ALL behaviour is communication. 👍 It’s important to recognise the ‘unconscious’ drivers that lead our children to behave and do / say things we may not immediately understand Behaviour that appears irrational, or ‘out of character’ usually has its origins in our nervous system and is acted upon by the more ancient parts of our brain – the parts I visualise as a little skittish lizard If our children are fearful of something , they ( their brain ) will understandably want to avoid it So remember to get CURIOUS – before you judge your child’s behaviour 🤔 If they are reluctant to go to school, or they are doing something that puzzles you Our first consideration should be NOT ‘they’re being naughty!’ But rather we must wonder why .. Then we can ask our children – without judgement ‘sweetheart I’m wondering about x / y … can you help me to understand?’ You can perhaps add ‘If you can help me to understand how it feels for you – then I can really help … ‘ These conversations take time and trust .. in my books I explain the importance of having the ‘ten C’s in place that will help our parenting in those moments when we’re at a loss I offer scripts / tips and tools to guide you and your child through the challenges we will all face as parents .. and see you soothing and smiling as you do! ❤️ #katesilverton ##childtherapy #getcurious #questionyourchildsbehaviour #communication #parentsevening #speaktoyourchildren #parentingtips #parenting
Mulled wine at the ready 😩😂 wishing you all the most restful and happy of days … remember – it doesn’t have to be PERFECT – you just need to be PRESENT ! Go with any of the big feelings your children may express … disappointment is one of the biggies .. so just let them express and remember to SOOTHE … SAS style ‘wow you are so excited / sad right now … mummy / daddy gets it …come let me help ‘ It can feel hard to soothe our children if they express upset on a day that we’re all expected to be ‘unconditionally happy’ But remember 1) your child has a brain that’s much less mature than your own .. it’s still developing … so their behaviour is ‘still developing’ 2) tomorrow does not need to be ‘perfect’ … and actually, it’s so often the little ruptures that afford us the greatest repair Go well, hold fast, get a good night’s sleep if you can and here’s up and ‘at em’ tomorrow .. I’ll see you on the other side ! ❤️🌲❤️🌲❤️🌲 #parenting #christmas #parentingtips #peaceful #happy #happychristmas #stress
If we want our parenting to be easier, happier, and for the bond between us and our children to grow – then we must understand the science of behaviour When we work hard to understand our children – they are far more likely to want to work with us too 👍 Respect comes when we can get curious about why our children behave the way they do. We can then demonstrate leadership that is both compassionate AND boundaried. Try it today ‘sweetheart, it’s not ok to speak to me that way, but I do want to help. Shall we try to figure this out together ?’ ❤️🙏🏼 Share your thoughts and feedback in the comments. #difficultchildren ##theresnosuchthingasnaughty #parentingtips #parentingadvice #parentingtricks #parentinghacks #respectbuilding #katesilverton ##childtherapy
Amid the holiday hustle and bustle, let’s remember that rest is an essential gift we can give ourselves and our children. Cherish the quiet moments, the joy of our children, and the togetherness. This Christmas, let’s prioritize presence over perfection. 🎄✨” #toptipsforchristmas #Christmastime #familychristmas #parentingtips #familytime #parenting #katesilverton #merrychristmas #families
Healing my childhood wounds as an adult has taken far longer than it would have with the right support as a child. 🩹🩹 Never be afraid to ask for help—whether for your child or yourself. A conversation with a trusted and emotionally available friend, GP, or teacher can make all the difference. Children heal quickly with the right support, and we all need help sometimes. I know I have. See it as a gift—for you, and for them. 🎁🤍 #HealingStartsNow #supportthenextgeneration #katesilverton #preventmentalhealthissues #preventbrokenchildren #support #rightsupport #parentingadvice #parentingbook
Merry Christmas to all my dear followers and friends! I hope this Christmas brings everything you’ve wished for—the magic of time with your children and those precious moments of self-care, too. I am so incredibly grateful for all your support and love this past year. Knowing that my work is helping parents and their families means the world to me, and I’m excited to do even more in 2025 to support you. Wishing you and your loved ones a joyful holiday season. Merry Christmas from my family to yours. With love, Kate xxx #merrychristmas #katesilverton
It’s almost #childrensmentalhealthweek I’ll be on here all week answering your questions and working alongside children’s’s charities like @place2be and @earlychildhood as we explore all the ways we may help support our children’s healthy development and especially their mental week-being. Do leave your thoughts below. What do you feel would help you and your child the most when it comes to #childrensmentalhealthweek and let us know how we may be able to help
“Change your perspective, change their world.” 🤍 #PerspectiveMatters #ChildhoodThroughNewEyes” #parentingtips #parents #newapproachtoparenting #happychildren #happykids
Happy Boxing Day! Hopefully you are enjoying time playing with your children and their new gifts, and making good use of the leftovers ! If energy levels are high however, with excess sugar & over excitement getting in the way of your merriment .. then getting out for a walk can work wonders … 🌳🌳 #parenting #parentingtips #katesilverton #walk #walking #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #mentalhealth
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
I’d love to hear your own top tips for a more peaceful bedtime in the comments below, and do let me know how the ‘download my day’ works for you! 🌙💤 #toolkittip #toolkittips #katesilverton #bedtime #bedtimetalks #parentingbook #parentingtips #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #tnstan #connection
Changing the world doesn’t happen overnight or in isolation—it happens through collective effort, school by school, child by child. I’m humbled by the kind words shared about my work @juliasamuelmbe but the truth is, this is a journey we’re all on together. Whether we are parents, teachers , indeed, caring for children in any capacity every one of us has the power to create meaningful change when we focus on purpose and collaborate with heart. So let’s keep going—let’s inspire, empower, and work side by side to make a difference that lasts. #parenting #childcare #children #mentalhealth #theresnosuchthingasnaughty #ipreview via @preview.app
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better’🌱 #katesilverton #kate #parentingbook #parentingadvice #mayaangelou #growingchild #understandyourkids
Humour and play are the bridges that connect our hearts to our children’s. In laughter, we find understanding; in play, we discover love and build trust. Parenting is one of the toughest jobs – so don’t forget to cherish these moments—they’re the glue of memories that last a lifetime. #playtimewithourchildren #playtime #childtherapy #childbehavior #connection #parentingtips #parentingbook #parentingadvice #katesilverton
The Royal Foundation Centre for @earlychildhood is delighted to publish The Shaping Us Framework. The framework describes the social and emotional skills that start to develop in early childhood and are important throughout our lives. It aims to improve awareness of and knowledge about these skills to inform action, which can create a happier, healthier society. I am pleased to support this framework and feel incredibly proud to have been included in the @earlychildhood foundation structure. I look forward to sharing more with you in the coming weeks. #earlychildhood #shapingus #theshapingusframework #earlylearning #royalfoundation #theroyalfoundation #katesilverton
The Royal Foundation Centre for @earlychildhood is delighted to publish The Shaping Us Framework. The framework describes the social and emotional skills that start to develop in early childhood and are important throughout our lives. It aims to improve awareness of and knowledge about these skills to inform action, which can create a happier, healthier society. I am pleased to support this framework and feel incredibly proud to have been included in the @earlychildhood foundation structure. I look forward to sharing more with you in the coming weeks. #earlychildhood #shapingus #theshapingusframework #earlylearning #royalfoundation #theroyalfoundation #katesilverton