perfect. Got a last minute call from my volunteer group because they needed me. So I came. (My usual day is Thursday) Anyway apparently on Mondays they have rental assistance program there so there were women and children in the lobby. Even though I was late this baby caught my eye. I made her smile. Then I had to go to class. Well, after a half hour he decided he didn’t need me after all so I left and son of a gun if that baby wasn’t still there. Thank goodness her mom recognized me. Otherwise I think I may have come across as some crazy lady you should call the police on. I plopped down on the floor next to her mother and I asked if I could hold her. She said yes. So we were chillin’. Baby was sitting on my lap smiling and pooping. I was honored she felt comfortable enough with me to do so. 😂 Another mother came over for a photo for her mom because she said her mother watches my reruns over and over. I asked if her mother was home and she said yes. So I said, “call her.” Unfortunately she wasn’t home so I did a video for her on her daughter’s phone. It was everything. On the floor with two young women laughing holding a baby. I made their day and they made mine. FYI I asked her mother permission to post this and she said cool. Anyway, I had such fun. Relevant #Tolerism: #happiness is measured by smiles and laughter, not by money, likes or views. There is an 80 year long longitudinal study that backs that up. The Grant Study. In 1938 eugenics was all the rage and this study was set up exploring that. Come to find out it’s strength, number h and quality of relationships that are the most predictive of happiness. #emotionalintelligence #babies #babiesofinstagram
Likes : 9542Lynn Toler - 9.2K Likes - Little girl Lynn just got all out in front of me and and messed up a couple of things. Now don’t get it twisted… I was pushed: Police. Seven hour emergency room stay. (Unrelated btw) #Widow work of the most daunting variety. As I write I got a call from a Texas hospital about my sister. I need to get all emotional hands on deck cause my boat keeps springing leaks. That said, there is no excuse for being short with people or not acknowledging their progress. I have an apology to make. Ain’t saying to who or why but I want you to know that I am. Unsolicited apologies are like a wide spectrum antibiotic. Cures a multitude of #emotional mistakes. I apologize a lot. It’s freeing. Temper tantrums are the hallmarks of powerlessness. I have problems but I also have the power to be a good human being. It takes more work and I have a spotty success record but hey, you gotta try. #emotionalintelligence Happy Saturday you guys!

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Caption : Little girl Lynn just got all out in front of me and and messed up a couple of things. Now don’t get it twisted… I was pushed: Police. Seven hour emergency room stay. (Unrelated btw) #Widow work of the most daunting variety. As I write I got a call from a Texas hospital about my sister. I need to get all emotional hands on deck cause my boat keeps springing leaks. That said, there is no excuse for being short with people or not acknowledging their progress. I have an apology to make. Ain’t saying to who or why but I want you to know that I am. Unsolicited apologies are like a wide spectrum antibiotic. Cures a multitude of #emotional mistakes. I apologize a lot. It’s freeing. Temper tantrums are the hallmarks of powerlessness. I have problems but I also have the power to be a good human being. It takes more work and I have a spotty success record but hey, you gotta try. #emotionalintelligence Happy Saturday you guys!
Likes : 9243Lynn Toler - 9.2K Likes - Is often unplanned and unpretty (I know that’s not a word). Every day funny is the best funny that there is. Shoutout @mandyhunterhealing

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Caption : Is often unplanned and unpretty (I know that’s not a word). Every day funny is the best funny that there is. Shoutout @mandyhunterhealing
Likes : 9191Lynn Toler - 8.9K Likes - I contend my mother was an #emotional genius. Rarely did she accede to an #emotion w/out determining whether acting on it would inure to her benefit. She could #feel, then she’d #THINK and only then would she act. I wrote #MyMothersRules before Divorce Court. I thought that would be the best way to teach what she knew. Then TV called. And I got to shout it from the rooftops! Like here. The thing is you have to be able to hear past the insult you feel when criticized and determine if there’s any validity to it. And though I’m not immune to the emotional barbs and bullets people throw mom DID teach me not to shudder and wilt when met with criticism. I had to consider it objectively and if that criticism was true I had to actively decide to let go of how being told I was wrong made me feel so I could use the information to learn something about myself. Of course, you can’t go around absorbing people’s criticism all Willy-Nilly. Some people are suffused with so much unhappiness they can’t carry it all, so they offload some of that on others inappropriately. That said, even people who don’t like you and try to hurt you can be of assistance to you. The trick is to consider the comments objectively and make a decision to accept it or dismiss it, intelligently and then do The Next Thing. If the critique was valid The Next Thing is to put processes and procedures in place to improve. If the criticism was unwarranted The Next Thing is to pay it no mind. It’s not easy to do but you can practice glacial. I’m not an iceberg yet, but I’m like black ice on a road. Unobtrusive yet slippery. Anyway, out of 14 years on TV, this is one of my top five keepers. It’s me showing someone the way out of their own personal emotional prison. Whether she truly got out, I don’t know, but she heard me. That’s how better starts. P.s. and yes I actually Re-look at it. 🧐 Terrible word choice but I was rolling and the right word couldn’t catch up with me. Y’all have a wonderful holiday season. #BeKind #StayUp #GiveGrace It’s getting choppy out there, people. Remain vigilant but don’t be a vigilante. #emotionalintelligence #momlife

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Caption : I contend my mother was an #emotional genius. Rarely did she accede to an #emotion w/out determining whether acting on it would inure to her benefit. She could #feel, then she’d #THINK and only then would she act. I wrote #MyMothersRules before Divorce Court. I thought that would be the best way to teach what she knew. Then TV called. And I got to shout it from the rooftops! Like here. The thing is you have to be able to hear past the insult you feel when criticized and determine if there’s any validity to it. And though I’m not immune to the emotional barbs and bullets people throw mom DID teach me not to shudder and wilt when met with criticism. I had to consider it objectively and if that criticism was true I had to actively decide to let go of how being told I was wrong made me feel so I could use the information to learn something about myself. Of course, you can’t go around absorbing people’s criticism all Willy-Nilly. Some people are suffused with so much unhappiness they can’t carry it all, so they offload some of that on others inappropriately. That said, even people who don’t like you and try to hurt you can be of assistance to you. The trick is to consider the comments objectively and make a decision to accept it or dismiss it, intelligently and then do The Next Thing. If the critique was valid The Next Thing is to put processes and procedures in place to improve. If the criticism was unwarranted The Next Thing is to pay it no mind. It’s not easy to do but you can practice glacial. I’m not an iceberg yet, but I’m like black ice on a road. Unobtrusive yet slippery. Anyway, out of 14 years on TV, this is one of my top five keepers. It’s me showing someone the way out of their own personal emotional prison. Whether she truly got out, I don’t know, but she heard me. That’s how better starts. P.s. and yes I actually Re-look at it. 🧐 Terrible word choice but I was rolling and the right word couldn’t catch up with me. Y’all have a wonderful holiday season. #BeKind #StayUp #GiveGrace It’s getting choppy out there, people. Remain vigilant but don’t be a vigilante. #emotionalintelligence #momlife
Likes : 8899Lynn Toler - 8.8K Likes - #Cool: there's nothing quite like it. #Unbothered: that's the goal. He could have gone a whole lot of ways with this one. But he chose to walk off the fright while counting his blessings. Did you see the pep in his step? If it had been me, I would have run around in circles panicked for a good minute or two. He had every right in the world to carry on. He really could have been hurt. Instead, he chose to feel good about the bullet he dodged. And kept it moving. People SHOULD act right. People SHOULD treat each other well. We SHOULD all be cautious and drive correctly. We SHOULD not offend others. We SHOULD be kind and forgiving. But you and I both know we all fall short of all good SHOULDS because we're all human. You can languish in the horror of it all. Or not. What a wonderful choice to have. If you're not saving or solving, sit it down. You can work the problem. You can address an issue but don't just soak in the dark waters of unpleasantness without trying to swim to the shore. You flail about you wear yourself out and THAT'S when you drown. #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @ppv_tahoe @king.tahoe

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Caption : #Cool: there’s nothing quite like it. #Unbothered: that’s the goal. He could have gone a whole lot of ways with this one. But he chose to walk off the fright while counting his blessings. Did you see the pep in his step? If it had been me, I would have run around in circles panicked for a good minute or two. He had every right in the world to carry on. He really could have been hurt. Instead, he chose to feel good about the bullet he dodged. And kept it moving. People SHOULD act right. People SHOULD treat each other well. We SHOULD all be cautious and drive correctly. We SHOULD not offend others. We SHOULD be kind and forgiving. But you and I both know we all fall short of all good SHOULDS because we’re all human. You can languish in the horror of it all. Or not. What a wonderful choice to have. If you’re not saving or solving, sit it down. You can work the problem. You can address an issue but don’t just soak in the dark waters of unpleasantness without trying to swim to the shore. You flail about you wear yourself out and THAT’S when you drown. #emotionalintelligence Shoutout @ppv_tahoe @king.tahoe
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Caption : I haven’t been that sure about anything in a while. And remember #feelings are fleeting but felonies are forever.
Likes : 8778Lynn Toler - 8.6K Likes - I mean my man did not hesitate. I bet that bear was more surprised than he was. There are a multitude of words and phrases rolling about in my head. Unfortunately they are all full of expletives and unkind thoughts about a range of things that aren’t any of my business. The weather report: low pressure system has blown in. So I’m going to get on the treadmill. First me and #ceelo are going to tell everybody do F off. Then me, Anita, Whitney can tear down the house at our sold out show. And after they leave Tom Jones joins me for a rendition of Kiss. After which i am going to bring out #brunomars and we’re going to tear up Up Town Funk. By then I should have enough endorphins rolling about in my head so I can rejoin the public. When I am not sure of my Angle of Emotional Repose, I like to protect the public by staying home. As I reread this I realized that last statement is only partially true. I just like being home. Any excuse will do. I’m in an emotional blender at the moment. But here’s the thing. I’m gonna fight. Me and this Bear of a Bad Mood I’m in are going to go a few rounds. I’m not altogether sure which one of us will win but even if I fail to prevail that bear will walk off victorious … but limping. Relevant #Tolerism: MOTIVATED: The art of being dissatisfied without feeling defeated. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @yabanihayat1

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Caption : I mean my man did not hesitate. I bet that bear was more surprised than he was. There are a multitude of words and phrases rolling about in my head. Unfortunately they are all full of expletives and unkind thoughts about a range of things that aren’t any of my business. The weather report: low pressure system has blown in. So I’m going to get on the treadmill. First me and #ceelo are going to tell everybody do F off. Then me, Anita, Whitney can tear down the house at our sold out show. And after they leave Tom Jones joins me for a rendition of Kiss. After which i am going to bring out #brunomars and we’re going to tear up Up Town Funk. By then I should have enough endorphins rolling about in my head so I can rejoin the public. When I am not sure of my Angle of Emotional Repose, I like to protect the public by staying home. As I reread this I realized that last statement is only partially true. I just like being home. Any excuse will do. I’m in an emotional blender at the moment. But here’s the thing. I’m gonna fight. Me and this Bear of a Bad Mood I’m in are going to go a few rounds. I’m not altogether sure which one of us will win but even if I fail to prevail that bear will walk off victorious … but limping. Relevant #Tolerism: MOTIVATED: The art of being dissatisfied without feeling defeated. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @yabanihayat1
Likes : 8620Lynn Toler - 8.5K Likes - If I do say so myself I have a fairly good record of creative problem solving. My mother, Duchess, was that way. She used to say, “while you can’t always solve a problem you can dull its edges so it doesn’t hurt as much.” I think sometimes we get paralyzed by the size or number of difficulties we might have. Unable to find a pure and universal solve sometimes we end up just staring at trouble. Problems get bigger when you just sit there and look at them. Fear feeds both flaws and failures. If you focus on all the things you can’t fix you’ll miss seeing the ones you can. Mom taught me to shake out the sheets of my problems… (you know like when you’re making a bed) That way you can see all of it laid out. Increases your chances of finding any a thread you can pull on so you can’t start to unravel the issues.. Amelioration beats exasperation. Relevant #Tolerism: You’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you ended up somewhere better than you were. Like our equine friend here. Didn’t have room to jump it so he did the next best thing. #emotionalintelligence Sometimes you just have to roll with it. Shoutout @teknik_amele1 DM for further credit or removal.

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Caption : If I do say so myself I have a fairly good record of creative problem solving. My mother, Duchess, was that way. She used to say, “while you can’t always solve a problem you can dull its edges so it doesn’t hurt as much.” I think sometimes we get paralyzed by the size or number of difficulties we might have. Unable to find a pure and universal solve sometimes we end up just staring at trouble. Problems get bigger when you just sit there and look at them. Fear feeds both flaws and failures. If you focus on all the things you can’t fix you’ll miss seeing the ones you can. Mom taught me to shake out the sheets of my problems… (you know like when you’re making a bed) That way you can see all of it laid out. Increases your chances of finding any a thread you can pull on so you can’t start to unravel the issues.. Amelioration beats exasperation. Relevant #Tolerism: You’ve won even if you didn’t get where you were headed as long as you ended up somewhere better than you were. Like our equine friend here. Didn’t have room to jump it so he did the next best thing. #emotionalintelligence Sometimes you just have to roll with it. Shoutout @teknik_amele1 DM for further credit or removal.
Likes : 8485Lynn Toler - 8.3K Likes - I try to keep an open mind. I do. But at some point you have to take a step back from what you’re doing and ask yourself: has the rising tide of a current cultural phenomenon swept me up into the River Ridiculous? You know, that rushing white water tributary that leads to Lake Ludicrous. There’s one near by us all. If nothing else, understand time and place. If you know junior’s there then …? Relevant #Tolerism: Everyone is doing it is an insufficient explanation. Never go with the flow unless you’re quite sure you know where that flow is trying to go. Shoutout @hilarrious

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Caption : I try to keep an open mind. I do. But at some point you have to take a step back from what you’re doing and ask yourself: has the rising tide of a current cultural phenomenon swept me up into the River Ridiculous? You know, that rushing white water tributary that leads to Lake Ludicrous. There’s one near by us all. If nothing else, understand time and place. If you know junior’s there then …? Relevant #Tolerism: Everyone is doing it is an insufficient explanation. Never go with the flow unless you’re quite sure you know where that flow is trying to go. Shoutout @hilarrious
Likes : 8271Lynn Toler - 7.8K Likes - As long as they’re not hurting anybody, I am all out of the business of asking ‘why?’ when presented with something it would never occur to me to do. First, you have to acknowledge that social media amplifies that kind of stuff. You can’t get big views filming mundane stuff. And that’s no diss. This thing we’re doing here can be fun if used correctly. Second, I do a lot of weird stuff in the Personal Matrix of my home. Oddball gets a lot of play at my house. #Othering is very human nature. Your brain’s always scanning for potential threats and anything you’re unfamiliar with qualifies. Sends you a “this ain’t something we’re comfortable with” text before it really knows what’s up. Before I ask others ‘why’ I do the following: A) ask myself if I am truly inquiring or silently judging? B) revisit my own odd to remind myself of my place in this world. It would be reasonable to wonder why a 64 year old woman would build doll houses. Not well. Just to throw them out when I’m done. I took a bat to the last three story Victorian I put together. That happened early 2023 which makes it not weird at all. I have no clue what I came here to say. This #Tolerism isn’t even relevant but I just felt like it: #courtesy is the grease that eases social interaction. Lots of friction out there, people, let’s ... (lol my first thought was to say lubricate, and though denotatively correct, it had connotative issues) How about this? #BeKind and enjoy your day! p.s. got to love his support system. First she worried then she celebrated!

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Caption : As long as they’re not hurting anybody, I am all out of the business of asking ‘why?’ when presented with something it would never occur to me to do. First, you have to acknowledge that social media amplifies that kind of stuff. You can’t get big views filming mundane stuff. And that’s no diss. This thing we’re doing here can be fun if used correctly. Second, I do a lot of weird stuff in the Personal Matrix of my home. Oddball gets a lot of play at my house. #Othering is very human nature. Your brain’s always scanning for potential threats and anything you’re unfamiliar with qualifies. Sends you a “this ain’t something we’re comfortable with” text before it really knows what’s up. Before I ask others ‘why’ I do the following: A) ask myself if I am truly inquiring or silently judging? B) revisit my own odd to remind myself of my place in this world. It would be reasonable to wonder why a 64 year old woman would build doll houses. Not well. Just to throw them out when I’m done. I took a bat to the last three story Victorian I put together. That happened early 2023 which makes it not weird at all. I have no clue what I came here to say. This #Tolerism isn’t even relevant but I just felt like it: #courtesy is the grease that eases social interaction. Lots of friction out there, people, let’s … (lol my first thought was to say lubricate, and though denotatively correct, it had connotative issues) How about this? #BeKind and enjoy your day! p.s. got to love his support system. First she worried then she celebrated!
Likes : 7839Lynn Toler - 7.7K Likes - #DivorceCourt routinely uploads old videos on YouTube from past seasons. The uploaded one of my favorites, yesterday. Conswella v. Loren #Errorhoarder #relationships #relationshipgoals. #marriage. A whole lot of oldies but goodies on there.

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Caption : #DivorceCourt routinely uploads old videos on YouTube from past seasons. The uploaded one of my favorites, yesterday. Conswella v. Loren #Errorhoarder #relationships #relationshipgoals. #marriage. A whole lot of oldies but goodies on there.
Likes : 7700Lynn Toler - 7.7K Likes - In years past I used to do a holiday assessment letter that I would post on my blog. You know how it goes, the year is sauntering to a close and relatives come for #thanksgiving and when they do you reminisce and review. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas I would think about all of the things I’ve been through that year and figure out what life lessons I’ve learned, give it a course name then a grade and some commentary as to why I received it. (If I can find one I’ll post it) Anyhow, I haven’t done one in a while so I thought I’d try but oh my, what a mistake that was. I looked back and almost imploded. Suffice it to say this is no year to be nit-picking my behavior. Never been one to brag but I feel like I held it down simply because I stayed up and going. Anyway, I was thinking about it and decided to have some fun with it. These are my three favorite Chronicling My Own Stupid Videos. Have some fun with yours. I was wrong. My bad. Oops: tickets to freedom all! Relevant #Tolerism: The Up Rule If you mess up. Fess up. Back up And Clean Up. Happy Wednesday #emotionalintelligence

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Caption : In years past I used to do a holiday assessment letter that I would post on my blog. You know how it goes, the year is sauntering to a close and relatives come for #thanksgiving and when they do you reminisce and review. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas I would think about all of the things I’ve been through that year and figure out what life lessons I’ve learned, give it a course name then a grade and some commentary as to why I received it. (If I can find one I’ll post it) Anyhow, I haven’t done one in a while so I thought I’d try but oh my, what a mistake that was. I looked back and almost imploded. Suffice it to say this is no year to be nit-picking my behavior. Never been one to brag but I feel like I held it down simply because I stayed up and going. Anyway, I was thinking about it and decided to have some fun with it. These are my three favorite Chronicling My Own Stupid Videos. Have some fun with yours. I was wrong. My bad. Oops: tickets to freedom all! Relevant #Tolerism: The Up Rule If you mess up. Fess up. Back up And Clean Up. Happy Wednesday #emotionalintelligence
Likes : 7694Lynn Toler - 7.7K Likes - So the question becomes : What is YOUR ‘what is’ that you can decide to enjoy? A ‘what is’ is something going on that is problematic but that you’ve found a way to make it ok. Like dude here. I’ve found a few. 1) This will be a low stress Christmas. I am going to repeat the Beef Wellington I made for Thanksgiving because it was, if I do say so myself, outstanding. (This is me taking a victory lap 🏃🏾‍♀️) After that there are no expectations and it’s a relief. Christmas often devolved into mommy wife showtime. The lights the presents the pressure. Not this year. 2) got everyone the same thing. I can’t say what it is but it was a year in the making. 3) I found a new #hair regiment that is making that particular persistent irritation less irritating. 4) While distracting myself from my feelings this year, I created all new habits of neat and clean. Calming! Metaphorically speaking this is me relaxing in the rain, enjoying my ´what is’ as best I can. Relevant #Tolerism: Enjoy ´what is’ because there are plenty of people living through what’s way worse. So if you find yourself sunk in #holidayblues, find a ‘what is’ and find something in it to enjoy. I’m not gonna lie, it’s ’s not always possible. For the first four or so months this year there was no ‘what is’ in sight. But I’ve lived through that part and am now embarking on a ´what is’ that’s going to be way better. Shoutout @sekitarbandungcom #emotionalintelligence #emotion #mood: unbowed.

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Caption : So the question becomes : What is YOUR ‘what is’ that you can decide to enjoy? A ‘what is’ is something going on that is problematic but that you’ve found a way to make it ok. Like dude here. I’ve found a few. 1) This will be a low stress Christmas. I am going to repeat the Beef Wellington I made for Thanksgiving because it was, if I do say so myself, outstanding. (This is me taking a victory lap 🏃🏾‍♀️) After that there are no expectations and it’s a relief. Christmas often devolved into mommy wife showtime. The lights the presents the pressure. Not this year. 2) got everyone the same thing. I can’t say what it is but it was a year in the making. 3) I found a new #hair regiment that is making that particular persistent irritation less irritating. 4) While distracting myself from my feelings this year, I created all new habits of neat and clean. Calming! Metaphorically speaking this is me relaxing in the rain, enjoying my ´what is’ as best I can. Relevant #Tolerism: Enjoy ´what is’ because there are plenty of people living through what’s way worse. So if you find yourself sunk in #holidayblues, find a ‘what is’ and find something in it to enjoy. I’m not gonna lie, it’s ’s not always possible. For the first four or so months this year there was no ‘what is’ in sight. But I’ve lived through that part and am now embarking on a ´what is’ that’s going to be way better. Shoutout @sekitarbandungcom #emotionalintelligence #emotion #mood: unbowed.
Likes : 7672Lynn Toler - 7.6K Likes - I’m talking A but feeling very Z this morning. I need to run through some sprinklers. Have a good day! Shoutout @oddlywholesome

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Caption : I’m talking A but feeling very Z this morning. I need to run through some sprinklers. Have a good day! Shoutout @oddlywholesome
Likes : 7648Lynn Toler - 7.4K Likes - I’m going to confess to a few moments of judgment. I saw this and I was like … what in the world? But then I thought, who am I? I am A judge. But I’m not Her judge. And I am most certainly not THE judge. None of us are. Once I stopped judging I just enjoyed. My Mother’s Rules #43 I wish you piles of #peace and hampers full of happy. Alliterative metaphor compliments of the fact that I did a lot of laundry yesterday. BigE used to do the laundry. 30 years. I mean go figure: Turn a couple of a man’s favorite shirts pink and he never trusts you again. Happy Sunday. #bekind #stayup

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Caption : I’m going to confess to a few moments of judgment. I saw this and I was like … what in the world? But then I thought, who am I? I am A judge. But I’m not Her judge. And I am most certainly not THE judge. None of us are. Once I stopped judging I just enjoyed. My Mother’s Rules #43 I wish you piles of #peace and hampers full of happy. Alliterative metaphor compliments of the fact that I did a lot of laundry yesterday. BigE used to do the laundry. 30 years. I mean go figure: Turn a couple of a man’s favorite shirts pink and he never trusts you again. Happy Sunday. #bekind #stayup
Likes : 7409Lynn Toler - 7.4K Likes - It took her five minutes to fall. Shoutout @clubb_az

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Caption : It took her five minutes to fall. Shoutout @clubb_az
Likes : 7407Lynn Toler - 7.4K Likes - Current cultural commentary custom has people arguing about who is to blame, who is more to blame or who got what they deserved. But as you know, two things can be true at once. Deeper still a whole lot of people can be wrong at once. History is littered with group stupid. Your discomfort is not a license to act a fool. Even if someone did cut you off on the road what does a big display get you? I will utter (jackass) under my breath but that's about it. Of course I am the wrong size to do anything else but that. The point is hopping out the car and tearing up something is just a temper tantrum. Likewise one ought not be launching projectiles at cars either. (Which appears to be what she did) Being right does not absolve you from being an adult. Importantly others behaving childishly is not a call to do the same. How are we going to go around and let other people dictate how we conduct business? We all err. Every single one of us. But I always figure the more #grace we give, the more get get back. It has a cumulative cultural effect. PS I put that heart sticker there because I did not realize I bent over that much and I was too lazy to do it again. #emotionalintelligence #rage Shoutout @peoplegettingmad and @girlsofthegram

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Caption : Current cultural commentary custom has people arguing about who is to blame, who is more to blame or who got what they deserved. But as you know, two things can be true at once. Deeper still a whole lot of people can be wrong at once. History is littered with group stupid. Your discomfort is not a license to act a fool. Even if someone did cut you off on the road what does a big display get you? I will utter (jackass) under my breath but that’s about it. Of course I am the wrong size to do anything else but that. The point is hopping out the car and tearing up something is just a temper tantrum. Likewise one ought not be launching projectiles at cars either. (Which appears to be what she did) Being right does not absolve you from being an adult. Importantly others behaving childishly is not a call to do the same. How are we going to go around and let other people dictate how we conduct business? We all err. Every single one of us. But I always figure the more #grace we give, the more get get back. It has a cumulative cultural effect. PS I put that heart sticker there because I did not realize I bent over that much and I was too lazy to do it again. #emotionalintelligence #rage Shoutout @peoplegettingmad and @girlsofthegram
Likes : 7357Lynn Toler - 7.4K Likes - #joytrolling Shoutout @fails 🎥:TikTok/failarmy

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Caption : #joytrolling Shoutout @fails 🎥:TikTok/failarmy
Likes : 7353Lynn Toler - 7.2K Likes - Now see, I love this kind of stuff because I’m pedestrian in a lot of ways. I don’t chase dreams nor do I believe I have one true purpose in life. I don’t manifest and I have had nary a light bulb moment that didn’t involve something tremendously mundane. Like in my car. I’d be doing something the hard way and BigE would say “you know if you …” then he’d show me some feature on the car and I’d be so excited. I can’t tell anybody how to make their dreams come true because I fell into my line of work ass backward running from things I didn’t like. More importantly, I have no intention of making up some quest-like story so I can sound like it was intentional or pretend I can impart some great secret to success. I am not a dreamer. I’m a serial solver. I nibble at the edges of my troubles until they get small enough to swallow. I am not saying this is THE WAY to be. It’s just how I am. I don’t storm cities with an army of ideas. I guérilla fight, house to house, with different ways of doing business. I love process and procedure. My everyday goal is just to be better than yesterday. I love a lot of small obtainable wins, like putting together furniture. I said all that to say, I like this video because it’s speaks to the manual laborer in me. Speaking of which, I am going to start putting together the backyard patio furniture today. I am all excited. Nuts and bolts appeal to me both physically and intellectually. #peace Relevant #Tolerism: I do not contend to possess the truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. Shoutout @viralworking

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Caption : Now see, I love this kind of stuff because I’m pedestrian in a lot of ways. I don’t chase dreams nor do I believe I have one true purpose in life. I don’t manifest and I have had nary a light bulb moment that didn’t involve something tremendously mundane. Like in my car. I’d be doing something the hard way and BigE would say “you know if you …” then he’d show me some feature on the car and I’d be so excited. I can’t tell anybody how to make their dreams come true because I fell into my line of work ass backward running from things I didn’t like. More importantly, I have no intention of making up some quest-like story so I can sound like it was intentional or pretend I can impart some great secret to success. I am not a dreamer. I’m a serial solver. I nibble at the edges of my troubles until they get small enough to swallow. I am not saying this is THE WAY to be. It’s just how I am. I don’t storm cities with an army of ideas. I guérilla fight, house to house, with different ways of doing business. I love process and procedure. My everyday goal is just to be better than yesterday. I love a lot of small obtainable wins, like putting together furniture. I said all that to say, I like this video because it’s speaks to the manual laborer in me. Speaking of which, I am going to start putting together the backyard patio furniture today. I am all excited. Nuts and bolts appeal to me both physically and intellectually. #peace Relevant #Tolerism: I do not contend to possess the truth, but I do chase after it like it stole my car. Shoutout @viralworking
Likes : 7236Lynn Toler - 7.2K Likes - #love in the time of technology. You gotta put the phone down to keep your #relationship together. Shoutout @allfails

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Caption : #love in the time of technology. You gotta put the phone down to keep your #relationship together. Shoutout @allfails
Likes : 7175Lynn Toler - 7.2K Likes - I was raised by parents who always told the unvarnished truth. One of my mom’s favorite sayings was “a lie won’t help.” So she would tell me exactly where I went left so I’d learn from whatever it was. There is something wrong with all of us. All of us. You can close your eyes to it if you want to but I guarantee you the rest of the world will not join you there in the dark of your denial. It’ll put a spot light on that sucker and broadcast it to the world. My thing is I want to know what my issues are before the rest of the world gets the news. There is no mistake more avoidable than being blindsided by your own weak. That’s why I keep mine front and center. Deeper still, every once in a while I’ll just smack her by doing something she won’t like but that I know is in my best interest. Just this morning I signed up for a writing group. I don’t want to do that. But I need to force socialization. The least of me will keep the best of me in the bed if I don’t fight her. So, my dukes are up and I’m punching way out of this silo of solitude I’ve sunk into. So what piece of you do you want to pummel? You don’t have to tell anyone else but I want to make sure you know. We can fight these people together if we know exactly who they are. Relevant #Tolerism: Don’t just focus on putting your best foot forward. Also keep an eye on the one dragging behind because that’s the one that will trip you up if you have to break out into a run. #emotionalintelligence

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Caption : I was raised by parents who always told the unvarnished truth. One of my mom’s favorite sayings was “a lie won’t help.” So she would tell me exactly where I went left so I’d learn from whatever it was. There is something wrong with all of us. All of us. You can close your eyes to it if you want to but I guarantee you the rest of the world will not join you there in the dark of your denial. It’ll put a spot light on that sucker and broadcast it to the world. My thing is I want to know what my issues are before the rest of the world gets the news. There is no mistake more avoidable than being blindsided by your own weak. That’s why I keep mine front and center. Deeper still, every once in a while I’ll just smack her by doing something she won’t like but that I know is in my best interest. Just this morning I signed up for a writing group. I don’t want to do that. But I need to force socialization. The least of me will keep the best of me in the bed if I don’t fight her. So, my dukes are up and I’m punching way out of this silo of solitude I’ve sunk into. So what piece of you do you want to pummel? You don’t have to tell anyone else but I want to make sure you know. We can fight these people together if we know exactly who they are. Relevant #Tolerism: Don’t just focus on putting your best foot forward. Also keep an eye on the one dragging behind because that’s the one that will trip you up if you have to break out into a run. #emotionalintelligence
Likes : 7163Lynn Toler - 7.1K Likes - This is exactly how I feel. I don’t know who she is. I don’t know what went wrong I don’t know who she’s looking to hit. Nevertheless she embodies my current #mood. I take that back. She embodies the mood I want. Not quite there yet. Shoutout @dr1llworld

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Caption : This is exactly how I feel. I don’t know who she is. I don’t know what went wrong I don’t know who she’s looking to hit. Nevertheless she embodies my current #mood. I take that back. She embodies the mood I want. Not quite there yet. Shoutout @dr1llworld
Likes : 7125Lynn Toler - 6.8K Likes - I have been floating in a weird kind of wordlessness of late. I probably need to get on the treadmill or something to shake some cobwebs loose. Shoutout @angelhernandezyya

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Caption : I have been floating in a weird kind of wordlessness of late. I probably need to get on the treadmill or something to shake some cobwebs loose. Shoutout @angelhernandezyya
Likes : 6842Lynn Toler - 6.7K Likes - Remarkable,no? You could ask why but then again why not? And while ‘for the fun of it’ is a notion I have new found appreciation for, there are other benefits. What she did has benefits to both body and brain as well. She had to hone her body, work her flexibility, practice her precision, build up her strength. All things she can use in other avenues. People often ask me why I do the things I do: Build dollhouses Paint on canvas Study French and Russian. Draw house plans I’m not going to need any of those things. But they all add to me. Just on a dementia tip alone. A challenged brain must wire up in new places to handle new skills. The more active highways you got up there the harder dementia has to work to commandeer them all. At least current research gives us hope in that direction. Ain’t that just like an anxious person? Always warding off danger. In real time, though, those things are fun. They help me gather patience (something I am oh so much in need of) and I get to see what I’ve done and I am proud. Even if it didn’t turn out quite right. #joytrolling #joy #simple Fight to enjoy your day. I implore you. If I end up going the grocery store today I’m gonna dance in the tuna aisle. Let’s all hope it’s empty if I do!😎 To those of you for whom this makes sense: I’m underwater but okay. Thanks for your love and support. Will resurface soon. Shoutout @stefaniemillinger

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Caption : Remarkable,no? You could ask why but then again why not? And while ‘for the fun of it’ is a notion I have new found appreciation for, there are other benefits. What she did has benefits to both body and brain as well. She had to hone her body, work her flexibility, practice her precision, build up her strength. All things she can use in other avenues. People often ask me why I do the things I do: Build dollhouses Paint on canvas Study French and Russian. Draw house plans I’m not going to need any of those things. But they all add to me. Just on a dementia tip alone. A challenged brain must wire up in new places to handle new skills. The more active highways you got up there the harder dementia has to work to commandeer them all. At least current research gives us hope in that direction. Ain’t that just like an anxious person? Always warding off danger. In real time, though, those things are fun. They help me gather patience (something I am oh so much in need of) and I get to see what I’ve done and I am proud. Even if it didn’t turn out quite right. #joytrolling #joy #simple Fight to enjoy your day. I implore you. If I end up going the grocery store today I’m gonna dance in the tuna aisle. Let’s all hope it’s empty if I do!😎 To those of you for whom this makes sense: I’m underwater but okay. Thanks for your love and support. Will resurface soon. Shoutout @stefaniemillinger
Likes : 6732Lynn Toler - 6.6K Likes - Dude in the red shirt had him hemmed up. Apparently, they could see which way the sportsmanship wind was blowing. … but he found a way. I’m not going to say anything about anybody’s parents or upbringing. It’s a moment in time … and I found it funny. Just saying. Be slow to judge. Everybody got a boatload of nonsense they’re trying to get through. For instance, If someone had seen me at 5:46 yesterday evening they would have branded me a whole entire lunatic, and not the half in the bag lunatic status I claim. I was on one. But there is no way in the world any who saw me could have known the unique fashion in which my 64 year old knees, a battle over medical records, an ailing family member, and cream sauce (I mean, really, who forgets they’re lactose intolerant?😔) combined to create some of crunch in my countenance … a daub of disquiet in my demeanor … some salt in my spirit. (And, yes, I know I have a ludicrously juvenile love of alliteration.) Having realized I was at less than my best, I did a half hour inclined brisk walk on the treadmill this morning. And yes, my knees hurt but I wrapped them up and kept it moving. I’d rather my knees hurt than my mood.Endorphins get me right. Now I am fit for public consumption! Being out of sorts is not a license to light up other people. Even if you had a lot of things beyond your control pushing you past your limits, you still have to act like you have some sense when dealing with people who had nothing to do with getting you there. My situation explains why I wasn’t my best self but I still have to own the fact that that was the case. Since I’m moody, I have a carefully curated assortment of apologies at the ready. Every year I add more, but have to use them less. Using them is good practice. Not having to do so, however, is growth. One elevates by degrees. My attempts at elevation notwithstanding little dude throwing up that finger is still hilarious to me. And I’m not altogether sure I want to get to a place where that isn’t funny. #Humorlessness will have you pointing, judging and in a perpetual position of derision. Who needs that? Have a great day! I intend to.

6.6K Likes – Lynn Toler Instagram

Caption : Dude in the red shirt had him hemmed up. Apparently, they could see which way the sportsmanship wind was blowing. … but he found a way. I’m not going to say anything about anybody’s parents or upbringing. It’s a moment in time … and I found it funny. Just saying. Be slow to judge. Everybody got a boatload of nonsense they’re trying to get through. For instance, If someone had seen me at 5:46 yesterday evening they would have branded me a whole entire lunatic, and not the half in the bag lunatic status I claim. I was on one. But there is no way in the world any who saw me could have known the unique fashion in which my 64 year old knees, a battle over medical records, an ailing family member, and cream sauce (I mean, really, who forgets they’re lactose intolerant?😔) combined to create some of crunch in my countenance … a daub of disquiet in my demeanor … some salt in my spirit. (And, yes, I know I have a ludicrously juvenile love of alliteration.) Having realized I was at less than my best, I did a half hour inclined brisk walk on the treadmill this morning. And yes, my knees hurt but I wrapped them up and kept it moving. I’d rather my knees hurt than my mood.Endorphins get me right. Now I am fit for public consumption! Being out of sorts is not a license to light up other people. Even if you had a lot of things beyond your control pushing you past your limits, you still have to act like you have some sense when dealing with people who had nothing to do with getting you there. My situation explains why I wasn’t my best self but I still have to own the fact that that was the case. Since I’m moody, I have a carefully curated assortment of apologies at the ready. Every year I add more, but have to use them less. Using them is good practice. Not having to do so, however, is growth. One elevates by degrees. My attempts at elevation notwithstanding little dude throwing up that finger is still hilarious to me. And I’m not altogether sure I want to get to a place where that isn’t funny. #Humorlessness will have you pointing, judging and in a perpetual position of derision. Who needs that? Have a great day! I intend to.
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